BitchAssNess...Why are the men in this generation so..SCARY

I ranted yesterday on twitter about men not acting like men. This was following an argument I had at a local dive with a dude over a seat. I was sitting next to a dude I know when he comes over hating and asked me to move over. I said I really prefer my seat but if he needs one to take the empty chair next to me. He started calling me out my name, calling me a fake ass bitch blah blah blah. I called him a ugly screw face bastard. It got really ugly, I mean him threatening me with violence and what not. Eventually, the lady in me came back out and I pretty much let him go on and on arguing about what he was going to do me with himself. The most weird part was that I was there with a good guy friend (platonic) and he was just standing there like O_O. He said NOTHING to the dude. No, I didn't expect for him to fight ole boy or nothing, but just step in as a man and be like "my man..its not that serious.." or something ANYTHING. Instead, he hit me up the next day and said "Man, you didn't have to go on ole boy like that..if you would have just moved down for him he wouldn't have cussed you out"

*In the voice of scooby doo* ERRRUURRRHHH

I couldn't believe it. He was basically condoning ole boy's cussing me out. I was offended. Point blank, I thought it was a bit punkish.

This led to me creating a twit rant topic regarding bitch azz punk men. I got a few responses, but one really baffled me. Dude said that if he saw a woman getting beat by a man he would NOT assist.

*pause*

WOW...what kinda men are we breeding now. What kinda man would say he would just walk on by or keep walking if he saw a man kicking the living shyt out of a woman. (He also asked would I help a man if a woman was beating him..I know ..STUPID SHYT..FUCKTARD men and women are not = physically.....bet you same dude imposes wack double standards on women..but I digress with his azz there)

The same kind that breeds men who would watch a girl getting gang raped.

The same kind that breeds men that would stand by and watch another boy get jumped and beat to death.

The same kind that breeds men that would run a train on a vulnerable attention starved girl.

Have we become so much of a separatist society that we would truly stand by and watch people getting violated and assaulted and not do nothing? Not even call the police? NOTHING?

Are our men just becoming scarier and scarier, and if so, what are the reasons?

1. Lack of a strong male figure in the household? Women cannot raise men, sure they can do their best, but only a MAN can teach a boy how to be a MAN. I am starting to see the effects of not having a real man in a boys life. The effects BITCH AZZ MEN who run scared like women when in a hostile situation.

2. Could it be that men are moving away from the blue collar and more towards being more bougie the white collar? Yes I am talking about Black men because thats who I relate to, but this question can apply to anyone. Could it be that we are more used to being catered to, not really having to get down the nitty gritty of hard work and labor? Used to things just coming easy for us? We don't want to get our feet wet, our nose dirty, our suit wrinkled?

3. Perhaps our men are just too damn prissy. Getting pedicures and manicures. Used to be only little Richard wannabees would be all up in the nail and hair salon. Now you got grown as men getting their eyebrows tweezed. Perhaps they don't want to end up in a scuffle because they don't want to break a nail or mess up their pretty face.

I remember reading OneChelle's Blog, Black n' Bougie, and how she talked about needing a man for protection, well OneChelle, lemme tell ya, the way its looking, we are better off protecting ourselves. Cuz men nowadays are just as bitch made as the next one.

Oldie But Goodie - True2me's 10 types of men to avoid

I know yall done seen these lists several times over..WELL I'm doing my own..
I have encountered so many different types of dudes, and I can tell you what type of men make me want to chew nails over spending another minute with them.

1. pretentious asshole - This guy thinks he is God's gift to the world. Always ALWAYS in a suit, doesn't own timbs and doesn't drink cognac (he too good0. He puts down rap music and calls anything that he doesn't like "ghetto". Sure he has a nice house, great job, a benz and is handsome, but he is super wack cause he will expect you to cater to him and be perfect like he thinks he is. He will look in the mirror while screwing you and couldn't care less about your orgasm. Avoid him ladies


2. The Fake thug - lol..This is the guy that grew up in Waldorf, MD or some other suburban county in the area but acts like he is SOOO HARD. He always talks about how he was "slinging" and how he used to "hustle" and he is quick to argue with the police. Reality is he slang for like 2 minutes when he made a pass off for his cousin ray ray. He never even stepped foot in the hood. In fact, his cousins may be from the hood or his friends so he feels that gives him hood cred. Truth is, he will be far away from spit if it pops off. He uses excessive slang. He tries to further show his hood cred by wearing some ugly butt cross chain and urban gear like its going out of style. He is annoying at best and will trick you into thinking you getting that thug loving.


3. The MOOSLIM - This nucca been locked up for 3 months - 2 years and comes out with a kufi glued to his head and his koran in his right hand. He declares that pork is evil and tosses all pork and bacon out of your house. He walks around like he is better than everyone and knows more than everyone. He often farts cause of his damn veggie diet. He tells you that women dont do this and women dont do that, refuses to watch anything unless it is "educational" and denounces all "nigga behavior". He is annoying because he is always trying to tell you whats right and wrong and considers anyone who isn't muslim "lost". Hide your bacon when you meet him ladies, you get with this man, more than likely, he will expect you to always cover up and to cater to him like he is the king of the world.




4. The youngin - This mofo is only 23 years old (you 25+), he cute as SHIT and swears he can tear that azz up (he probably can). He doesn't work usually and he most likely lives at home. But he has a mean swagger, his cockiness turns you on and his buldge is looking pretty good in the gym shorts. He doesn't run when you tell him you are older, instead he licks his lips like LL and gives you that "I can handle it" look. He has a super nice ride (more than likely cause he lives with mom or he hustles). Beware of him, he will make you feel silly after he beds you



5. The Old guy who wants to be young - either he 40 w cornrows, or 42 and lies about his age. He dresses young, only wants to date/bed women in their 20's and is always at the college age clubs. He thinks he looks young but he really looks his complete age. His cornrows or locks are greying but he truly thinks he is sexy. He wil buy you drinks all night, but he is annoying cause he will hawk you. Dont try to make him ur man cause he thinks he is still 25.


6. The old guy - don't confuse him with the old guy who wants to be young, this guy accepts his age (40-55). He is gentle, nice, treats you with your food and/or drink. But..he won't last long in the bedroom. He just doesn't have the stamina, and he will only want it once a week. He can't do more than that. He will be annoyingly infatuated with you.



