What DC People HATE

Stupid Sh*t Yall Believe

2012-01-25T13:31:00.002-05:00

There are quite a few things that annoy me. That's part of the reason I put the title "Hate" in my blog. Well the main reason actually.

Most of the stuff I hate comes from dumb ass people. Most of these dumb ass people don't read. They rely on other people who don't read to tell them stuff or the news and media who create hype over things to get viewers or for whatever reason.

There are a lot of things that you guys believe in that just isn't true..but here are the three that bother me the most

Stupid Belief 1: Colds come from cold air

Here are a couple of scenarios:

Stupid Person 1: My throat feeling kinda itchy and my nose is runny. Probably because I forgot to put my hat on when I went out yesterday.

Stupid Person 2: Ugh, summer colds are the WORST. I probably got it from having the air conditioner too high

-_-

Now I know back in the day before they allowed us Negros to read, we had no choice but to come up with our own conclusions about stuff. So in the winter time when we caught colds the most, we naturally assumed it's because of the cold weather.

Well now we have access to books and science. A cold is a virus. Viruses come from other people and contaminated surfaces. Cold air does NOT bring on a cold. You can run outside butt naked for 2 hours and not "catch a cold" unless someone comes and sneezes their germs in your face.

Colds happen more frequent in the winter or when it's cold out because you are indoors more around sick people. I'll throw something extra in about colds. Cold medicine and vitamin C does not cure a cold virus. You have to let the cold run it's course. Cold medicine only suppresses the symptoms of a cold until it goes away.

The only way to prevent a cold virus is to become a hermit, stay home and never interact with anyone or anything. I know I'll feel better if your dumb ass stays home.

Stupid Belief 2: Pork is worse for you than any other meat

This may bother me the most. How can anyone put down my precious, PRECIOUS meat? Pork is awesome and delicious. Also, there is nothing stupider than a person who refuses to eat pork cause it's bad for you, but will eat the shit out of some fried chicken. Yeah, that makes sense.

Part of the reason pork gets the bad rap is because last century there was an outbreak of people getting sick from Trichinosis(or some shit). I don't have the exact details and I won't bore you with them in this post (feel free to Google...oh I forgot, you guys don't research). Just know that people got trichinosis and started fearing pork. Same thing happen with beef when mad cow disease broke out. Trichinosis comes from consuming raw or under-cooked pork. You would also get sick from eating under-cooked chicken and beef as well. But y'all haven't eliminated those from your diet permanently.

Pork can be just as healthy for you as any other meat depending on the cut and how it's cooked.

And yes, Bacon is bad for you, but if you stopped eating it everyday and only enjoy it sometimes, it wouldn't give you a heart attack. But that fried chicken will.

The other reason y'all stopped eating pork is this Muslim bandwagon that Black folk decided to jump on in an effort to NOT identify with the white man. But that's too much to get into right now. Just know the other reason y'all don't eat pork is because y'all listened to y'all Muslim friends about how pork will make God hate you because it's SOOOOOOO unclean. By the way, does your Muslim friend put down those fried chicken wings to pray for the 3rd time that day?

Funny how y'all are so selective about what to put in your body. Pork is bad for you so you don't eat it, but you go to the bar and chug down 5 gallons of liquor and buffalo wings. You're not impressing people with your declaration that you don't eat pork, you're only depriving yourself from it's goodness and you're still going to die. Oh, that leads up to the next stupid thing y'all believe.....

Stupid Belief 3: Death comes in threes

You know what else comes in threes? Sneezes and Farts.

I don't even know where this bullshit came from. Every time a celebrity dies, twitter always hollering about how death comes in threes, and waits patiently for 2 more famous people to die. What's worse is when a family member dies, and people start saying the same stupid ass saying. Like really, you can't just offer your condolences?

Let me tell you why this is stupid.

First, it says that famous people are the only people that matter on twitter. Second, people die all the damn time. A more accurate statement would be that death happens in infinity or some other stupid lame shit. Third.... never-mind a third reason, just stop saying this stupid shit.

You know what, I may be wrong about all this. Perhaps a person will die from not running outside naked in 30 degree weather and not taking cold medicine. Then another will die from eating that nasty ass pork that God hates. A third will die because for some unknown reason it's in the cosmos. When that happens, I will take all this back I said in this post and I will be the one looking stupid. But right now it's you imbeciles that look stupid refuse to read and get your head out of your ass.

I Wish I Was Born a Man

2012-01-23T14:24:00.001-05:00

No, this isn't one of those "I'm a gay man trapped in a woman's body" posts. This post is about my jealousy towards men. I have over the years, developed a penis envy.

Men love to complain about all the "problems" they have in life. Baby momma drama (that they bring on themselves by the way, but this post isn't about stupid places to stick your dangalang), finding a decent wife, which fraternity to join, which university to attend will get them the most ass, are they tall enough for the ladies, why won't their beard grow.....and the list goes on *rolls eyes*

Oh, it's not like we don't sympathize with your problems. .....well, actually, WE DON'T.

Please spare us. Men have it MADE out here in these streets. And if I wasn't so cheap, and didn't want to damage my kids psychologically, I would strongly consider going thru the change and becoming one of you very fortunate creatures. My reasons why I want to be a man?..let's see.

1. Men don't have a Period - I don't even need to go into details about this one. Who the hell enjoys bleeding and wearing a mattress or wad of cotton in your crotch every month for most of your life. I think most women get a good 10 - 12 years mattress free. Then here comes Aunt Flo, our most annoying visitor. Nothing that men go through compares to the cramps, bloating, fatigue etc that comes from our monthly cycle. So yeah, we may be faking the mood swings, but cut us some gyat damn slack. You don't know what it's like to have a crime scene in your draws every month for a week....and no not wiping your ass properly is not a crime..though it should be.

2. Men don't have to give birth - What's worse than having a mattress between your ass for a week every month? Having to carry and push a human being out of the same area. The pain, the nausea, the aggravation the looking like you swallowed a watermelon. Then that thing has to come out of WHERE?!?!? No it is not a "wonderful experience". That's some bullshit women tell each other so we can continue to procreate and populate the planet. We won't even talk about the fact that after we endure all of the above and bring forth your offspring that men have the option to ROLL OUT SCOTT FREE and do this to another woman. Matter of fact I will talk about it in the next paragraph. If it weren't for the clitoris, which sole purpose is for sexual pleasure, and breasts that we get to fondle whenever we feel like it, the planet would have died off long ago.

3. Men don't have to amount to anything and still be desired - This is probably the biggest reason I have envy towards men. No matter how much a dude has fucked his life over, there is some desperate woman that will want him. And in-between those women, mom dukes will take care of you for no reason. I have seen the dirtiest, deadbeat dad-est men on the face of the earth STAY with a damn girlfriend. Dudes that live in their momma basement do so because they don't have to move out on their own. For one, their mom let's them live there, two, some low self esteem of a woman will be willing to sneak into momma's basement to "chill" with said homeboy and later move him in her own home that she pays for..cause you know....she wants a "man". I find myself really jealous of a dude who can have 5 baby momma's and get the new ho pregnant with the 6th and somehow have her convinced this time it's "different" and they have "changed". Meanwhile, men in the same situation just mentioned have the nerve to set standards. I Hate that the scrub can get a woman with degrees that has all her shit together, but a woman has to get 7 degrees and her cooking skills has to rival Chef Ramsey just to be a man's fuck buddy.

Men you have it easy. I would love to have the problem of waking up everyday and deciding what desperate woman I'm going to fuck and get to wash my draws and then deciding if I want to be successful or not cause really I don't have to cause I can still get woman. Oh and also if I'm going to father my kids or hang out at the strip club again.

Decisions, decisions...........

Okay, let me go check on the penis I'm trying to grow in a petri dish

YOU SUCK IN BED!!!!

2011-12-19T19:05:00.001-05:00

I usually write on a whim, after a twitter rant or checking some wack person on twitter.

Today there were multiple discussions regarding sex.

I learned that some people won't kiss but will perform oral sex.

There are women who don't like receiving oral sex nor performing it.

Women who don't swallow and women who don't like Doggy Style.

I also learned some dudes don't let women sit on their face or even like performing oral sex on a woman.

I have met men who claim their penis is so good, they don't "need" to perform oral on a woman.

-_____________-

Let me tell you. If you agree with any of the above, you are, in fact, WACK IN BED.

Yes. If you think your penis or vagina is enough, you my dear are TERRIBLE IN BED.

I'm not even talking about hoing, I'm speaking of people who do this shit even in relationships.

I don't care how much moaning and groaning the person you are screwing is doing or how long they have been in a relationship with you. Either they are cheating on you or they don't care about sex. Either way. YOU SUCK IN BED.

If you never kiss your sex partner, YOU SUCK IN BED. How can you be really into the sex act if you are avoiding someone's face the whole damn time. Yeah there are certain positions that don't require having that face time, but if you give NO FACE TIME, it's probably because you are wack or BAD IN BED.

If you stroke a woman and flip her, smack her ass but NEVER put your mouth on her body except maybe to suck a tittie for 2 seconds....YOU SUCK IN BED.

