I know why you guys like "good girls"

Bottom line..cause men think that good girls are less likely to leave them and more likely to put up with their BS. A security blanket if I may say.

Now before you ladies and gents get to ranting on me, please hear me out first.

*DISCLAIMER* Good and bad girls can come from any background, make any amount of money, be educated or not, So don't make this a GHETTO GIRL vs BOUGIE GIRL argument please and thanks.

Good Girl: Cares what perception people have of her and what people think of her, doesn't want to seem freaky, doesn't go out much if at all, hangs on to her man's every word.

Bad Girl: Doesn't care what people think, does what she wants when she wants, very confident, doesn't need validation from men to know her worth.

I have wondered and wondered and wondered why some dudes wife up or make "lames" their girlfriends, then get around they mans and nem and get to complaining about how lame their woman is. Trust me, this happens more often than not.(not saying "bad" girls don't get wifed up)

My ex boyfriend was telling me about his boy. How he got married to a lame, he asked him why, his response, simply put "cause I know she won't do anything bad and I know she won't leave me. I don't have to worry about her doing anything".

By "bad" he meant, leave him for better another man. She'll be happy to stay home while he runs the streets. He'll have 100 percent of her trust because her man just wouldn't do that. She'll stick around no matter what. He won't have to worry about another man sweeping her off her feet because she'll be sitting at home anyway waiting on her prince to return.

Scenario: You go out with your girls once a week or twice a week, whatever..maybe every weekend. You meet a nice guy, first thing he want you to do after seeing eachother a while is what? Go ahead, I'll give you a minute. Ready...he will want you to STOP GOING OUT or go out very infrequently. But get this..HE DOESN'T STOP GOING OUT..or makes excuses as to why he "has" to go out with his boys *sigh*..I HATE IT!!!

Some men hide behind the guise that they like good girls cause "no man wants a woman thats out all the time" or some other bullshyt. But truly, what's the reason behind that other than "I don't want my woman out"..DUH..So there is less of a chance of their woman meeting another man and straight rolling out on their sorry ass. There is NO OTHER explanation other than that that I can come up with. If she goes out and is respecting you and not neglecting you, why are you tripping (key words here..not disrespecting you or neglecting you)? Every relationship I have been in, my dudes have tried their darnest to convince me that I shouldn't be going out AT ALL. My last boyfriend even admitted he was afraid that I would meet some other dude (cause he was obviously a terrible boyfriend), he even went as far as to say his next woman will have low self esteem. My ex husband didn't even want me engaging in conversations or debates when we were out with friends. Insecurity is the biggest motivation that men have for choosing the lame/good girl over the bad one.

Also, the good/lame girl stays home making it virtually impossible for her to see what her man is really doing out when he is with his "boys". Good girls are also very predictable. Men always know what good girls are doing so they are easier to control keep up with.

Now I know this isn't true for all men. Sure there are some good guys that match perfectly with these good girls, but most of the time, that's not the case in my experience.

Think about it. A girl with lots of confidence, who is fun, outgoing, social, has lots of friends and aquaintences will NOT put up with the BS that a dude will dish out. She won't NEED or DEPEND on a man for anything especially if he does her dirty. Oh she can and will be loyal and honest, but soon as you cross her SHE IS OUT. "Bad Girls" are harder to "tame" or "control". What average man wants a challenge? Isn't it a lot easier just to have that good girl sitting at home waiting on you and listening to your every lie word.

I am also making this observation because I have been the "other woman" on an occasion or two or more. I was always told how fun I am, exciting, how I make them laugh, how their woman never does that and how I am totally down to earth. Qualities that other men will LOVE about me. Qualities that make men insecure because I can have anyone I want. I no longer believe that I am not "wife material" because I am not a good girl. If anything, I am PERFECT wife material. But you better come correct or not at all cause I'm not taking NO MESS. Period. And..I know that scares off alot of guys.

Do I care, NOPE. I am going to continue being the "bad" girl. Yall can keep getting with those lames.

Holla.....