7. The Club whore - when I used to go to 1223 faithfully back in the day, there was this dude that was there all the time too, a couple of my friends had lame sex with him. Well, I still see him out there in love and what not scouting for coochie. He is fione as hell, sexy and appears to be so into you. Then he beds you, gives you the lamest sex ever, then moves on the next target, acting like he barely knows you next week at republic gardens. Funny story, a girlfriend and me discovered we knew the same club whore...lol..go figure. She loved him tho...I was like :-

8. The thirsty nigga - Ladies you know him, he will NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER. He is usually not attractive, cheap and drunk as hell already. You tell him no, he pulls ur arm. He follows you around the club or bar or cusses you out after you refuse him. Try to let him down easy so he dont make a scene and please dont let him buy u a drink, this cheapo will think he owns you for the night.



9. The hot Bartender - he's cute, he hooks you up with your 1st drink and ...umm..he's sexy. Truth is, he just wants your money, he not interested in you really like that. Its his job to flirt. Sure he may take ur number and call you, but you are only booty to him. His schedule doesn't permit him to be serious, besides, why would he want to be, he is surrounded everyday by beautiful women. Dont fall for him ladies, he's not that into you. Tip him well and he'll keep hooking you up tho.


10. The Great Guy!!! - GIRL , this is the one you beware of the most. He is cute, charming, takes you out, buys you things, wants you to move in, wants to marry you, ALL IN THE FIRST COUPLE OF MONTHS....then, the controlling starts, or you start seeing weird numbers on his phone, or he starts disappearing for days at a time. You hang in there cause he was SOOOO Good at first, well, THATS HOW HE GETS YOU...He then strings you along for another 5 damn years while juggling 3 other women or your find out he sooo damn crazy he was once committed. beware of a guy thats too damn perfect in the beginning, NO SANE GUY WOULD BE THAT SMITTEN IN THE FIRST 2 WEEKS, infatuated..yea, but wanted to buy you things and marry you, INSANE.

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I know why you guys like "good girls"

Bottom line..cause men think that good girls are less likely to leave them and more likely to put up with their BS. A security blanket if I may say.

Now before you ladies and gents get to ranting on me, please hear me out first.

*DISCLAIMER* Good and bad girls can come from any background, make any amount of money, be educated or not, So don't make this a GHETTO GIRL vs BOUGIE GIRL argument please and thanks.

Good Girl: Cares what perception people have of her and what people think of her, doesn't want to seem freaky, doesn't go out much if at all, hangs on to her man's every word.

Bad Girl: Doesn't care what people think, does what she wants when she wants, very confident, doesn't need validation from men to know her worth.

I have wondered and wondered and wondered why some dudes wife up or make "lames" their girlfriends, then get around they mans and nem and get to complaining about how lame their woman is. Trust me, this happens more often than not.(not saying "bad" girls don't get wifed up)

My ex boyfriend was telling me about his boy. How he got married to a lame, he asked him why, his response, simply put "cause I know she won't do anything bad and I know she won't leave me. I don't have to worry about her doing anything".

By "bad" he meant, leave him for better another man. She'll be happy to stay home while he runs the streets. He'll have 100 percent of her trust because her man just wouldn't do that. She'll stick around no matter what. He won't have to worry about another man sweeping her off her feet because she'll be sitting at home anyway waiting on her prince to return.

Scenario: You go out with your girls once a week or twice a week, whatever..maybe every weekend. You meet a nice guy, first thing he want you to do after seeing eachother a while is what? Go ahead, I'll give you a minute. Ready...he will want you to STOP GOING OUT or go out very infrequently. But get this..HE DOESN'T STOP GOING OUT..or makes excuses as to why he "has" to go out with his boys *sigh*..I HATE IT!!!

Some men hide behind the guise that they like good girls cause "no man wants a woman thats out all the time" or some other bullshyt. But truly, what's the reason behind that other than "I don't want my woman out"..DUH..So there is less of a chance of their woman meeting another man and straight rolling out on their sorry ass. There is NO OTHER explanation other than that that I can come up with. If she goes out and is respecting you and not neglecting you, why are you tripping (key words here..not disrespecting you or neglecting you)? Every relationship I have been in, my dudes have tried their darnest to convince me that I shouldn't be going out AT ALL. My last boyfriend even admitted he was afraid that I would meet some other dude (cause he was obviously a terrible boyfriend), he even went as far as to say his next woman will have low self esteem. My ex husband didn't even want me engaging in conversations or debates when we were out with friends. Insecurity is the biggest motivation that men have for choosing the lame/good girl over the bad one.

Also, the good/lame girl stays home making it virtually impossible for her to see what her man is really doing out when he is with his "boys". Good girls are also very predictable. Men always know what good girls are doing so they are easier to control keep up with.

Now I know this isn't true for all men. Sure there are some good guys that match perfectly with these good girls, but most of the time, that's not the case in my experience.

Think about it. A girl with lots of confidence, who is fun, outgoing, social, has lots of friends and aquaintences will NOT put up with the BS that a dude will dish out. She won't NEED or DEPEND on a man for anything especially if he does her dirty. Oh she can and will be loyal and honest, but soon as you cross her SHE IS OUT. "Bad Girls" are harder to "tame" or "control". What average man wants a challenge? Isn't it a lot easier just to have that good girl sitting at home waiting on you and listening to your every lie word.

I am also making this observation because I have been the "other woman" on an occasion or two or more. I was always told how fun I am, exciting, how I make them laugh, how their woman never does that and how I am totally down to earth. Qualities that other men will LOVE about me. Qualities that make men insecure because I can have anyone I want. I no longer believe that I am not "wife material" because I am not a good girl. If anything, I am PERFECT wife material. But you better come correct or not at all cause I'm not taking NO MESS. Period. And..I know that scares off alot of guys.

Do I care, NOPE. I am going to continue being the "bad" girl. Yall can keep getting with those lames.

Holla.....

The Park At Fourteenth, Friday Randoms..FML

Yesterday I was not supposed to go out. I was supposed to go home, cook and rest. I was supposed to find some bullshyt on tv, watch it and fall asleep.

But Nooooooooooooooooo

My ass is really SUPER DEE DUPER HARD THE FUCK HEADED ...