You love pussy, but you can't stand one in your face??? YOU SUCK IN BED!!!

You like dick but you don't smile at it, admire it and look at it longingly before putting in your mouth, YOU SUCK IN BED.

You can't be giving your partner mediocre sex out here. You think those things mentioned above aren't required because your partner has been dealing with you for a long time or is even in a relationship with you, chances are, THEY ARE CHEATING ON YOU. So yeah, your partner doesn't "need" head from you, cause most likely he/she is getting it somewhere else.

They aren't with you cause of the sex. Perhaps you raise their kids as your own, help them with bills, let them use your car or borrow your playstation, but they are NOT WITH YOU cause of the sex.

Step your sex game up. Watch some porn or something. Learn how to turn him/her out in the bedroom, cause your vagina or penis just ISN'T enough, no matter what you think.

Hmph

Twitter Hiatuses are stupid

2011-11-10T20:06:00.001-05:00

I appreciate all the people I follow. I follow so many different types. I follow women, men. Intellectuals, dumbasses. Older and wise, Young and dumb. Old and dumb and Young and wise. I follow career folk and people who are just getting by. I follow parents and non parents. Married and single. All different types. I follow them all for a reason.

They're entertaining.

My day wouldn't be complete if I couldn't log onto twitter to vent. It would be almost impossible to not log onto twitter and be nosey about who said what, what topics people are discussing and who is flirting with who.

Of course I have a few favorite tweeters. These people keep me sane, keep me laughing. Another may *ahem* excite me.

Either way. I like them all. And I look foward to reading their tweets daily.

I understand twitter ain't for everybody. I also understand that some people are just too busy to be all up on twitter. And for others, twitter ain't as fun so they fall back dramatically. They just kinda disappear from twitter. Then you have tweeps who just happen to have real life shit going on and can't tweet right now.

What I don't understand are people who tweet like shit one day, then disappear for weeks. But before leaving announce they are "Taking a break from twitter"

:-|

I have said that myself, usually in jest or when I'm in a funky mood. I never mean it tho. Some people mean it.

I don't really understand the reasoning behind leaving twitter for a while for no real reason. Of course, when my favorite followers do this, I get perturbed and try to figure out what's going on.

1. They need a twitter break because other people's lives make them feel like shit - There is no doubt that people use twitter to brag about their life. They use twitter to get attention.. This can make the average broke person like myself feel like shit if you don't know the real shit about life and you don't know that people are assholes who lie or exaggerate cause they themselves have low self esteem. If you left twitter because you feel like your life is some shit, man up. Don't believe everything you read on twitter and don't think you aint shit cause someone appears to have it going on.

2. They smashed one of their followers and are embarrassed because that follower is hardly tweeting them any attention - smashing someone you follow isn't for the faint of heart. If you are super soft or think everyone you give the goods to should like you and want to be with you, you are sadly mistaken and are completely doomed. So you thought you could handle that person you smashed tweet's. You thought that the flirting with their other followers wouldn't bother you. You were wrong. Now you have to take some time off twitter cause your heart is broke and you feel like an asshole.

3. You are so thirsty for attention you want people to miss you - I miss my followers that go on these stupid, wimpy hiatuses. But most don't. Most won't miss you. Just stay your ass on twitter and stop being an attention whore..I mean....you know what I mean (since technically being on twitter makes you an attention whore). These are the tweeps that normally announce they are leaving twitter for a while. BOO FUCKING HOO

4. You only tweeted at work any way - I hate you tweeters. Fake ass tweeters. Nah for real. Some people mostly tweeted to kill time at work. And that's cool. I understand you don't really have any work at your govt job so you can do that. Of course, your job decides to either get on you about your tweeting or they have blocked twitter. Your tweet counts and appearances go down DRAMATICALLY and you appear to be on hiatus. They usually don't announce they are leaving twitter, I brought them up because they are fake tweeters anyway lol. Not really into twitter.

Those are just a few reasons I think lames purposely take twitter breaks. I'm trying to figure out if you think twitter will suffer without your tweets. I'm trying to further figure out why you are letting a bunch of nobodies dictate how you feel about yourself or when you tweet.

Why you even taking a hiatus from twitter? What's the real fucking reason? Cause "I need a break" means some shit has happened and your self esteem won't let you tweet right now cause twitter lies and falsehoods makes you feel worse about yourself.

Whatever....grow some balls. I sell some on Etsy for 9.99....that's for that low low. Homemade balls

Are "Hoodrats" Evolving?

2011-11-09T19:36:00.000-05:00

Months ago I wrote a post on respecting the hood chick. I got tired of people putting down women from the hood and generalizing them, making them out to be these crazy, deranged, box cutter in the mouth, disease infected, baby momma drama women. I listed a few positive things about women from the hood. It was part jest and part truth.

Apparently not many read my post. Even less agreed with it. Women from the hood still get a bad rep. They are still seen as tacky, loud, will cut you in a heartbeat women who's whole life is to get pregnant by you and embarrass you to no end. When a Black woman commits a crime, it's automatically assumed she is a "hoodrat" with no home training. The woman who committed the crime had to have grown up in poverty, doesn't want to improve her lifestyle and insists on keeping it gangsta by committing these crimes.

One of the biggest assumptions about "hood" women is that they will cut you in a heartbeat. For some reason, scary Black men think that women from the hood walk around armed with knives in between their bras, legs, vagina and let's not forget the mouth.

If you watch the news, you have probably seen the stories involving young Black women committing crimes. There was the Lululemon trial, the girl who stabbed and killed the other girl and University of Maryland at Eastern Shore, and recently, the Frostburg stabbing that ended in murder as well.

The first think a lot of people thought is "HOLE UP....THESE GIRLS ARE IN COLLEGE, WHAT ARE THEY DOING ?"

I vented about it on twitter early one morning (surprise).

I felt it was time to stop always assuming the girl who stabs another and commits petty crimes is some hood rat hooked on drugs or has no home training. I mean, college girls stabbing each other up? Most people assume that girls that attend college had enough of a fairly decent home training to attend in the first place. They probably don't have real deep daddy issues because they are in college and not on baby number 4. They must have some common sense unlike the hood chick that has chose to forgo college and is currently in line at the welfare office complaining about the wait. College girls turn into "wife" material, surely they wouldn't be all the way live with knives and shit trying to stab up women for whatever reason?

But they were. Not only were these women attending college, I don't think they were born and raised in the hood. These young girls came from stable homes. They appeared to have good parents and a pretty positive upbringing. So what made them stab someone to death?

I have a lot of different reasons. Some are mine, others were suggested by other people.

1. PMS - This one came from my coworker. She pretty much feels these girls are hormonal and just "snapping" at something that has built up and went off during that time of the month. I'm not sure I by it.

2. Hoodrats attending college now - When I tweeted this, a person I followed suggested that perhaps these women are hood chicks trying to improve their life. I guess that old "You can take them out, but you can't take it out of them" saying goes here. Not sure I buy this one either. But it could be a possibility.

3. Overly concerned with reputation and keeping it gangsta - true, most Black women feel like they gotta check every darn female in the world no matter what. Woman stares too long, punch her in the face. Woman don't like what you tweeted, show nude pics of her on twitter. The list goes on. Social media makes it so easy for people to be exposed for their true selves so most people feel they have to prove to everyone who they are. They never want to be called punk or whatever name they are going to be called. So not only hood chicks are concerned with street cred (they don't really tweet anyway), but the bougie, suburban raised girls feel like if they tell a story of punching someone in the face, they have to back it up.....so they have been, by stabbing up their peers.

4. These girls were raised by former hood women - Perhaps their mom's evolved. Moved from DC to PG county and put them in a Maryland suburban school, but the mother's hood identity never left. Perhaps these girls have seen their mothers act a fool and decided that's the way to handle things. *shrugs*

5. Not dealing with real emotions - (the reason I believe in the most) Black women have the hardest time admitting real emotions. They never want to be seen as soft. They aren't allowed to be sensitive. They have to be strong at all times. They only way to do this is to keep most shit bottled up. So when the time comes to lash out, they OVER lash out and end up doing too much expression all at once. The societal pressures that Black women experience are still very great and stressful. We have moved on from being the ugliest, dumbest, least money earners. Now we are expected to have great careers and succeed, and still run the whole damn household. Shit like this can build up on anyone and make them snap. I think younger Black women may experience pressure even more. Too many expectations have fallen on us. We can't do this, must do that and all the while being fucking happy about it. That's enough to make any woman want to just go off. Gladly, most of us don't. Even the hood chick.

Bottom line is, your generalizations about hood chicks is dumb. Your generalizations about bougie chicks are dumb. Generalizations are dumb. The issue with what these young Black women have done goes deeper than where they are from, who raised them or how they are raised. We Black women have to learn to cope in other ways than violence, and we have to be open to expression of hurtful emotions without worrying about ridicule from out peers. Otherwise, we'll just keep stabbing each other up.

I'm just saying

By the way, I'm from the hood, attended college, was orphaned and never stabbed a single soul in my life.

