How to tell that she is NOT THAT INTO YOU

I rant like HELL. Yall know this. Been doing this since my message board days. I annoy people to NO END. I don't care though. The shyt I rant about needs to be heard. I'm on no holier than thou mess..nor do I try to tell people how to live their lives. But I do try and assist people in making better decisions and to be as happy as can be.

Most people just don't have a CLUE about life. They think they do. In particular, Men don't have a clue about todays woman. Gone are the days that women are dependent upon a man to care for them. Gone are the days that we feel we need to just take any man, cause having a bad man was better than having no man. We women can make our own money and take things to shops to get it fixed. That being said, we have the self esteem to pick and choose who we are compatible with. We are truly moving towards marrying someone we are going to be happy with, not just someone who will take care of our bills.

Still it seems, Men feel like we should still WANT to be with them no matter what. I recently wrote about men not taking rejection well from women. We would get called out of our names and what not. Accused of trying to "be like men" and what not.

Some men still don't get the subtle hints that it's not that serious, that we don't necessarily want to BE with you cause we kick it with you on occasion (Link). Just cause a woman shows some like towards you, doesn't mean she belongs to you. But in case some of you love struck men haven't figured it out, as always I am here to help. I mean I did help the ladies with warning signs signaling that he is not your man (Link)..I guess it's about time I hit you fellas up with some tips. (sorry ladies, fair is fair)

1. She only calls you when she wants something - this one is really simple. She may call you late night for some action, she may be bored and lonely at home and want some attention, or she may want her car washed. Whatever the case, if she is only calling you when she wants something..then she probably doesn't want to make you her man.

2. She takes and takes and takes and takes - nope..she always lets you pay. She will suggest you go out to eat, but when the bill comes, she looking around like she don't know what money is. She never offers to cook you a meal or anything. She always accepts every gift you give her, every generous gesture you make, but where is the reciprocity. Face it, she aint all that into you.

3. She cancels plans with you at the last minute - I mean..yall make plans to do something, and she calls you like 15 minutes prior and tells you she can't make it. Chances are, the guy she REALLY wants to hang with callled and she decided she would rather be with him.

4. You only see her sporadically - You might not see old girl but once every other week or something like that. Don't flatter yourself. If she really liked you she would want to spend more time with you. Coming over over one time and having sex with you doesn't mean that she wants to be your girl. (Some guys really think that)

5. She asks you to MEET her at the restaurant/bar - She wants to make sure the other potential men there knows that yall are just friends. A lady really interested in you will want you to court her properly by picking her up for a date. I remember this guy that I was causally talking to suggested we meet up. I told him where to meet me and also invited my cousin. I commenced to talking to not only him, but other guys as well. This fool told me "I can't go out with you no more" ..umm..NEGRO IT CLEARLY WAS NOT A DATE lol.

6. She doesn't get mad or emo when you don't call her for a few days - you may just think she is stress free ...nah dude..she just doesn't give a damn whether you ever call her again or not. Sure you are a cool dude, but if you don't call her for like 4 days or a week and she answers the phone cheery ..then umm..yeah she aint like you like that. Stop telling your boys she be on it cause she answers whenever you call..
7. She is taking it a little TOO SLOW - DUH NEGRO...thats cause she NEVER planned on giving you the booty in the first place. Look, if you have known her for a year, and she still aint so much as kiss you while drunk, she just is not attracted to your butt. Naw she aint just "A good girl". She just can't stomach you being all up on her like that. So what she flirts and makes sexual innuenndo, if she really liked you, you woulda got the coot in less than 6 months, she just stringing your egotistical ass along until she gets with someone she really likes.

8. She says "I ain't your girl" - Yall just had sexx or spent the day together. You ask her to do something simple like make you a sandwich or something or even pass you the remote. She hollers "I aint your girl". That doesn't mean she wishes you were her girl, she really just DON'T WANT TO BE YOUR GIRL. A woman who is trying to pursue you will run her butt to that kitchen and make a sandwich out of sugar and wonderbread, but if she in it for kicks, she will always throw out that "I aint your girl" card.

So fellas, please don't get salty and start texting the girls that exhibit this behavior "eff you" text messages. Don't get all in your chest talking about "Aint no way she don't want a man..she must be gay" or "She is just so messed up she is in denial". Nah honey, she may want a man..she just don't want your butt like that. She is using you in the meantime before she finds someone she REALLY likes. Don't take it personal. I mean, just don't get all pumped up too soon assuming that all women want to be with you...well..we don't. And no we aren't turning into me.

HOLLA