First I went to the best happy hour in the city - LAUGHING MAN TAVERN..I'm sorry certain people don't want me to tell everyone..but I LOVE THAT PLACE. Its consistent..and has a long happy hour. 3 - 8 pm..can't beat that, with drinks under $5 and apps too..LOVE IT. Thursdays is $4 dollar Smirnoff Martini Night...I had 2 strong ones..then get hit up by my girl talkin bout "WE GOIN TO PARK". Now who am I, Ms LIFE OF THE PARTY to miss a PARTY..FML. (plus she put a gun to my head..hahaha)

After ditching the guy who bought my last two drinks (yes..I know I said I had 2 ..but I really had 4..and yes I really ran out the bar when he went to pee cause I didn't want him cramping my style at Park at 14th , plus he was married) I made my way to Park..and JUST IN TIME to see Pooch Hall, Lance Gross, Melyssa Ford and Wesley Jonathon leaving (hmm...maybe that's not good advertising). Surprisingly Pooch is taller and cuter than I thought he would be, Lance gross is even more sexually chocolate than I thought he would be, Wesley is shorter than I thought..and Melyssa Ford is pretty, but tiny herself.....yup..I got my spot on...but I'm not that much of a groupie folks..so no pics..celeb chasing aint really my thing yet .

Ladies and Gentlemen, Howard Homecoming is officially going to be off the chain. I arrived at Park at 10 pm...and the line was BANANAS..I'm not talking regular grocery store bananas. I'm talking about imported from the amazon jungle bananas..OMFG. AT 10 PM....WTF..I HATED IT...

I had a ball inside tho...Ninjas was looking at me crazy cause they never seen someone so pretty dance so hard and STILL look sexy as a mofo in a ghetto girl with wild curly hair kinda way.

Don't know if I will be able to make it out tonite...but..I'll keep you posted..follow me on twitter @true2me1..

Holla

Why can't you find love on Twitter?

Hello All,

As we can all see, our society is steadily moving faster and faster towards the digital age. With that comes newer forms of communication. We have plenty of ways to talk to people, contact them, even meet them. There has never been a better way to get reaquainted with your classmates from elementary school than Facebook. There has never been a better way to post your random bullshyt than on Twitter. Shoot..I have friends that met their significant others on message boards. Now that we have Twitter, Facebook and Gawd knows what else, I ask, WHY CAN'T WE FIND LOVE FROM THESE COMMUNICATION APPLICATIONS.

People still rag on meeting girls/guys on twitter, facebook, myspace and even blackplanet. I remember when people were meeting other people from chatrooms and message boards and were getting looked at all kinds of crazy. Now with the emergence of other new applications, it's only fair to assume that people will still be getting hooked up from all the various sites out there.

Why then is it so outlandish to actually grow a liking to someone based off twitter or facebook or anything like that. I mean if you spend alot of time on there as I do, people will know your personality from your font. One of the main arguments people have against hooking up meeting people on the communication app sites is "People lie on twitter, facebook"...umm...PEOPLE LIE IN REAL LIFE TOO. Otherwise we woudln't need dontdatehimgirl.com and justdontwifeher.com. The other argument of course is "People act different on those sites as they do in real life". This may be true, but think about it. Without the pressure of being face to face, you will get more out of a person and more of their thoughts because they can hide behind the keyboard. You are also getting their up to the minute thoughts..some shyt that would not have been said out loud. Shoot, look at all the celebs that are so regular to us now cause of their twitter accounts. So in essence you ARE getting the real them on twitter and facebook as opposed to in person. The other argument is "What if they don't look like their picture?" MOFO YOU DONT EVEN LOOK LIKE YOUR PICTURE. They may actually look better in person. Shyt, I think twitter or facebook may make you LESS shallow. You can like their personality first, meet them in person, and be even more attracted to them despite the fact that they look like they have down syndrome.

So I say GO FOR IT. If you like someone from facebook, twitter, and God forbid even BLACK PLANET. Hit them up. Ask them out. Meet them in person. You never know what could be in store for you. Shyt, at least you may have some good sex or get a hook up, a free drink or even just a shout out...like this one:

HOLLA

*anyone besides myself got a hook up from facebook or twitter ? *

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How to tell that she is NOT THAT INTO YOU

I rant like HELL. Yall know this. Been doing this since my message board days. I annoy people to NO END. I don't care though. The shyt I rant about needs to be heard. I'm on no holier than thou mess..nor do I try to tell people how to live their lives. But I do try and assist people in making better decisions and to be as happy as can be.

Most people just don't have a CLUE about life. They think they do. In particular, Men don't have a clue about todays woman. Gone are the days that women are dependent upon a man to care for them. Gone are the days that we feel we need to just take any man, cause having a bad man was better than having no man. We women can make our own money and take things to shops to get it fixed. That being said, we have the self esteem to pick and choose who we are compatible with. We are truly moving towards marrying someone we are going to be happy with, not just someone who will take care of our bills.

Still it seems, Men feel like we should still WANT to be with them no matter what. I recently wrote about men not taking rejection well from women. We would get called out of our names and what not. Accused of trying to "be like men" and what not.

Some men still don't get the subtle hints that it's not that serious, that we don't necessarily want to BE with you cause we kick it with you on occasion (Link). Just cause a woman shows some like towards you, doesn't mean she belongs to you. But in case some of you love struck men haven't figured it out, as always I am here to help. I mean I did help the ladies with warning signs signaling that he is not your man (Link)..I guess it's about time I hit you fellas up with some tips. (sorry ladies, fair is fair)

1. She only calls you when she wants something - this one is really simple. She may call you late night for some action, she may be bored and lonely at home and want some attention, or she may want her car washed. Whatever the case, if she is only calling you when she wants something..then she probably doesn't want to make you her man.

2. She takes and takes and takes and takes - nope..she always lets you pay. She will suggest you go out to eat, but when the bill comes, she looking around like she don't know what money is. She never offers to cook you a meal or anything. She always accepts every gift you give her, every generous gesture you make, but where is the reciprocity. Face it, she aint all that into you.

3. She cancels plans with you at the last minute - I mean..yall make plans to do something, and she calls you like 15 minutes prior and tells you she can't make it. Chances are, the guy she REALLY wants to hang with callled and she decided she would rather be with him.

4. You only see her sporadically - You might not see old girl but once every other week or something like that. Don't flatter yourself. If she really liked you she would want to spend more time with you. Coming over over one time and having sex with you doesn't mean that she wants to be your girl. (Some guys really think that)

5. She asks you to MEET her at the restaurant/bar - She wants to make sure the other potential men there knows that yall are just friends. A lady really interested in you will want you to court her properly by picking her up for a date. I remember this guy that I was causally talking to suggested we meet up. I told him where to meet me and also invited my cousin. I commenced to talking to not only him, but other guys as well. This fool told me "I can't go out with you no more" ..umm..NEGRO IT CLEARLY WAS NOT A DATE lol.