Titty Avatars = Winning...

2011-11-06T19:11:00.000-05:00

I love avatars, profile pictures, whatever you want to call them. They show us what you look like. Puts a face to a name. Avatars are very influential. They can influence whether or not we want to creep into your DM and possibly hit that, follow you back or delete you simply because you are unattractive.

These avatars are not only meant to put a face to a name, but they are also meant to represent you and who you are. Some of us use touched up picture, some bathroom pictures which happens to make everyone look extra attractive. (Hmm, must be the lighting) Some of use comical shit or something that isn't us at all. All of this is fine and good.

There are also the avatars that get heat. That get shitted on. Avatars that gain followers. Avatars that lose followers. Avatars that either get glorified or criticized. These are the titty/ass/sexy man chest avatars.

We like the titty avatars cause, well, it's titties. Juicy, sexy, pretty titties. We like scrolling down the timeline to see the luscious titties every time we tweet something. Some of these have a face attached and some don't. Either way, we enjoy them.

We like the booty avatars. These usually belong to strippers, nude models and/or porn stars. We enjoy those as well. Nothing like seeing a nice, well photoshopped booty on your timeline. Some of these booty shots though are not from models and strippers. Some women choose to booty toot in a picture of them before going out. They know they are blessed in this area and want to show it. Hey, we like admiring.

Sexy man chest avatars are just that. Men who work hard, pump iron and can take their shirts off and display their assets as their avatar. We women (and some men) enjoy those as well. Hell this is the reason some of us women follow their asses, just because of the avatar.

Most tweeters like these types of profile pictures. Again we are human and it's pretty nice to enjoy the beautiful body parts of another follower.

Then, there are the others.....

People who don't like these avatars. People who find the body parts avatars tasteless, tacky, showing too much and not attractive. They unfollow and block you if you show too much skin in your profile pic. They subtweet you, take to calling you names, calling you out. They put you down. Call you insecure, say you don't love yourself BLAH BLAH BLAH.

Usually the women calling these avatars out or hating them are either too old too look that good anymore in an avatar, not attractive enough for the avatar, or basically on some fake ass feminist shit because they can't get a man and need some kind of way to feel better about their looks. Touting a woman who has a sexy body part in their avi as "insecure" is a way to make them feel superior, cause let's face it, no one wants to look at their titties or ass.
Personally I think a woman who is proud enough of her sexy attribute should flaunt it IF SHE PLEASES. If you do not wish to show your sexiness in that manner, why does it bother you if another woman does it AND gets attention for it? It's not doing anyone a disservice but your own self esteem. I'm sure they don't care if you follow them or not nor are they trying to prove something to you.

This isn't 1800s. We are no longer only viewed as sexual objects. We are sexual objects with brains now. We can be smart and sexy at the same time. We don't have to choose one over the other to prove a point. No, being smart as shit doesn't make you attractive as a woman no more than being only smart makes an ugly ass dude attractive. Only a liar would admit to preferring women covered up in an avatar.

I don't see the big deal with getting compliments from people on how sexy your avi is or how nicely shaped your booty is IF YOU SO CHOOSE, but it doesn't mean lack of self esteem no more than it means you have the highest self esteem for NOT showing your titties. I sometimes wonder if a woman who NEVER flaunts her physical assets is the one suffering from low self esteem.

Either way..old, probably not attractive women, let them women show their titties and ass and sexy moufs and all that good shit on twitter. What is it to you? Don't hate cause you don't look good enough to show yours. And don't try and discourage them not to show their wonderful cleavage because it will make you feel better physically.

As for the men, stop hating on men that work out and have nice chests and chiseled abs. Showing your sexy chest in your avi does not making you gay. Get yo asses in the gym, pump some iron, then feel free to use your sexy chest as an avatar. You can send me the picture of your progress for prior approval to your posting the pics to my Gmail :-)

Things You Will Learn When You Reach 30+

2011-10-23T19:01:00.001-04:00

I follow quite a bit of people on twitter. All age groups, sexualities, genders, levels of attractiveness and education. The list goes on.

Nothing is more exciting yet also more annoying than the 20 somethings I follow's proclamations.

They avow to never fall in love with the wrong person (again).

They announce they will never get a pregnant out of wedlock.

They always telling us what they will and won't do. What they have and have not accepted.

They are determined to be these "successful", highly intelligent, non fallible human beings who are so great they are beyond "error". In fact, I think a few of them may view themselves as super human.

Some even compare themselves to other "successful" 20 somethings and get "depressed" or feel the need to feel bad about who they are or lack of accomplishments.

I was asked by a fellow tweeter to chill on the knocking the 20 somethings. And I think I have. I didn't realize I was annoying with it.

With that said, this isn't a "knocking the young people down" post. More so, I'm trying to offer insight into what about you may change once you realize your dreams didn't materialize. That you weren't married or on your way to marriage before 30. That that one time you got down and dirty with homie you ended up being a single parent. That you do not own property and that everyone else around you seems to be doing much better.

That's life. Unfortunately, while yall youngins out there boasting about what you will and won't do, shit is still happening in life whether you like it or control it or not. But when it does happen, you will learn faster than a speeding bullet that you will cope and be just fine if not better for it.

When you reach 30 you:

Stop caring about what your "peers" think - I see this a lot on twitter. People worried about their friends seeing pics, texts, tweets. Their peers seeing drunken behavior or them acting out of character. They overly concern themselves with how other 20 somethings will view them. I know part of this is you are still trying to find out who you are and you want others to know who you are as well. The other reason is that you are still dead set on finding that perfect mate for marriage. You don't want them to think you are a loser or hoe bag. Let me tell you, when you reach 30ish, you start giving less of a fuck what anyone thinks of you. You would have already gone thru a relationship or 2 that taught you very well that a lot of people can't be trusted and most people aren't shit. You start focusing on your own happiness more and doing what makes you laugh and smile and less of trying to impress others with your accomplishments and attitude.

You realize that other people aren't as successful as they say they are - a whole lot of people do a whole lot of faking. It's not exclusive to youngins but it seems to be their forte. Twitpicing and facebook faking about what they have bought, where they have been, where they are going and what they are doing. Some of us know these people offline and KNOW they ain't really about shit. The older you get and the more you learn about life, the more you know that a lot of people talk just to be talking. They are in competition with you. They keep the "bad shit" in the closet to make it seem like all that glitters IS in fact gold. But you know they still live with moms, and that's how they can afford to take trips once a month. They aren't paying any rent. When you get older and see the real person people are, then you think less of trying to be like them.

Shit's expensive and nothing is guaranteed - Owning a home costs more than you think. A lot of renters feel that if they can afford rent, they can afford a mortgage. They have a decent steady job, good income, so they dive into homeownership again to impress people. Know this, when you rent, you can call maintenance to fix shit. When you own you gotta call someone from the yellow pages. When you rent, your other bills are reduced, to own, electric is higher, you gotta pay property taxes, water bill and homeowners fees. A few months after settling on that house, you lose your job. Your company decided your position is no longer needed. You think you'll find a job in 6 weeks, after all, you got your graduate degree. But alas, the economy is still doing bad and it's taking longer than you thought. You spent all your savings on your home's down payment. What the fuck are you going to do?!?!?!!? After you have seen your friends lose jobs or have lost one yourself for whatever reason, you realize that getting your degree, not having kids out of wedlock and doing everything in it's proper order guarantees you NOTHING at all. It may assist your "success" and help you meet your goals easier, I will say that, but it doesn't guarantee that shit will not go so wrong to the point that you will consider ending your life. I have both experienced and seen this shit. Shit happens. Once you get past one shitty event you realize you can get past another. Suddenly, that Benz doesn't mean as much as it did before, you're just happy to have wheels and smile as you push the unlock button on that Ford Focus. You clip coupons and start styling your own hair. Something you wish you would have done years ago to save money.

You're not as young as you used to be - Nothing worse than when I see 30 somethings in my timeline or damn near acting like 20 somethings. Still trying to get white girl wasted. Still going to homecoming yard fests. Still shopping faithfully at Rainbow and Level X. Still outchea trying to get all up in VIP and party till they pass out. One day you will wake up at the club, look around you, and realize you look a damn fool. All those young people in there and you know damn well you don't belong. You leave the club at 1:00 am and go straight to sleep. And you are OKAY with this for the most part. You take a look at your life and wonder what the hell you have been doing. You didn't write that book like you said you would, you didn't start your company, you are getting more tired at the end of the day. Shoot you even debate going to happy hour when you KNOW it was a given that you would be there at least 3 times a week. You are tired of the hangovers, of not knowing where you woke up or knowing where you woke up and start screaming. You have finally realized you are no longer 25 and shit has to change. You start focusing on your goals again and remembered that you promised yourself that you had planned on doing this sooner than later. You are now over 30 and you can't do most of the shit that you did at 25 anymore. Where did those 5 years go?!?!?

