I just got off the phone with my cousin. She was on the bus where men were discussing marrige. One professional white man said "People don't get married in DC cause they dont have to" Wow what a thought.
As you all know, I follow alot of DC based blogs, by that I mean a lot of my fellow bloggers reside in the DMV. I noticed that most of these blogs are centered around relationships, dating, sex etc.
I know lots of dudes in DC with LOTS of options. So many so that they don't really settle down. Don't get it twisted, the ladies of DC can refuse a man for the little of BS that he may dish out. Cause here, there is always plenty of fish in the sea.
I want know get into this. What's really the reason young people in DC don't settle or get married? Oh sure, I know young people who are married, but they live in the South.
Maybe it our short attention span. There is alot to do here.
Maybe its our long work schedules and hours. Hey..yall know yall buppies famous for it.
Maybe its the sense of entitlement. You feel you are too good a catch.
Maybe because Washington DC is thee young professionals mecca (one of them anyway). Maybe this is the stop before everyone moves somewhere calmer and settles down.
Maybe its all in our heads, maybe there is a good amount of young singles living in DC that are settled and want to be settled.
I don't know, but there does seem to be a trend here.
So DMV folks..what say you?
HOLLA
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Men in DC, if they are fairly decent, have their pick and plenty of options. That makes the ladies have to up their game in order to not seem like all the the rest in the long run. Plus, it's a transient city. Although it has a lot of natives, the transplants make up much of it's night culture, so frequent hookups, one nighters, temporary relationships are far more convenient than being stuck in a ball and chain affair.
You imagine, we have the most educated population of people in the nation which means nothing but competition. Jobs, relationships and choice places to live all become one big pissing contest.
As far as the fellas like myself are concerned, I'm avoiding/prolonoging/notneventhinkinabout marriage because the risks out weight the rewards. Cost of living is already high, cost of divorce even higher. I'll let these churchy folks play in that sand.
SOLID points all! I dunno what it about this city. But i dont know if its different from any other city with a influx of young professionals. I wonder does ATL, Charlotte, Chicago also have these "issues"
@Cpt yeah yeah ..men in DC know they got it good *smh*...talk about whats wifey and whats not KNOWING they aint settling down LMFAO
@DC Bupps..good question..maybe other major cities are like that..perhaps someone outside of dc will respond
@Cpt yeah yeah ..men in DC know they got it good *smh*...talk about whats wifey and whats not KNOWING they aint settling down LMFAO
@DC Bupps..good question..maybe other major cities are like that..perhaps someone outside of dc will respond
I never really looked at the D.C area like that but now that you said something yeah it is like a singles mecca,but I still see hella people bunned up or looking too be bunned up..Far as men and women go it's all in the same cause women got just as much going on for themselves as men do probaly even more than most think,so they pick and choose just like the men do and some of the time it be the women who don't wanna be tied down cause they probaly been in a couple longterm "committed"relationships early in there lives and just want to live the single life for now,But as for ME having a wife would be a blessing but I don't have time to play all these tic for tac relationship games 'round these parts I'm trying to better my situation for me its either they with or against me vice versa on my end too.Like jay-z say "friend or foe state your biz"like I said I aint got time for all them mind games floating 'round,and I know you and any other female know how vicious women mind games can get at times lol.
Interesting viewpoint @Anonymous...most men around here think they have a better advantage than women. But I dont think thats the case either. Women got it goin on here so yes they can pick and choose as well.
Thanks for posting
Yes, but let's remember that there are more women whining about marriage and not being able to find a "man on their level." I had a woman who just hit 30 tell me she already plans on adopting and raising kids on her own because she doubts she'd find a husband. Now she's "got it going on" but her story is the same as the rest. She's so fabulous yet the one thing she wants (marriage) is as elusive as Big Foot.
I’ll be honest, in my single days when I would head down to DC, it was like a kid in a candy store. Lots of lovely ladies that just seemed eager to make my acquaintance.