6. She doesn't get mad or emo when you don't call her for a few days - you may just think she is stress free ...nah dude..she just doesn't give a damn whether you ever call her again or not. Sure you are a cool dude, but if you don't call her for like 4 days or a week and she answers the phone cheery ..then umm..yeah she aint like you like that. Stop telling your boys she be on it cause she answers whenever you call..
7. She is taking it a little TOO SLOW - DUH NEGRO...thats cause she NEVER planned on giving you the booty in the first place. Look, if you have known her for a year, and she still aint so much as kiss you while drunk, she just is not attracted to your butt. Naw she aint just "A good girl". She just can't stomach you being all up on her like that. So what she flirts and makes sexual innuenndo, if she really liked you, you woulda got the coot in less than 6 months, she just stringing your egotistical ass along until she gets with someone she really likes.

8. She says "I ain't your girl" - Yall just had sexx or spent the day together. You ask her to do something simple like make you a sandwich or something or even pass you the remote. She hollers "I aint your girl". That doesn't mean she wishes you were her girl, she really just DON'T WANT TO BE YOUR GIRL. A woman who is trying to pursue you will run her butt to that kitchen and make a sandwich out of sugar and wonderbread, but if she in it for kicks, she will always throw out that "I aint your girl" card.

So fellas, please don't get salty and start texting the girls that exhibit this behavior "eff you" text messages. Don't get all in your chest talking about "Aint no way she don't want a man..she must be gay" or "She is just so messed up she is in denial". Nah honey, she may want a man..she just don't want your butt like that. She is using you in the meantime before she finds someone she REALLY likes. Don't take it personal. I mean, just don't get all pumped up too soon assuming that all women want to be with you...well..we don't. And no we aren't turning into me.

HOLLA

Meet GEETA from www.50dates.wordpress.com

Good Afternoon Blog Fam,

As you know, Washington DC is known for being a big mixing bowl. We have plenty of professional singles here from all over the country and world. Out of all the cultures and diversity we have here, there seems to be something that is common across the board to Single professionals in DC, WE ARE REMAINING SINGLE.

Meet Geeta, yet another person residing in DC with both enlightening and disappointing experiences with dating in the Chocolate City. Her blog will be different from the most as she has decided to give her dating experience both a time frame and a number of men she will date. This DEFINITELY makes for an interesting read. Read her own personal introduction and BE SURE to remain posted on her dating experiences via her blog, http://www.50dates.wordpress.com/:

I have been a DC resident for almost 15 years, which means I've suffered the slings and arrows of outrageous dating misfortune for ages. I recently started a blog called 50 Dates chronicling my experiment to find love within six degrees of separation. I've asked my friends to find me 50 straight and single men to have a date within the next 12 months. I invite you to check it out. I hope it provides a laugh or two. 

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Is DC the perfect place for hooks ups, flings and casual relationships

I just got off the phone with my cousin. She was on the bus where men were discussing marrige. One professional white man said "People don't get married in DC cause they dont have to" Wow what a thought.

As you all know, I follow alot of DC based blogs, by that I mean a lot of my fellow bloggers reside in the DMV. I noticed that most of these blogs are centered around relationships, dating, sex etc.

I know lots of  dudes in DC with LOTS of options. So many so that they don't really settle down. Don't get it twisted, the ladies of DC can refuse a man for the little of BS that he may dish out. Cause here, there is always plenty of fish in the sea.

I want know get into this. What's really the reason young people in DC don't settle or get married? Oh sure, I know young people who are married, but they live in the South.

Maybe it our short attention span. There is alot to do here.

Maybe its our long work schedules and hours. Hey..yall know yall buppies famous for it.

Maybe its the sense of entitlement. You feel you are too good a catch.

Maybe because Washington DC is thee young professionals mecca (one of them anyway). Maybe this is the stop before everyone moves somewhere calmer and settles down.

Maybe its all in our heads, maybe there is a good amount of young singles living in DC that are settled and want to be settled.

I don't know, but there does seem to be a trend here.

So DMV folks..what say you?

HOLLA

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Thursday Randoms

Why the hell is FAMU protesting GUCCI MANE not being able to perform at their homecoming. He can't perform due to house arrest...them kids need to go  read a BOOK some damn where..they protesting the WRONG DAMN THING (click link for more info Gucci Mane Protest)

My damn train comes and leaves whenever the hell it feels like it. It normally comes at 8:40....so why did I see it leaving the damn station at 8:38 while I was running for it...THE HELL. The other train took 4 extra minutes to come..that could make someone 4 minutes late for work..yeah I should get up early..but the trains should come AS SCHEDULED TOO..I HATE IT.

I really need to find me some kinda hippie man or something to kick it with. I can't deal with these homophobic, wanna be anglosaxonish, oppressive fake uplifting, bougie, buppie arse dudes. I CAN'T DEAL W IT. I'd rather date someone from the hood..I know...but at least they are down to earth and more accepting of how people are..UGH...STUCK UP MOFOS. (yes this is about the Morehouse dresscode debate. FYI..making a GAY MAN wear "Straight man" clothes doesn't make him STRAIGHT, I bet some of you men still think you can BEAT The gay off your son...)

My building has not turned the heat on yet..I had to sleep in a DAMN COCOON..WTF..I think I'm a butterfly today...FML

Anyway..Happy Thursday Loves.

Men DO NOT take rejection well AT ALL

In my 30 years of living, I have rarely if ever had a guy I have maybe gone out on a date with once or twice understand that I am not interested in pursuing anything further.

Call it the male ego..call it WHATEVER.

I have tried being brutally honest to letting down easy.

I am usually ALWAYS bombarded with "why" questions or called out my name or told I wasn't all that.

Here is a public service announcement men

*clears throat*

WE WOMEN ARE NOT ALWAYS BEASTING FOR YOUR ATTENTION

ahhhhhhh that felt better

Seriously.

WE ARE NOT THAT HARD UP ON GAINING THE AFFECTION OF A MAN.

I dont care what the man looks like, acts like, does for a living or how much money he has or doesn't have.

Men just seem to think that we should be BEASTING for them. If we aren't we get called out our name.

I dont have to jump every single time you call me to go out. I dont have to want to be with you every time you ask me to. I dont have to run at the chance of wanting to hang out. I can like you without wanting a damn relationship. I can like you without BEASTING for your attention.

No I dont have to call you first cause I'm the girl and you used to women chasing you. No it doesn't mean that just because I didn't call you back right away or didn't talk to you in 2 days that you did something wrong.

I just means that I am not THAT INTO YOU...Perhaps You can't grasp that.

It means I'm not feeling you THAT MUCH. Believe it or not..women are not always BEASTING for the affection of a man

Again, no I am not dilusional nor am I trying to "act like a man".