Things don't go as planned - I know some people who planned their life and didn't deviate from it. They carried out every single thing to a tee. But oops, the condom broke or oops, your man likes men or oops you are still 35, unmarried and childless. Or worse, you were married, and had to get a divorce. But you can't believe this has happened to you. This happens to everyone else but you. You had your shit together. You kept your credit score up. You went to college twice. You work out, keep your weave tight, own shit. Why they fuck isn't your life the way you planned it? Simply put, that's not life. Sadly, you won't realize this until you realize it into your 30's. It's your 30th birthday and instead of celebrating with your husband and infant child, you are in the club (again) with your other friends drinking and hoping that dude you've been hollering at will hit you up before the night is over.

None of this is to depress anyone. It's to set the record straight. Of course some of you will have perfect lives and everything will be perfectly played out for you. But for most of us, that's not a reality. I feel at times we judge others too harshly for nothing having storybook lives before we've even lived ourselves. This is merely a warning to the reality check you will soon be getting.

But while you are still in your 20s, please PLEASE enjoy them. Pretty soon life will really happen and will be staring you dead in the face.

Or you can be pathetic and run from it and fake like you'll be 25 forever.

Up to you *shrug*

"Nice Guys" and why we really don't want them

2011-10-12T19:11:00.000-04:00

Sick and tired of these damn Nice Guy posts.

"Why Nice Guys ain't winning"
"Why girls don't like Nice guys"
"Why Nice Guys finish last"
"Women don't love nice guys, they love hoes and players"

Blah Blah Blah

The "Nice Guy" has been getting a bad rep for years. He is supposed to be this perfect man that women completely ignore giving the time of day to in search of the bad boy.

It is alleged that this so called nice guy has all his shit together, has good credit, and treats you like a princess. And that women are so picky and dissatisfied, that we overlook the "nice guy", and really want someone that kicks our ass and treats us like shit.

I laugh at these type of tweets, posts and articles.

Mostly because only some non-vagina getting nice guy probably wrote the damn article. Some dufus that thinks he should be able to get any woman he wants cause he's so damn nice.

Well, lemme tell you. Nice guys ain't all that damn great. There are many reasons why women don't want the nice guy, why the so called nice guy is still single and why he over there whining like shit on his blog about why women don't want him.

1. The Nice Guy is crazy as hell - Years post divorce I went out a few times with a nice guy. He had a great career, was attractive, had a huge home and took me to nice places for our date. One night he invited me to his home. I didn't feel like going. Do you know this crazy fool hit me up, cursed me out. Then called his boy on three-way to get him to curse me out. Then proceeded to tell me how women don't want nice guys blah blah blah. I'm like "Dude, I just ain't feel like coming over your house tonight:" The nice guy is so damn nice cause he is controlling in disguise. He so effing nice to you cause he gotta woo you in before all his crazy comes out. I've seen it so many times it's not even funny. They so nice, they be fast as shit to try and marry your ass and tie you down for life to the craziness. Eff that

2. The Nice Guy ain't attractive - . His teeth crooked as fuck. His breaf stank. He got brown gumline. He has a gap in his teeth the size of Texas. He's too fucking short. He don't dress right. Whatever the case may be, the nice guy HAS to be nice as shit cause he doesn't have another way to get women. Sure he opens the car door for you or takes your car to get the oil changed, has a great job and adores you. He has to be charming, and attentive, you couldn't stand the sight of him otherwise. Dwayne Wayne from different world was the "nice guy" but he wasn't cute....and he was annoying as fuck.

3. The Nice Guy is a Wimp - He is sooooo sensitive. You can't call him "big head" or jone on his old jersey without him catching feelings. As a matter of fact, he catches feelings for every gyat damn thing. He cries for shit. Sticks up under your ass like effing hemroid cream and whines when you don't go everywhere with him. His ass is so nice cause he needy as shit. He probably does every little dumb thing you ask him too. And he never argues with you.He also writes numerous blog posts about why you an ignorant bitch who doesn't want him. Pussy.

4. The Nice Guy is lacking - Nah not there yet. I'm talking about, he don't have a car, or he don't have a job, or he lives with his momma. He treats you good as shit cause he's leading up to when he has to live in your crib or you have to run him somewhere. He has to compensate somewhere. He needs you like shit. He has to be nice to you so you'll feel bad and run him to the store real quick or pick him up from work.

5. He has a baby Penis - Come on, No brainer, Back on my penis size post I mentioned that dudes who have small okay eeeny weeny penises treat you like an effing QUEEN. They will buy you whatever you want. Take you anywhere, go out of their way to please you. They are worse than the wimps because they wimp can probably satisfy you sexually. They are so effing quick to want to settle down like the Crazy Nice Guy. They don't feel secure unless some woman wants them. Now no..not all small penised guys are nice, some are mean as hell ....but it stems from the same reason. HONEY I SHRUNK THE PENIS.

6. Nice Guys have something to hide - He's already married, got a woman, likes men, is an illegal alien, whatever the case may be, again, he is being nice to you because he is trying to blind you from what he really is. This coincides with the Crazy Nice Guy.

Aight I know the ladies can relate, so I don't really have to speak to them other than to say take an easy breath and recognize I got your back. We get screamed on for not dating these dudes..and it needs to stop.

"Nice Guys", You need to get off your high horse, stfu about how nice you effing are. We don't care. We prefer a real dude who may be more himself and act like an ass than to settle down with your crazy, ugly, broke, wimp, little dick self just because you are "nice" to us. That ain't enough.

Now you know the real reason most nice guys finish last. They can be just as loserific as the asshole.

Personally, I Prefer the asshole. *shrugs*

Some of yall need PRODUCT JUNKIE REHAB

2011-10-10T18:28:00.000-04:00

I, like many Black women, have chosen to eliminate chemicals from my hair.

I have decided and accepted that my hair is beautiful on it's own without looking more European.

I love my hair, prefer it this way.

Took me a while to get here as I always say. I have had fights with it, hated it, loved it, hated it again and now I fully accept it and love it.

From that I have my 4 (yes only 4) staple products I use for my hair.

My VO5 Clarifying Shampoo

My Garnier Fructis Triple Moisture Conditioner

My Cantu Shea Butter Leave in

And my Garnier Fructis Spray Gel

That's really all I use. I wash once a week and either set it in braids, twists or rollers or wash and go and pineapple at night when I go to bed.

That's it.

I am no longer a slave to products. And believe me, I have tried many. Expensive ones like Carol's daughter, cheap ones like Jheri Curl Products. Most were okay ....some were horrible.

I've tried different washing and cowashing and detangling techniques. I've done just about what all of you naturals have. Now I'm trying the simple route. If not for any other reason ..I do it because welp. I'm keeping my money in my pocket.

See, the black hair care industry is one of the biggest markets out there. Everyone knows this. Everyone but us is profiting from this. Mostly non-Black women. Sure there are some websites, blogs and hair care lines that are made by Black women that profit, but in the end, because we are sure to spend a ton of money on caring for our hair, other nationalities who know nothing of our hair are profiting.

I don't need to remind you of the Chris Rock documentary or the other documentaries where we see Asians running our beauty supply stores or who really owns the Black hair care product lines we love.

I will remind you that you are probably just keeping them in business and doing yourself a disservice by continuing your search to find the perfect product that promises it will do this and that to your hair.

Now that you are natural, do you even really KNOW what you hair should do?

You know Black men and women have some of the most UNIQUE hair out there. No 2 of us really have the same hair. So many different textures, styles, curl patterns. So much difference.

So what, may I ask you, are you trying to achieve by continuously trying new products on your natural hair?

If you have found something that works and is reasonably priced for your pockets, why fall victim to the latest advertisement promising to do this and that to your hair?

Several things to put your in Product Junkie Rehab

To put yourself in junkie rehab, you have to find your best product that makes your hair look and feel its best and accept your hair that way - you won't have Chili's hair texture with a new washing procedure. You will not get Tracee Ellis Ross" hair no matter how many products you try. Your hair is YOUR HAIR. Accept it. That's the final texture. Keep your products and routine that works for you up in your head and leave it there. Your hair texture is for you and unique to you and will work for you once you stop working against it. Once you look in the mirror and realize how much you love it.

Also remember, some of these natural haircare website runners get paid and get their products for free to and tell you about. Yes, they are helping us all by experimenting and exposing us to the products in the first place. I appreciate them for that. But you don't have to try and experiment with every product they are paid to use and try. Once you find your niche, stick with it.

I really wish more of us open up product lines and stores to support our natural hair sisters. I would especially like to see a magazine at checkout instead of the ones loaded with tons of weaved up sisters (not that there anything wrong with that but still)

Anyways, good luck on your life journeys. It doesn't just end with discovering your natural beauty with the hair you were born with. For most of us, it is just the start of discovering who we really are.

Bigger is Better?

2011-10-09T11:28:00.000-04:00

I'm sitting in my quaint small apartment thinking about my friends who are making home purchases. Their complaints about what they are finding range from price to closing costs to ...size of the home.

Two of my friends complain that the homes they have seen have simply been too small. This has left me puzzled because one friend has just her son and the other friend has no kids or husband at all. The homes they were looking at were modest in size..but of course we all want bigger.