Now that I’m a bit more established; married and with a family I still get that feeling. Not too long ago when I went down to DC to visit a college friend, the three of us (female friend, wife and myself) went to a fun little restaurant (I have no idea where). Anyway, I felt like a piece of meat in there. I swear, if I wasn’t already with two ladies, some of the ladies would have come and sat at the table with me.
Now I don’t know how it is being in DC full time but if the ladies are that “attentive” when a guy is with somebody then yeah, guys are going to be able to pick and choose at their leisure.
Also, seriously, where are the guys in DC? Not that I’m looking for them but I have never been anywhere in DC where guys weren’t outnumbered by the ladies by a noticeable margin.
women have options CPT, but they just think they can do better. Same as men. And yes you are right, they are more concerned with finding a husband and getting married than men are in finding a wife. They, like men, refuse to settle. The difference is..MEN DONT CARE, mainly cause yall dont really have a biological clock..
@Three ...the guys in DC be at Park Thursdays (LMFAO)...or in one of their womens' faces..or eachother's faces..HOLLA
I've heard from several men that this is the only city where they can date 'above their weight class'. I'm biased I supposed, but this city is overflowing with fabulous women so not too much incentive to settle down.
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@Three
If you're with another woman or married in D.C., you can pull more women than if you're single. That's just my observation. Women want what other ones have or what they can't have...so in D.C. if you're bunned up or with a woman, you will get all the attention in the world.
LMAO..now that is complete and utter BULLSHYT @CPT..seriously..they can pull women..but they cannot pull MORE WOMEN than the single ones....what world are you living in?
I remember when one of my frat brothers came to town and we hung out at H2O.
I remember he stayed on the dance floor. He told me later that night that all he did was ask a girl to dance, point at his wedding ring and say "I'm safe, I ain't trying to take you home".
Worked for him.
I think both sides are choosy. Men and women. Each side has their own sets of criteria that they use to gauge people. So, we all do, just different ways.
Married vs. Single: Hmmm. I purposely look at a perspective woman's hand before I even think of trying to talk to her. That's just me. I have thought, on occasion, to fake wearing a ring just to see if I did get more attention from women....
I agree that women will feel Safer around a married dude and will engage in conversation..but I dont think women are more likely to pursue that man because he is married over a dude that is single..like..seriously..COME ON
I didn't say they are more likely to pursue...but I'm trying to tell you as a single man that has had married friends...they can cheat soooo easily. I had a friend tell one chick when inquired about a ring "yeah I cheat." She still gave up the number. Plus...that ring doesn't necessarily tell a woman put on breaks. I've seen brothas get grilled about the ring and tell me the story the next day at what the woman did post-club.
Chicks like stability...and nothing says stability like a married man. Maybe I should have my boy who is married and has side pieces come on here and tell you straight from his mouth.
@Geeta..good point about men being able to date above their "level" here..that I find to be VERY TRUE. My bum ass ex boyfriend had some very decent girlfriends while he was here..we are all very VERY stupid lol
@CPT..I dont doubt they get play..never said that married men dont get play..but I dont believe they get more play than single dudes...and I dont agree that women prefer the married men. I posed this question on twitter, most agree that Married men are more confident and less of a threat. They dont have much to lose because they already have a lady at home, single men can be all scary acting...
"single men can be all scary acting..."
And the women in this city can be absolute horror shows so totally justified.
@CPT Callamity..*sigh*...nevermind..I'll just say I think you are full of excuses..its all good tho..
What excuses? Am I not a man who has had my fair share of dating and interactions with women? Can I not bring a man's perspective into this?
This doesn't really have anything to do with me or my track record. I'm just stating what I know and what I observe and putting it out there for the sake of discussion. But I digress...
Ms.True2me you and my man CPT Callamity might be the perfect match yall should try dating once that might be a interesting blog (just a thought)lol.
I wasn't going to say this, but it's interesting that a white man said that. I know tons of white couples who get married in DC (rather hear of a lot too, see it)
but less black couples
wow this post got the most comments I ever had..too bad half of them mind..FML
Anyway @DCDating..yup.. a white man said it..and I agree..I know more white ppl married than blacks *Shrugs*
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