You are not ALL THAT to me..and I don't have to be waiting by the phone to hear from you for us to kick it occasionally.

Men please recognize that automatically being a MAN doesn't make us women just naturally want you. We aren't that desperate. Please accept that and move on as you expect us women to do when you dont always call us back or always show us interest. That mess can and DOES go both ways. ..TRULY IT DOES.

Sometimes SHE is just not that into YOU.

PERIOD. END.OF.STORY.

LMAO JUNK YARD HEE HAW WTF

New Music from Wale and Pharrell

Yall KNOW I love me some PHARRELL (P. Williams HOLLA)

Check out this new Wale and Pharrell joint

http://kysdc.com/new-music-from-wale-pharrell-lose-your-inhibitions/

Peace Rally Last night with DJ Quicksilva from 93.9 and Peaceoholics

Good Morning All,

YALL KNOW DC PEOPLE HATE SENSELESS VIOLENCE AND CRIME

There were 80 shootings in DC since August 1st..that is CRAZY. And that SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING. To top it off..5 of those shootings occured yesterday in Clay Terrace NE, resulting in 2 deaths.


Most of you know by now that I grew up in Washington DC. Born, raised and educated through college. I grew up in one of the worst neighborhoods at the time in SE DC.  Throughout my life I have seen lots of violence and crime. It was difficult as a young nerdy girl to get through school without engaging in at least ONE FIGHT. I did fight, but I also made it through. I got an education and got a decent job and now I'm currently working on my career of writing.

Yesterday while on twitter, DJ. Quicksilva from 93.9 WKYS (@DJQUICKSILVA on twitter) posted an update about a peace rally being held at SE Baptist Tabernacle Church. I was tired from a long day at work and wanted nothing more than to go home and get into my bed and watch TV. However, I got butterflies in my stomach, urging me not to go straight home. The church was litterally around the corner from where I reside and it would have been a shame that I didn't at least poke my head in. I decided to go to the rally. I'm glad I did. It was nice to see so many people really caring about the senseless violence in the city. There was a good turnout of adults and children, each voicing their concerns and solutions to problems.

The rally was partly headed by the Peaceoholics, a non for profit organization geered towards helping the youth and families of DC avoid crime and violence and become successful. The organization was founded by Jauhar Abraham and Ronald Moten (who by the way has a write up in last weeks Washington CityPaper). There were other non profit organizations in attendance as well.

I must say attending the rally encouraged me to be more proactive in helping the city's youth find other ways to fell good about themselves other than winning a fight. There are plenty of programs out there that we can all be a part of. You can also do you part by just talking to youth or letting them know you care.

For more information about the Peaceoholics visit http://www.peaceoholics.org/.

Why yall so mad at the New Ms. Hampton? Seriously?

*image provided by Daily Press*

I had to hear some of my favorite tweeters holla and rant and be mad about the newest crowned Ms. Hampton University. She makes history as the first non-black to win the crown (click the link for more info LINK

There has been plenty of blacklash (yall like my play on words) on the college beauty being non black and being crowned by a HBCU.

I understand that the history of Hampton has been to give young black students a chance at a decent education when we weren't allowed to attend university with our white student counterparts. I understand that it is/has always a majorily black college. I understand that some of us want to preserve the old tradition of this college being OUR OWN. I understand that..but..

How are we ever going to progress if we still want to be separated. Segregation was abolished. We cannot pick and choose where we want intergration and segregation. If we are to be an intergrated society, we have to be intergrated EVERYWHERE, INCLUDING HBCU's. We can't just be all like "Well I'm Black and I deserve to be where White people are" but then turn around and say "Oh no they didn't, she not allowed cause she is black"..that is the exact definition of hypocrisy.

Don't fret my friends, Hampton will ALWAYS BE (watch for the key word here) A HISTORICALLY BLACK UNIVERSITY. HISTORICALLY we know that this university was meant for BLACKS. That won't change.

Bottom line is, yall fighting this crowning like white people fought The Little Rock Nine when they wanted to be bused to a better school. Yall fighting this crowning like white baseball players and team owners fought Jackie Robinson. Yall fighting this New Non-Black Ms. Hampton like Whites fought us to keep us Black Americans from having a vote. That makes you no better than our former White oppresors.

I embrace her crown. She pays her tuition to attend. She worked hard for her goals. She was voted to win by her "peers". She deserves it JUST AS MUCH AS if not more than some of her Black Peers.

Stop the hate and embrace EVERYTHING. I personally don't want to continue to live in a segregated society. Its just not realistic. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that some of you so called enlighted Black Americans still feel the need for separation ANYWHERE.

what to do tonite - tuesday 10/13

You can go to Bohemian Caverns tonite for Happy Hour, My boy DJ Jav will be spinning

There is a DCTweet UP at Jin - Happy Hour specials include 5 dollar drinks and Apps.

Late night you can hit up EYE BAR w DJ Alizay, DJ Analyze and DJ Gifted son.

Thats all I got for now

BLOG POST OF THE DAY..I LOVE IT

The Ranting Mommy - Really? You have a problem with MY happy hour drinks

Awesome vent/post...Thanks for this..needed to be said

In case you didn't know..famous people from the DMV

Comedian Dave Chappelle

Singer Raheem Devaughn

Artist Crystal Waters

Singer Ginwine

Reggae Artist Edley Shine

Comedian Tommy Davidson

Comedian Martin Lawrence

Singer Marvin Gaye

Actress Taraji Henson

Singer Johnny Gill

Actor Clifton Powell























Recording Artist Wale
























Recording Artist Tabi Bonney
































Actor Jeffery Wright

Actor Laz Alonzo

Actor Samuel L. Jackson

Actress Nona Gaye




























Actress Regina Hall





























Fashion Consultant and TV Personality Tim Gunn (from {Project Runway)

Singer Stacy Lattisaw

Singer/Actress Mya





















Singer/Actress Christina Milian

Singer JC Chasez (Formerly from 'Nsync)


Did I miss anyone..Probably did.

Tuesday Randoms

Check out my boy DJ Jav spinning at Happy Hour tonite at Bohemian Caverns.

This lady SOOO blocked the left walking side of the train. She must didn't know any better..and still wouldn't move when asked.

Another train complaint, why when you know your stop is coming, would you sit in the middle seat on a crowded train. Now we gotta part like the Red Sea to let your arse out.

I seriously have to warsh my hair every 3 days..or else its just ..itchy..FML. Naturally curly the rest of the week it is.