Not so much bigger, but better, flashier, shinier, more expensive.

All of these things are signs of wealth I presume.

Cept, none of my friends are "wealthy"

So what are you trying to prove by having "more"

You've been surviving in an apartment all this time. A small space, so why do you need all the room now?

Nah this ain't hate. I'm not even directing this post to my friends. I'm directing it to all of us who feel like we have to show our importance, how much money we have and how successful we are.

I am no stranger to bigger and shinier. I had all that. I was miserable when I had it. No it did not make me happy. That stuff had to be paid for. I'm still paying for that stuff.

Don't get me wrong, some people need more space. Some people enjoy and can afford more space.

My question is why do you even feel like you want ALL THIS SPACE?

Who are you trying to show your success to? Why would it make you feel better to brag about having something "big" ?

Unless you have a huge family, the need for excess space is unnecessary. All you do is fill it with more junk that you purchased to show how much more successful you are. Not only do you have this big house and expensive car, you also have this garage full of junk that you rarely use and have just to say you have it and bought it.

This applies to cars, homes, nails, shoes, clothes, jobs whatever. We are all determined to live so above our means to show that we have arrived that we are losing at other things in life.

We are racking up more debt. We don't have savings. We don't really have rainy day money. We can't afford to lose our jobs. We are so codependent on proving that we are successful through stuff that we haven't even actually tried being truly successful.

Success to me is making sure that your family is loved and have what they need.

Success is doing what you love.

Success is being as debt free as possible.

Success is being comfortable in any space you occupy .

Success is not the price tag on your house, or car. I know some broke ass people with the nicest cars and biggest houses.

I know some people in danger of foreclosure now that appear to have it all together.

I know folks in horrible relationships because they can't let go of all the stuff they have together and want to keep.

We seem, now to be more obsessed with what we got than who we are nowadays. We base our self esteem on how many things we have purchased from banks and major retailers than our kindness to those without and those who have less.

Instead of donating and giving, we are wasting our money shopping and spending to prove to others that we have it made.

We are less concerned with the well being of society and more concerned with how we look to others based on what we own or possess.

Again, there is nothing wrong with having nice things. But when the importance of having nice things controls your decisions in life or causes you more harm than good you have a problem. The worst of it is that you don't even see the harm it is causing.

Stop and focus on all the excess stuff you have and what you are in debt over. Is it worth it? Does it truly make you more happy? When you die, are people going to say "Damn he sure did own a nice house and drive a nice luxury car"?

Bigger isn't always better......most of the time, it's the small things that make life worth it.

Unless we are talking about Penis size.

We're All Hoes, Yes Even You

2011-10-06T19:24:00.001-04:00

Dammit I spend too much time on twitter. I need more of a life and to start drinking again I swear, cause I focus too much energy on bullshit like Ho-dom.;

Everyday (B) on twitter someone talks about who is a ho, what makes a ho, who isn't a ho, why she gotta be a ho, discussing male hoes...shrimp stew, shrimp gumbo.....

You catch my drift.

Point is, we are obsessed (still) with hoes. From that ho that Jesus befriended, to that ho Cleopatra that had dudes whipped and fighting wars...etc. This patriarchal world is completely obsessed with hoes.

The weirdest thing about his ho obsession is no one wants to be one.

*insert dumbfounded face here*

Even known hoes won't admit they are hoes. I'm like "Girl, you got an ad on Craigslist..wtf you are a paid HO"

Aside from paid hoes, we talk about none paid hoes, women that get around and women who do it to more than one man are hoes. We have really taken talking about hoes too far. We talk about hoes, but let everyone tell it....no one is a hoe.

HA! But in fact EVERYONE IS A HOE!!!!

There are of course, several different types of hoes out here in these streets.

1. The obvious paid Ho - Strippers, escorts, streetwalkers, golddiggers etc Anyone who doesn't give pussy up for free is the best type of ho. They are actually getting paid for their skills and for their vagina. This is also the ho we criticize the most :-/

2. The neighborhood slut - this is often the girl that is misguided in life. She seeks male attention for her assets and usually will blow you for a lolipop just for you to pay her some attention. Often fueled by drugs and or alcohol, she is simply looking for a good time. The funny thing about this ho is that everyone has done her around the way, but has the nerve to talk about HER being a ho. What the hell does that make you?

3. The sneaky ho - This girl is gorgeous. She has her shit together. She is wanted by most men, but usually gives none of them the time of day. She knows she has good vagina, but cares about her rep. She keeps her partners very distant but always lies about the number of partners she has. Some of these women are married and/or in committed relationships. (trust me, I have seen it). It's hard to get this ho, she is just too damn careful.

4. The former slut - she has already done everyone. Now she is looking for Mr. Right and only wants one dick. She experimented heavily in college, or in her early 20's. She had male tendacies but now wants to settle down and be a lady. She seems like a really chaste chick but she really just has been there and done that already. She'll be really good in bed tho.....plus!!

5. The male ho - this is the guy that so many women have slept with he becomes the laughing stock. The women are friends and openly shares stories about their escapades with him. The male ho thinks he is the man but really women don't take him very serious. We don't normally call the male ho a ho to his face because women don't do stuff like that. Plus we let you believe we turn the other cheek from your ho activities. Really, we are laughing behind your back.

6. The cheater - sadly, this ho has more respect than the paid ho and neighborhood ho, but should actually have less. The cheater is probably a small penised or low self esteem having ass mofo who needs to feel good about their-self by sleeping around on his/her mate. This ho is the most shameful.

7. The friend with benefit - Just cause you only sleep with that one person without commitment doesn't mean you ain't out here hoing. You're just a monogamous ho. Deal with it.

8. The ho in denial - this is the rest of you hos. All you mofos done been someone's sidepeice before. Done had a one night stand whether intentionally or intentionally. You all have at one point THOUGHT you were the main person but later found out you were the side joint. You done had premarital sex. You've had sex with one person in life. That makes you a ho. lol

Let's get something straight here. If you aren't a virgin, you are a ho.

That one person you slept with has most likely slept with other people who has slept with other people who has slept with other people. You are sleeping with all those partners that they've previously slept with. No matter how you try to splice and slice and break it down...you are all HOS!!!!!!

You a ho, you a ho and YOU A HO!!!!

Now that we've established that we are all hos..can we stop talking about them so much ......but wait..then what would we talk about.

HO!!!!

Your Warped Standards of Beauty

2011-10-05T19:33:00.002-04:00

Hey My People,

You ever wonder why you think kinky, coily, curly hair is "unruly" or "nappy" or "ugly"?

You ever wonder why you make fun of people with big noses?

You ever wonder why you look allegedly better with your long straight weave?

You ever wonder why the fair skinned girl is always more attractive than the dark skinned one?

You ever wonder why you make fun of the dude with the "nappy" goatee and locs?

I'll wait.........................

In the meantime let me say this. 10 years ago, as a stay at home mom, I used to frequent message boards. I made a friend on a message board who referred me to another message board and site for people with natural hair.

Hair that not only is not relaxed or permed, but hair that isn't worn predominately straight.

I started reading the site because I was having problems with my hair. Falling out, breaking, just not cute. I decided to stop relaxing. I wanted to start to wear it curly.

It took me a while to really start liking my hair natural. I did a big chop, then started to grow it out. Went back to big perm....and now have been relaxer free this time around for over 3 years.

Now I prefer it.

I consider myself one of the less lost ones. I am now aware that Black and African history has been taken from us and replaced with only American history that excludes us. I realize that we are heavily influenced by a culture that has become our own by force. All of what our original ancestors taught us, their beauty standards, their lifeline, history, their ways of life and beliefs have been replaced with "their" way of life and standards. (Being a Howard student helped me with that.)

One of the biggest results of our history being stolen from us is what we deem beautiful or attractive.

I hear some negative comment daily regarding our natural beauty.

Something about the curly, coily hair we are born with. Or something about how someone looks too "African". I cringe when I hear some of my people still relieved that their newborn child is "lightskin" or has "good hair". I suck my teeth when I hear Black folk say "Some of us need perms". I roll my eyes when I see a young girl with a busted up straight weave swear she cute.

Then I empathize.

I empathize because at one point I was one of those people. Lost and caught up in their standards of beauty. The ones imposed on us by them. We are after all still dominated by their culture..which is our culture...by force of course. How can I be mad at my people for only doing what they know? For only going on the information provided to them? I cannot.

Instead I will keep trying to educate the younger ones and some of the older ones. Question why you think that the hair you were given to you by the God you worship (also forced onto us by those who dominate our world) is "bad" or "ugly".

Being us is still not enough, not acceptable (unless of course you are very well endowed on your lower region) beauty wise.

How we do everything in our power to alter our appearance to look more like them even though we don't realize or admit that is what we are doing.

How our own men judge us for not looking European enough like for their taste . How we don't want to give birth to children with hair like ours. Because naturally we are ugly, we should make sure we change how we look from how we were born to look.

You can all give me that denial BS about how you "don't mind natural hair" or you just "prefer" the straight look, but you are still one of the lost ones heavily influenced by the dominate culture. You prefer the straight look because that is what most of them have...straight hair.

