Saturday, March 9, 2013
I was having a discussion with someone about my issues...a few people actually, (Why I don't know because people can't understand me worth a shit) and they always reply "But you're such a STRONG woman"
I cringe when I hear that, I cringe even more because I feel bad for not taking it as a compliment.....well...because it's not a compliment
To call someone "strong" means that others are "weak"
I don't necessarily believe in "weak" and "strong" people in the mental capacity.
Because in fact we are all just....well....human
Just because a woman raised 4 kids on her own doesn't mean she is strong. She is a survivor, sure, is she a provider, sure, determined, of course, loving...eh maybe, but strong...eh...I beg to differ with using that as a way to describe any person who gets through trials and tribulations and make through.
Why? Because it means that the person raised 3 kids with her husband must have NOT been strong, or "weak" rather, cause she couldn't do it alone.
Another instance. Just because a person becomes addicted to drugs, gives up a child for adoption, quits a job, becomes a lazy bum or never moves out of their parent's house doesn't make them "weak". Perhaps they are tired, frustrated, lazy, unmotivated, sad or depressed. Calling them "weak" won't help them change some of their so called "Flaws"
I never use the word "strong" to describe someone who makes it through a lot of strife. And I don't call drug addicts "weak" because they couldn't kick their habit.
I call them human.
I describe their behavior as inspiring, motivating, I describe them as determined. For the "weak" I wonder if they are tired, frustrated, feel worthless, or ashamed.
Weak and Strong IMO should only be used to describe rope, steel rods, or a house structure.
We as humans are NONE of those things.
We are far too complicated to be summed up into 2 categories "weak" and "strong"
Eh...just a though...you weaklings.....I'll strong arm the f*ck out of you.