I need clothes..tired of the old ones....but I gotta save and pay bills *sigh*

My son is super smart..I can leave the room and he can tell me a play by play of football..he is only 9..self taught too

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Ibiza Fridays With 93.9 WKYS

Good Tuesday Morning all,

Sorry I didn't get a post to you sooner, I was chillaxing from my fun filled weekend. It started Thursday and ended Sunday night :).

Thursday I went to one of my favorite spots in the city, Ben's Next Door, in honor of the Founder of Ben's Chili Bowl, Ben Ali. The food as usual is great, the atmosphere, grown and sexy and the music selection, chill. Its always good to get up with my friends. That place really feels like home.

Friday, there was SOOO MUCH to do around the city. I mean it was a 3 day weekend. Out of all the venues popping off, I think my girls and I picked the best place. IBIZA! . Hosted by EZ Street from 93.9 WKYS. We were one of the first few people to arrive there and let me tell you, Ibiza is always ALWAYS ready to party. I didn't stop partying from open till close. A couple of my favorite DJs were doing the music, DJ Gemini and DJ Quicksilva (no wonder I couldn't stop the darn dancing all night) . The cast from the movie Jazz in the Diamond District were there which included Wood Harris and Clifton Powell.

The highlight of my evening at Ibiza tho was when they allowed the DC Native, Clifton Powell to say some emotional words. There was silence all over Ibiza as Clifton told his story of growing up in Washington, DC to the success he has achieved now as an actor. He got really in his chest and began to literally cry. I mean, we were shocked, not PINKY. lol. But on the real, I can relate to Mr. Powell and I think it was an honorary thing to do to get up there like that and tell his story. I hope he inspires someone.

Sunday night my girls and I went to Park and again hung out with 9.39 WKYS and DJ Quicksilva. (I guess Park regulars, shout out to those who are hating on our celebrity hee hee). When we first arrived I noticed a lot of really skinny girls there, then I saw a rack of dudes who looked like they had been hanging outside all day. Then when I saw 2 dudes with BOOK BAGS ON their backs (faux Louis and faux Gucci to be exact)..I decided to ask the bouncer and YUP..IT WAS 18 and OVER NIGHT..AAAAAAAAAH..Wake me from this NIGHTMARE (I felt so OLD) . We decided to move back to the first floor where the kiddies were not really hanging. That felt better. We got our dance on, got our stand around on and even heard some old school hip hop...at one moment I was hopping around and trying to throw bows. lol

All in all I had a wonderful weekend hanging with my fam, friends, watching the Skins Lose (but I'm still a fan..HOLLA) and chillaxin.

I have another great week and weekend coming up.

Thanks for ALL THE LOVE

True

The word COON is FIRED!!

A coon is a black actor or actress, who takes roles that stereotypically portrays black people. They think they've made it but they are slaves to the same images. A.k.a sellout It comes from the term baracoons (a cage), where they used to place Africans, who were waiting to be sent to America to be slaves. They had no idea of this, so some of them were even eager waiting in the baracoons. (source urban dictionary)


Dear Coon,

Your services are no longer needed. For years you have been our first choice when describing black folk when they are acting stereotypical according to what white people say. See, we didn't want our people to act different from white when we decided to start using the word. We didn't want black folk to act like they normally do from a culture of ignorance forced on us. We didn't want blacks to be typecast and placed in roles they can relate to because those were the only roles we were allowed to play in real and fake life. We know that using you COON is not helping anyone with anything. It did not get a replacement position like words such as N*gga and B*tch. So we have to let you go.


We don't like the truth about ourselves. So whenever someone black reminds you of where we came from, where we were, how we were portrayed and the stereotypes place on us, we got mad. We were mad that we came from such a background. We were ashamed that our grandmothers cleaned kitchens to feed us. We are ashamed that we could dance and be more entertaining than whites. We were ashamed that previously were were only left to be slaves and house mams and used broken English.

We are using this word even today to still describe black folks who are still acting stereotypically. COON, you were used to describe Flavor Flav, BET Reality shows, Even the most recent CLEVELAND SHOW.


Well COON, I'm here to tell you that we will no longer need your services. We have decided that we are no longer going to be ashamed of where we came from. We are no longer going to judge other blacks for not having as much advantage as other blacks. We will embrace that we are loud, silly and funny and that's okay. We will embrace that we can be better at sports that some other cultures. We embrace that we love chicken and watermelon as much as Hispanics love rice and beans, Asians and their rice, East Indians their spicy food. We will embrace that we are not the only culture or nationality that has stereotypes. We will no longer need you COON to ridicule our brethren and make them embarrassed about certain characteristic traits that Black folk have been accused of having, whether learned or it being just in our DNA. We know that we are all not Lazy, Stupid, Ignorant and other things that Blacks have been described as being.

We will be replacing you with other words such as BUFFOON, IDIOT, STUPID, IGNORANT, CRAZY, SILLY, GOOFY, IMMATURE. We will no longer single out ONLY "ignorant" behavior that Black folk exhibit because everyone does it. We will start pointing out all silly behavior because silliness and goofiness is done across all cultures.
We also accept that it's okay sometimes to do things that fit your culture as a black person. Why be ashamed of it? No other culture appears to be.

We don't need White's approval of our behavior anymore.

Thank you

*PS, you are NO LONGER allowed on the premises of any black person's mouth. If you are seen there, you will be called out and removed immediately.

Sincerely,

2009 Black folks tired of the self on self hate

*originally written by True2me aka Patrice Williams*

Founder of a DC ICON Passes - Ben Ali

Ben?s Chili Bowl owner dies - Washington Business Journal:

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YALL KNOW HOW MUCH DC LOVES BEN's CHILI BOWL

Ben Ali, founder of the iconic U Street restaurant Ben’s Chili Bowl, died Wednesday evening. He was 82.

Ali, a native of Trinidad, opened Ben’s Chili Bowl with his wife, Virginia, in 1958. The spot has been known for, among other things, being a date night place for comedian Bill Cosby and his wife, and being the only U Street business to last through the 1968 riots. The restaurant is famous for its chili and half-smokes, the latter considered by some to be D.C.’s signature dish.

The restaurant is now run by Ali’s sons, Kamal and Nizam.

In a statement on the restaurant’s Web site, the family said they “want to thank Ben Ali for leading this legacy and allowing us to follow in his dream. We miss you and love you.”

Councilman Kwame Brown, D-At-large, sent out a statement Thursday morning saying Ali was a family friend and inspiration.

“Through the best times and the worst times in our city’s history, Ben was eternally optimistic,” Brown said. “Ben was a civil rights pioneer and the embodiment of entrepreneurial spirit.”