You prefer to waste your money on a long straight weave than to rock your own natural hair cause you feel "cuter" altering your appearance to look like they way they NATURALLY look.

I want you to marinate on that one.

Yes, again, we as Black women, are jumping through hoops to alter our natural appearance to look more like those of European descent look naturally.

It's okay for them to look like and be their natural selves, but us. No. Tons of us still insist on putting those down who also have not decided to adopt the European standard of beauty and embrace how we were born to look. We call them out on twitter, facebook, to their face, directly and indirectly.

I don't mean to be judgmental even though, technically I am. I don't have a problem really with how one wears their hair or what one prefers. I do have a problem with why you prefer it that way in the first place. It's kinda disappointing.

That reason is because you weren't taught your original history. You weren't taught to embrace and love the way you were born to look. You still think their way is better, because that is all you know, and that's all you choose to know. It's easier to fit in than it is to stand out and be the real you....the you that nature intended.

When you get some spare time, educate yourself some more. Then educate others. We have to go back to our roots. Both literally and figuratively. We need to read on our history. The beauty standards will follow once you get back to your roots.

No matter how you try to spin it, or twist it or change it, you are still of African descent. The only culture you know is the culture forced fed to you, and even that has so many holes in it you can't even count them. For those of African descent, this history isn't sufficient because it doesn't include enough about us.

Learn to love Black beauty again. The way it was meant to be loved. The way we loved ourselves before the Diaspora. The way we did during the civil rights era. Above and below the waist..

Relationship Standards and Deal Breakers...the Little Things

2011-10-02T10:24:00.000-04:00

Please note I am a very single girl. I don't make myself out to be a relationship expert, and I don't plan to write a book like other blogs do.

I write what I feel when I have the urge.

Today I woke up normal early time alone this Sunday and felt a lil twinge of jealousy for those who didn't have to wake up alone. It is fall or "cuffing season" as so many of you say on twitter and facebook. It was cold this morning I admit.

I also realized that I don't have to wake up alone, not really, if I don't want to. I have people I can "be with". People I can share a bed with. In particular, I had been recently trying to "be with" this person.

Guess what, it wasn't working.

I knew it wasn't going to work. I knew that a long time ago when he first started per-suing me. The reason I tried it anyway? I was encouraged by friends to give him a chance because of xyz.

That xyz entails a lot of elements the masses deem "not relationship material"

1. I'm (Over 30)

2. Divorced

3. Already have kids

I'm thinking, maybe they are right and I'm losing out on a good thing.

But I still knew that there were things that would bother me in the long run. Still I "tried it out" for my greater good. I felt I had to because this may be my only chance at not ending up alone. I also felt that I couldn't be picky because of my circumstances. Twitter especially makes me feel that way a little each time and every day.

So I tried "seeing" this guy for several weeks.....and now....I just can't do it anymore. There are some things I simply cannot handle, deal with or stress over. I am a very impatient person. And like the rest of the human race, some things just grinds my gears

1. You don't have a car - I ain't about that me having to come to you all the time life. I ain't about having to drive us on dates. This will eventually turn into to "Let me use your car" and "Can you come get me and run me to the store". It was slowly already getting there. I was annoyed out of my mind

2. Smokers - I don't care about the occasional indulgence. Cigar or even a fancy cigarette. I cannot however, handle a smoking addiction. Yes I did mention that ..and you know what I can't get? That smokers don't know they stink. The smell may be faint or strong. But it does damage the smell of the inside of your mouth whether you like it or not. The shit lingers in your clothes and in everything around you. So when a non smoker tells you they can smell it, they are not just being an asshole, we really CAN SMELL IT. Somehow, your nose has adapted to the smell.No amount of brushing and rinsing gets rid of it. It stinks, it's bad for the environment, my lungs and dammit, I don't want to lose you early for something you could have avoided. Plus it's dumb as all get out to smoke...shit

3. Dental Care - I cannot tolerate a jacked up mouth. Naw I don't expect everyone's teeth to be denture perfect. But come on, you got that brown shit around your gum line. I don't how often you brush your teeth, brushing alone isn't enough. You gotta floss and get them deep cleanings. Then you got the nerve to keep asking for kisses. Nah Man

4. Living with your parents - Now, I don't have the fanciest space to live in. But it's mine. It's affordable for me and you can come and go as you please without having to speak to my parents upon entering. You don't have to come in and go straight to my room or basement and you don't have to sneak in or out in the middle of the night. Naw son.

5. Not having a job - This is a no brainer. I don't even feel the need to elaborate.

6. Being a deadbeat dad - Nothing, absolutely nothing is more of a turn off than a man who has kids but never sees them and doesn't contribute to them financially. That shows lack of responsibility, lack of concern and complete selfishness.

The reason I know I can't date any man that has the qualities above because I have already tried in the past. I sometimes disgust myself at some of the men I have allowed myself to go out with it. I was completely settling for this reason or the other.

There are probably a few other pet peeves I have...but the things above to me are deal breakers.

So Eff how many degrees you have. Eff how much money you make. If you can treat me good and not do any of the dumb shit I can't stand mentioned...we good. I'd rather be alone than annoyed with you for the rest of my life.

It's Not That Serious

2011-09-27T19:18:00.004-04:00

*Hurries up and writes this post before this computer shuts off again*

Hey Peeps, long time no hear from right?

Yeah well I've been going through some life changing events. But nevermind that, it isn't any of your business.

Speaking of minding your business, let me get to today's post.

Who we choose to follow, let follow m, block from our twitter and other social accounts.

I admit, when I first got on twitter, created my account and followed my friends, I had no clue to what I was doing. I followed a rack of celebs, all my close friends and relatives, promoters (gosh was that an embarrassing time) and some damn spammers.

I remember my first unfollow, it was my good friend. I was hurt, appalled, and highly upset. How DARE SHE unfollow me on twitter. Ugh. I thought we were FRIENDS.

Several weeks later after I got over it, I hit her up and asked her, "Hoe why you unfollow me?"

"Trice, I got sick of you retweeting promoters"
Me: Oh :-\

I didn't realize that on twitter I could be so annoying. Yeah I know, I have a very aggressive personality. I speak my mind very bluntly, and have no qualms about. I thought everyone would always LOVE to hear my thoughts....

Apparently not :-(

I decided not to take it personal. I eventualy adjusted to twitter, unfollowed all the promoters, unfollowed most of the celebrities and learned how to actually tweet without the nonsense. My good friend followed me back :-)

Over time I started to observe who and how people unfollow others and the reasons they give. Some of them get into arguments, some of them become annoying, some of them spam you with their damn wack ass music downloads and some just follow you in the first place to disagree with you all the gyat damn time.

I laugh each time someone on twitter announces who they are unfollowing...why? CAUSE NO ONE GIVES A DAMN!!!!!!

It's your choice, your twitter and you may read and respond and follow and unfollow who you damn well please. Most times, it isn't even personal. Shit, I have unfollowed and blocked my bestest friends in the whole wide world and some very close relatives..but we maintain relationships OFFLINE
!!!!

WHAT YOU SAY?!?!? You can actually separate the 2?

HELL YEAH

IT'S SIMPLY NOT THAT SERIOUS.

My stance now is this. I don't spend too much time unfollowing and following and announcing the shit like some of you do. Clearly, yall take following and unfollowing a little too serious.

We have the right to be subjected to whoever's thoughts we please.

Some of you even get upset and start crying and shit over unfollows. Be easy, you won't have a heart attack or lose your brain function cause the big booty chick called you out and unfollowed you on twitter. Please don't stalk her email :-\

Don't get me wrong, I'm not at all saying twitter isn't serious, but most of the time, it isn't so serious to lose friendships, fuckships and twitterships over.

You shouldn't be unfollowing people because popular blogger or tweeter A did, unless of course you seriously want to .

I'm all over the place with this piece I know, that's my blogging style as well (Can't even believe I'm still doing this shit)

But I think you all get the point of this post. If someone unfollows you, please don't take it personal. Maybe it's you and you started tweeting bullshit they didn't want to hear.or hell, maybe they are in a new relationship and your ass was acting hot and shit on twitter getting drunk and tweeting all yalls business and what not. Maybe yall were just on different levels of tweeting..whatever..just don't get all tight in the chest and huff and puff, make a blog post about them and text them to death asking them why they aint following you. It realy and truly aint none of your business why. It's their acccount and they can read whoever's thoughts they want to. They've just decided to keep you at a distance and only converse with you off twitter

Or maybe they just don't like your ass no more.....

Why Big Tiddies are Dumb

2011-07-27T13:52:00.000-04:00

As I sit here and adjust my increased sized boobs and getting more and more frustrated, I’m thinking “WTF I NEED THESE THINGS FOR ANYHOW?!”

When we are young, we can’t wait to get these things. We want to show that we are “growing up” and are different from little kids. They start off as lil marbles moving round under your nipples, next thing you know, you get your first 32 AAA bra (some of you jumped straight from flat chested to grown woman bra, I feel bad for you. You still probably have welt scars from getting your bra strap snapped so many times by that annoying boy who would later be your first)

Breastfeeding is a reason - but you can do that with LITTLE TIDDIES. WTF you need big JUGS to do that for

Men stare at you and want to mate– more like OGLE YOU. Yeah we like to be looked at but we have faces too (some not so pretty) He never talks to your face cause he too busy looking at your darn boobs. Least if you got a phatty and yall face to face he can’t just stop talking to you and walk behind you and talk. If he could get away with that…trust he would.

They’re a turn on during sex – yeah for the 5 or so minutes he sucks/plays with them. After that you’re on your own. So what you can suck your own large breast yourself. Who wants to do that the whole time. Someone suggested on twitter that he hold them. That is if he isn’t too busy trying to NOT ORGASM. You’re left with huge floppy tiddies that he aint even paying attention to cause his eyes are squeezed shut from enjoying the sex you are trying to enjoy with out those darn HUGE TIDDIES.

Exercise – they get in the way. Enough said ….boppity boppity boppity

Doggy style – they drag on the bed. You get nipple burn from the comforter or floor, worse yet

Sure they can fill out a top. But let’s be honest, it’s not really the breast that turns the man on, it's the nipple on the woman. Besides, being that I’m a Black woman and Black blogger I can say that in my experience, most Black men only care about the ass anyway. I blog about things I hate…so I can say that TODAY…I HATE MY BIG TIDDIES (and mine are more marge than anything (medium – large). (I probably wouldn’t want a huge ass either but I can’t complain about that department seeing is mine is compact ) You lucky small boobed girls have NOTHING to complain about really. Especially if you got booty.

I’ll prolly love my boobs tomorrow. …..in the next 5 minutes …. Or so

I may be your Jump Off....But.....

2011-04-13T14:39:00.000-04:00

I truly do hate the term Jump Off, Friend with Benefits sounds a lot better. I prefer the term "friend" like they said back in the day.

Most of us have casually dated and casually had sex. For some reason tho, the Jump Off still gets a bad reputation. They are seen as whores, sluts, male whores, freaks, non- marriage material etc. All of this is untrue. Of course I am here to debunk some myths and give some tips on dealing with the casual fling, whether purely sexual or more.

1. Myth - Jump Offs are disrespecting themselves by allowing themselves to be used - Nope. This may even be the opposite. Most likely, the Jump Off is using you just as much as you are "using" them. They don't want a relationship either or want to bone and/or cuddle with you till they find the right one.

2. Tip - FWB does not want to hear about your other "friends" - that information is irrelevant to them. They don't need to know who you are seeing, who you have been screwing or that you have been seeing or screwing anyone else at all. Yes of course you have to keep it honest and admit that your FWB relationship isn't exclusive, but don't get all too HONEST on a mofo and start divulging unnecessary information that involves the "other" person.

3. Myth - All Jump offs/FWBs catch feelings - Naw they don't always catch feelings. Sure, some go into the casual relationship with feelings hoping yours will grow with them, but I can assure you, most don't end up hopelessly trying to get you to be with them. I know some JO situations that lasted for YEARS off and on with not even a thought of a relationship.

4. Myth - Sidepieces have low self esteem - This isn't always true. Maybe they just like the person, maybe they benefit from seeing a person that has a relationship because they themselves DON'T want a relationship. Sidepieces have it easy. No pressure, they can still come and go as they please and they won't be nagged. Plus they can pretty much get away with murder...if they are smart. They usually play their role. They get to have you, the one in the relationship and as many other people as they please. They can, in fact, be even more confident because they know their roll and know what they are doing.

5. Tip - Be prepared to be "dissed" by your FWB - They have a life outside of you. They will be seeing other people and they will be living their life. They are not waiting for you to call them to hook up. So you may have those days where you really want some loving and they won't be available. NEVER TAKE IT PERSONAL. It's just a part of your arrangement. You want them to be more available? Ask for a relationship

So enjoy your JO...enjoy your FWB and even enjoy your Sidepieces......do you...and as always, stay protected. Treat them like humans. After all, while you treating them like the whore, you, just may actually be their whore.

True

How to Pick Up the Mean Girl aka the B*tch

2011-04-08T14:29:00.000-04:00

I, True, am a mean girl. And by mean I mean that I am opinionated, brutally honest, hard to please, smarter than you, more clever than you, experienced and the opposite of desperate. I am confident and grown as hell. I take care of myself and really don't see the need for a man other than peen. I'm the woman that's not pressed for you....what do you call us. Bitches, mean women and sometimes "man in a woman's body.

Mean women are really hard to get the digits from. They already know they are too good for you. They look at you first glance and have already decided you couldn't handle them. Most men see this girl and get to running as fast as they can. Good, because strong women don't like weak men anyway. We aren't concerned with being overly aggressive because we know that we aren't. We are just overly confident. Can't get with it...*shrugs*

The truth is, this is the most desirable woman of them all. Why? Because once you get her, no one else can. It's no easy task getting her. She will be loyal and fight your battles as much hard as she fights her own. She knows her worth unlike easy women. So how do you get this woman on your team?

1. First, don't ever take her dis personal. Cause she WILL DIS YOU before you even open your mouth. Don't give up. The biggest turn off is a dude who gives up cause of one lil dis. Mean girls like determination, that's part of our make up. We don't want to be easy. If we don't ask you to leave us alone directly, that means we still may want to talk to you.

2. Say something very clever or funny. Mean women are super witty. They tend to have a sarcastic sense of humor. Be cynical with her. If you get her to laugh, you are pretty much in the door, because as you know, it's hard to get the mean overly confident woman to laugh.

3. Never tell her "It's your loss" if she declines you because it's not. Mean girls don't give a shit about trying to be with a man. They have most of their life together. Mean women feel like we would be a gift to you, not the other way around. If you really want to get this girl, refer back to number one.

4. Never ever ask her why she look so mean. That answer is obvious. Because we don't need to be all bubbly and smiley all the time. We are too honest for that. Instead when you sit down next to her and she appears to have a scowl, think of something ironic or funny that happened to you. Again, get her to relate.

5. Never ever refer to her as mean woman or a bitch. You think we haven't heard that before? Truth is we aren't mean or bitches. We just know what we want out of life. We feel we have reached a certain level of confidence that doesn't require us to be falling over every man that talks to us. You will never get the mean girl by telling her she mean. That means you may try to change her, which she won't like.

6. Tell her you have a thing for mean woman and you are like that the most about her. I don't know why this works for us, but it does. I guess it's partly because we still deep down want to be loved and accepted. Bubbly nice girls have it so easy. We don't. We don't get any love. So this simple statement...that you have a thing for "aggressive, hard core, mean, stubborn, sarcastic" whatever women makes us take down one of our bricks.

Remember tho, stepping to an overly confident, "aggressive", vocal, outgoing, "mean" woman isn't for the faint of heart. We don't take any shit and nothing you do will impress us other than being honest and being yourself and NOT being an insecure punk who expects us to fall at your feet.

Mean women can you agree offer more tips? Any males have experience hitting on a mean girl and succeeding?

Why You Should Have Sex On the First Date

2011-03-25T10:44:00.001-04:00

*I know the women are going to hate me for this, I also know the men are going to love me for this*

This is one of those great debates that has been going on with males and females since Gawd knows when. How long you should wait to give it up? Is he gone think you are a hoe if you give it up the first night? I wonder if I take you home will you still be in love baby?

Most women and lots of men contend that if give it up on the first night, chances are you are easy and you are probably giving up to everyone that soon and that easy. Women are firm believers that if you give it up the first night, he won't have any reason to keep sniffing around. A lot of men feel that if they already got the goods, what's the point of sticking around.

Well the point is you liked it. You like them, they liked you. You liked the sex. You will continue seeing eachother.

I feel like nothing says confidence in a woman and "I like the shit out of you" moreso than giving up the goods on the first night. Maybe you have known dude for a couple of weeks, a few months, hell a few days. You may have not been dating or you may have. Why not test out the goods before you even think about a second date. Sure you can wait...but what's the point? You already know you are going to give him some. Why wait? Besides, do you really want a guy that would bail on you after you sleep with him? He probably didn't like you that much anyway if he bails from sleeping with you the first time. If he really likes you and the sex was awesome, he should be coming back for more. So sleeping with the guy the first night is a way of telling him you really like him and if he sticks around, he really likes you. Otherwise, that nice guy routine was just to get in your drawers, you don't want that.

Another reason to sleep with him on the first night is to find out if he has someone else. The reason he may bail is because he has someone he was already seeing or involved with. Waiting weeks or months to give him the goods won't change the fact that he was cheating on you with someone else. (True story, happened to me. Was seeing dude for weeks, then gave him some. He bailed. He had a woman at home)

If he's superficial enough to leave because you gave it up too soon, he's a douche and you don't want him anyway. Least you know now. If you waited and waited and waited and he based your whole relationship on when you gave up the sex, then you now have a certified, superficial, old school thinking douche who will probably want you barefoot and pregnant. Or he's so insecure in his manhood that he needs you to feel like your vagina is the only thing of worth and importance. Eff this douche. If you sleep with him on the first night, you'll find out if he's a certified shitbag.