The restaurant expanded last year, adding a more upscale component, Ben’s Next Door. It got a boost of business when President Barack Obama made a visit in January.

The DUMBEST TATTOOS

This post was inspired by some of the BS I see on the train this morning and a lot of stuff I see over on youknowyoudeadazzwrong.com. Don't get me wrong, I see lot's of BS. But this morning I zeroed in on some stupid body art. TATTOOS.

Tattoos seem to be for urban youth a rite of passage. It's like you haven't proven what type of super teenager you are or you haven't proven your urban adult status until you get a tattoo.

Oh these decisions aren't really thought out. NOOO, any tattoo will do. Some are okay, some are pretty, but some are just PLAIN DUMB. Here are my list of FAVORITE DUMB TATTOOS

1. Your own name - what an asinine tattoo. Do you think you would FORGET your name if you didn't tattoo it on your body. (shout out to my girl who hates hers now lol )

2. A tattoo on your NECK - Do you WANT to look like you did time in prison. The hell is wrong with you. Sure it seems like a cool idea and may even make you appear thuggish. But you won't be a thug forever. Eventually you may have to go on a job interview. And sadly, corporate society still views tattoos as unsightly and distracting.
























3. Religious Jargon - Umm..doesn't it say in the bible that thou shall not tattoo or something like that. I know there is a verse that says that you shouldn't mark your body up. Isn't it kinda ass backwards to put a cross or scripture there *smh*. I mean, you are a gang banger, why are you trying to show your religion????





















4. Breast Tattoos - do you want to look like a skank? I guess so if you have a tat all up on your tiddies ..UGH. Why would you ruin those perfectly good tiddies by putting an ugly stained rose on them. I know you think its sexy, but its not. If you don't already have sex appeal, a tiddie tattoo isn't going to do it for you.




















5. Your boyfriends/girlfriends/wife/husband name - okay..this is really just thee STUPIDEST tat EVER...I AM SORRY. Why in the world would anyway be stupid enough to get another grown adults name tattooed on them. I just don't get it. Nothing says "I'm Dumb" more than getting your lover's name on your body...LMAO




























6. The slutty freaky/skanky/nude tattoo - why on EARTH do you think its cool to have peen, puss or some skank ass word on your body. WHYYYY? Male or female, that shyt is corny. You are basically telling the world that peen and puss is so important to you you decided to permanently mark you body with it. Then these same folk have a nerve to get an attitude because you stare at the damn thing (true story). THE HELL!!! MAJOR FAIL!!!














Remember you are NOT A ROCK STAR.You are not FAMOUS. You live in the real world. You cannot go out and get all types of tattoos with no consequences. At least be able to hide them in case you do grow up. We still live in a conservative world. I know people denied jobs because of tattoos. Keep it simple and cute. Personally I have 2, but I can hide them and they aren't ridiculous.


Your PSA for today from TRUE by TRUE

*I have no words for the chick below*

Yes Single women CAN give relationship opinions !!

My biggest pet peeve is when folks, especially men, say that single folk can't give out relationship advice. Men quick to say "how you gon listen to your friend when she can't/aint even get a man"

Why do you assume that because a woman is single its cause they can't get a man. Hell they may not even WANT a damn man.

Maybe they are more selective because of bad experiences. Maybe they don't have a man because they refuse to put up with any and everything for the sake of having a man. Maybe she had a bad experience with her previous relationship that she wants to share. Maybe she got more important things in her life that doesn't make time for a man right now. Maybe she just got a divorce or broke up and doing her for now. Maybe she just not that thirsty for a man.


There is no really good reason to accuse single women of not being able to listen to her girlfriend's relationship problems and lend a caring ear. Take the Destiny's Child "GIRL" song/video. They basically saying we love you, you can do better

Destiny's Child - Girl
by MAYK0L

My theory is, if your shyt was together, you wouldn't have to go to your girls to vent and/or give an opinion of the situation.

Of course you should keep your couple business within the parameters of the relationship, but sometimes, you need that outside ear. You need that voice of reason. You need someone from the outside looking in that isn't biased or trying to manipulate you to tell you what they think.

It's okay to get an opinion on what you should you do if you found some numbers in your man's pocket. It's okay to go to your now single girlfriend because she may have had a bad relationship and can give you insight as to the real deal on certain situations.

Trust me, I have my relationship experience. I have rarely, if ever, steered my girls wrong. (There was one time I was wrong about something). And you know what, my girls steered me in the right direction too. Had I not told them the real deal and gotten good loving caring advice, I'd still be in some of the worst relationships EVER.

I'm going to clue you females in, whenever a man says "Don't listen to her, she don't even got a man" its because he don't want you to hear some sound, caring advice from your friends. They don't want your loving friends to tell you the real deal about his wack behavior. They don't want your gal pals to encourage you to do the best thing, find someone better.

Nope...Men prefer it if you sit around and put up w their BS until they ready to get right.

Sure some of you friends may want you to be single too just like that, but seriously, how often does that really happen. I bet a man invented that crap too.

So ladies, don't be afraid to get some relationship opinions from your single girls. Don't be fooled into believing because she don't have a man she can't tell you how to love yourself enough not to put up with crap.

If they are your real friends, they are going to keep it real anyway. I know mine do. I love yall



True

BLOGGERS..PSA NO MORE FREEBIES maybe

Bloggers Will Have To Disclose Freebies

New guideline released by the Federal Trade Commission will soon force bloggers to adopt a higher standard of disclosure as they will have to tell readers when they got money or in-kind services from a company they write about. In addition, the commission also said that celebrities must disclose a relationship with a company when they talk about products somewhere besides traditional ads, such as in talk shows or social network sites. And, the FTC also made it more difficult for fitness and diet products to make outlandish claims about weight loss or muscle gain while protecting themselves by simply stating, "results not typical." The ads will have to include information about what the typical results might be. But by far the portion of the guidelines that caused the biggest uproar had to do with bloggers, whom marketers have been increasingly targeting as influential voices. There are no guidelines on how the disclosure should be made, but if the FTC is unsatisfied with the disclosure it could file a cease-and-desist order. If ignored, bloggers could be fined as much as $11,000 per violation. Still, there are questions of how realistic it is to expect the FTC to enforce the rule considering how many bloggers there are out there. Others worried that always disclosing a relationship might not even be possible. "What kind of disclosure can one fit into a 140-character Twitter message, anyway?" asked one blogger.

Read original story in The Wall Street Journal | Tuesday, Oct. 6, 2009

Similarities between the Bougie and Ghetto

*MMM LOVE ME SOME DAVID BANNER*

I know people think that Bougie and Ghetto people are SOOOOOOO Different. Me being a little bit of both, I thought I'd share some similarities between the two.

1. They both love designer labels. Oh yeah, don't get it twisted. Just because someone is from the hood doesn't mean they don't know their stuff. My girl was from the projects and in high school she introduced me to BCBG. Just because someone comes from wealth doesn't mean they know all their stuff either. Take for instance a friend of mine in college trying to convince me it was Via Spaga and not Via Spiga, she BEAT ME DOWN. HA! Too funny. But you can thank rappers and Beyonce and our favorite celeb blogs for putting us on to the designer duds.

2. They both work 9-5 jobs. I have worked in diverse environments. I work with some bougie folks that have degrees and some ghetto folks that don't. But they all get up in the morning and go to work from 9-5. No matter the position, they get up and go to work. Just cause they don't have 15 letters behind their name doesn't mean they don't or won't make an honest living.

3. They both enjoy the guilty pleasures of reality TV. Yes its obvious why someone ghetto would be entertained by Real Chance of Love or Real Housewives of Atlanta, but its also evident why Bougie folks are entertained. For one, bougie people always have an image to uphold, but when 10:00 comes around and their favorite reality tv comes on, they can sit there and laugh, be goofy and enjoy something that's not that serious. It feels good to laugh a little doesn't it.

4. They both like luxury cars. Yes, ghetto people may live in their mommas basement or they may live in a not so safe neighborhood, but you will see the Lexus, BMWs, Range Rovers and Benz's on the street. It may be used, but its till a luxury vehicle. That 9 to 5 at UPS helps pay that car note too. Don't get it twisted.

5. They both enjoy expensive libations - yes, something else you can blame on hip hop. Rappers like Rick Ross and 50 cent help us know whats the best quality alcohol. I mean, come on, no one wants a hangover. Ghetto people are just as likely to spend $$$ on good alcohol as bougie people. Trust me.

6. Bougie and Ghetto chicks love to spend money on their hair and nails- and lots of it. Yes, ghetto girls are all up in the salon as much if not MORE than bougie chicks. Both are very concerned about their appearance. Who wouldn't be. With the shortage of decent dudes going around.

7. Bougie and Ghetto men spend the same amount on their shoes - I'm sorry this is a fact. Ghetto men care just as much about their kicks as a bougie man. Yes they will save up and live in their momma basement so that they can a decent pair of kicks. No woman, ghetto or bougie wants to talk to a man with busted butt shoes.

8. They both LOVE TO PARTY - with mega clubs like Club Love in DC, you just can't have an excuse not to go out. With enough space to accommodate the bougie, ghetto and in between, there is plenty of space for all to have fun together. Bougie people wake up the next day with ghetto people and vice versa. Everyone no matter what "social class" they come from LOVE TO HAVE FUN.

So stop trying to separate yourselves so much from each other. You aren't really THAT DIFFERENT. I got love for both..with my boug-ghetto ass.

HOLLA

True

Ladies stop acting innocent..YALL CHEAT LIKE HELL

That's it. That is the LAST STRAW.

Women. Stop acting so innocent. YOU CHEAT TOO. Yeah you.

Oh no, I'm not talking about you ladies that cheat because your is man cheating on you. Nope, I'm talking about you ladies that cheat for no good gyat damn reason. Because you are greedy, like how we women say men are. Cheat because that man's balls and change were just too enticing, cheat because that man's smile just made you melt, cheat because you needed NEW attention, the old wasn't good enough, Cheated because YOU COULD.

There are always debates about how women are more emo and men are not. After hearing more and more stories about men and women breaking up because the WOMEN were to blame for cheating, I am becoming more aware that men and women aren't really that different. Males and females probably equally have the ability to cheat. Society had decided at one point to make women the weaker sex and we have bought into it. For centuries the idea that women are more emotional than men and because of that are less likely to do things men do has been forced into our brains. We are raised to believe that we are just naturally more nurturing and loyal (shit..tell my mother that), men raised to think its normal and okay for a man to want to wander. Well, I am learning more and more that that simply isn't true.

Men, oh you men, you egotisitical, insecure men. You don't know how you will dominate us if we find out that we aren't the weaker sex. So you make excuses for our behavior. Accusing women of being "lost" or "delusional" or "bitter" and even go as far as to say when we do things like cheat on our man solely for pure lust that its because we were scorned and want to act like a man. But the more I learn from my fellow collegues and buddies, the more I realize that women are human, just as much as men are (duh). We have pretty much the same desires.

The men I know who were cheated on were good providers, handsome, well endowed well preserved, considerate and thoughtful. They did all the right things they should as a man, the women cheated simply because they COULD. Because they wanted to try something new. And yes the men were hurt, of course they were. Some because the "All women are whores type" and some got second (and some got third) chances at love and still wanted to settle down.

So yes, this could be another one of my "men and women aren't that different" arguments. Hell, I guess it is...cause it would appear that well, WE AREN'T THAT DIFFERENT. We have the same basic human desires. Sure with men there may be a lil more of this and that, and with women a little more of this and that, but the point is, stop trying to separate the emotional and good/bad parts of us so much. Stop genderizing so damn much and start looking at the individual person. There is no benifit to categorizing somen/or men, to assume that all women are innocent or should be, and assume that men are aggresive and roamers and should be. There is good and bad in each person individually. Start looking at the person as an individual and not as some part of either one of 3 groups - Male, Female and WHORE.

Trends that should have never been started

We have all worn some shyt that we should be embarassed to say we wore. But some of this stuff just takes the cake and leaves me wondering "WTF WERE WE THINKING". UGH.



Gauchos...For obvious reasons..the main one...major wedgie..FASHION FAIL































Denim Jumpers..WTF, why did we ever decide that these were hot































Chinese Slippers. Dont act like your grandma aint have a pair in every color to go with every alfit.





















Ponchos. Bitch you look stupid. Take that shyt off >:(. I remember my grandmother used to make me wear these on easter, EVERY EASTER. Yall heffas walking around like yall about to hunt for easter eggs.




























Crochet Braids. I blame Luvvie for making me remember these thangs. *sigh*. Why did we EVER think this was cute






























Hammer Pants. These shits got a nerve to be making a comeback..I HATE IT



































SKORTS. Um, we should have picked one and called it a day. THE HELL
























Lace up sandals. Can someone say FREAKY STRIPPER. Eww. these things are just gross



















and the newest of all..MEN IN SKINNY JEANS *jumps off podium and walks off*