Men...to put it plainly, you should allow the sleeping on the first night to happen. Who wants to wine and dine and date a girl who turns out to be a lame in the sack? And if you want a lame in the sack, get ready for some cheating to happen cause you will cheat. That's a guarantee. A woman who is willing to get it going the first night is very sexual and confident in her sexuality, which means she probably swallows. If she turns out to be lame, you can dumb her ass and save some money on wining and dining this lame broad.

Sleeping together on the first night gets all the complications and what ifs out of the way. Just do it. If you are attracted, had a great time hanging...get some condoms and screw. If you really like eachother, it will continue to work out and you will continue to screw.

Thank me later.

True

*PS...sleeping with someone on the first night is not for those with low self esteem FYI*

RUNTELDAT – A post about MOUTH RUNNERS

2011-03-08T13:32:00.004-05:00

Gossip Mongers, Mouth Runners, Snitches, Loose Lips, Bitches. There are various names for people who run their mouth too damn much. Whether they are bragging about their latest sexual conquest, or whether they are trying to get people to like them more by making other people less appealing...these people are completely annoying.

There are several types of these mouth runners.

1. The Run tell everyone else business but keep their shit to themselves talkers - these people suck monkey guts. Always trying to seem so perfect to everyone else by making everyone around them seem like their shit isn't together. The truth of the matter is, their shit stinks worse than everyone else's, that's why they have to tell everyone else's business all the damn time...too keep from crying about their own sad lives.

2. The lie on my dick dudes - it's just something really feminine to run tell a guy you smashed a chick. Now if it's your boy and he's is contemplating hooking up, but all means I think it's okay to volunteer that you done already hit that. But when you walk in the barber shop and just open up the convo with "Yeah yall know that jawn that bring her son in here to get his haircut, yeah I hit that" you end up looking corny. Why should other dudes care what you did with YOUR DICK. Further, your manhood is so LOW that you gotta PROVE you getting some. You have NO SWAG and that shit is SUPER PLAYED. The reality is you probably took her out to an expensive meal and she fell alseep on your damn couch.

3. The denied they said anything to anyone mouth runners - Bitch if I know you the only person I told about how little Ron Ron's dick was or how how I that I think I may have a pregnancy scare, how you gon say that you didn't tell them and you don't know how they found out? CAUSE YOU TOLD THEM. Why is it irrelevant? Own up to your shit. You know you wrong for telling my business. How else would someone who I barely speak to come up to me and say "Yeah I heard your car got booted 2 weeks ago, you okay".How else did my sex tape get out? Why you doing that anyway? You need attention?

4. Snitches at work - How the hell else does my boss know I came in 15 minutes late last week? A damn co-worker who mad that I get away with the shit and they don't. That is nothing but some hate. My boss doesn't sit anywhere NEAR ME yet they know I be on the internet and on my phone all the time. Why you hating? You suck at your job so you think snitching on me is going to get you a promotion. My work is ALWAYS DONE. DO YOUR OWN AND STAY OUT MY SHIT!!!

5. Cockblocking mouth runners - this girl or guy's sole purpose for running their mouth about someone you trying to get with is simply because you don't want their ass or the person you trying to get with, they want to get with. They be all up in people's ear calling you a hoe or telling you they're a hoe and what not. These mofos end up looking mad thirsty. Worry about what you doing with your OWN DICK/PUSSY. Or better yet, check for the people that are checking for you. .

6. Twitter/facebook Blasters – They want everyone in the social network world to know that yall are friends or got/had something going on. Sit down somewhere, you look stupid all the while they not even paying your behind no attention or evening @’ing you all like that These bammas are also pressed to blast a DM from someone that wasn’t even all that serious.

There is nothing wrong with a little bit of celeb gossip, juicy news or just some new info that may be appealing.....but then you have just straight up bammas when it comes to exposing information.

All the mouth runners mentioned above are STONE COLD JERKS. Stay away from them, better yet..don't be one of them. You have now been CALLED OUT.

Too Agressive, Nah you just a Punk

2011-03-07T15:48:00.000-05:00

Okay so ..my dating life isn't that great. I attract them, date them a few weeks and either cut them off or they fall back from me. *Shrugs*

I have asked my friends what could be the problem. They seem to agree that I'M TOO AGGRESSIVE.

I thought about it. Yes I am very outspoken. Yes I can drink a guy under the table. Yes I curse. Yes I will fight a dude. But come on, is that really THAT intimidating to a guy?

I like my personality. I'm fun, I'm the cool girl. I can be the friend and I can be the lover. I cook and play video games.

What you want, someone beneath you? Someone who isn't as intelligent as you? Do you want some whiney butt girl who has nothing in common with you? Cause I don't see how me being 100% honest and have many things in common with you do could possibly make you want to stay away from me.

I think Men who don't like "aggresive" women are punks. And by aggressive I mean a woman who is super confident, not dependent on a man for her self esteem. A woman who doesn't NEED you. You want a needy woman to make you feel more like a man...fine. But don't go around calling us SUPER CONFIDENT WOMEN, too aggressive. Just admit you want a co-dependent woman. ...it's okay.

Admit it..I scare you. It's okay. I wasn't checking for you anyway. If you can't handle my strong personality and my honesty, then what can you handle?

Top Ways You May Die in the DC Area

2011-03-07T15:39:00.000-05:00

*Don't shoot me for this, I mean this in jest but for real, this is a serious issue*

6. At an area unity fest - How people gon drive into a bunch of people while on crack, or start a fight at something meant to encourage community involvment and bring people together? Why you at the zoo fighting? THE ZOO? An AWARDS CEREMONY meant to show support? Come on Son

5. Eating from the Local Carry out - Who KNOWS what the hell is in that stuff. Sad thing is some people eat it on a regular basis. Can someone say CAT GUTS?!?!?!

4. Going to the club in the U Street area - We all know about the tragedy that happen at DC9

3. "Accidentally" Falling from the Platform on Metro - We have had so many deaths from people getting hit by the train it's not even funny. Last guy ended up just getting mangled up after a failed suicide attempt. Perhaps Metro is improving in some areas :-|

2. By Bus - Maybe we just don't know how to cross the street, but we have also had a significant number of deaths by Bus

1. Living in PG county - At first us DC residents FLOCKED to the county to get away from the crime int he city. I guess DC residents took the crime with them.

Okay so nah for real. These are all tragedies. The deaths themselves aren't funny. Please everyone be careful out here in these DC AREA streets. Watch where you are going. Don't get too drunk and beligerent and STOP EATING FROM THE DAMN CARRY OUT SO MUCH. They don't even eat the spit they serve us.

The Valentine Post!!! How Men are Like Candy....

2011-02-01T10:09:00.001-05:00

Valentine's day is fast approaching. Doesn't mean spit to me though. I have never had a valentine on Valentine's day. Not even when I was married. *pause*. I do remember getting a recycled Valentine's gift in junior high school after his girl dumped him. He scratched her name out and wrote mine in *rolls eyes* Ever since then I haven't really been into Valentine's day and get a little sick to my stomach when I see Kay's jewelers commercials and that stupid heart pendant necklace that looks like it came out the bubble gum machine. It's the thought that counts though right?

The only good thing about Valentine's day is the candy. It's on sale everywhere and lots of people give it out. I enjoy my fair share of candy. My favorite being chocolate of course and any kind of nuts (pun and innuendo both intended). Although I love candy, I love men more. Hell, I love them both. They are similar in lots of ways. I often describe my men based on candy to make it easier to define what kind of guy they are. Just like there are many different types of candy, there are many different types of men. Here are several examples of those types

1. Hershey's Kiss - this is the guy with a nice set of lips. P.E.L.s if you will (think about it). Makes you want him to go straight down south then kiss you afterwards...oh wait..is that just me ....

2. Fun Size Snickers - Short REALLY cute guy. Normally you wouldn't go for a guy of this height but there is something about him that seems, well FUN SIZE.

3. King Size Snickers - Opposite of fun size snickers, this brother is tall, lean and sexy as hell. Probably packing something down there too. MMMM...Can I get a nut.

4. Nerds (Thanks @brandale2221) - Some are techies, some are just super intellects. ALL OF THEM ARE FREAKS. There is something sexy about a super intelligent guy who can work it AND fix my computer. Sure he may politic you to death, but it's worth listening to his banter to enjoy a freaky deaky night with this genius.

5. Skittles - these men are Gay.

6. Sour Balls - Bitter, mysogenistic men who hate women because they have no game. They never get any for various reasons. Poor hygiene, bad breath, or just plain old wackness.

7. Double Bubble Gum - These are the guys that entice you really early on with their wit and charm but after a while they do something stupid and lose ALL THEIR FLAVOR, just like Double Bubble.

I know there are plenty other varieties of men out there besides the ones I mentioned. Either way ladies, who said candy is bad for you. I know I enjoy my share of goodies.

But remember, Please EAT RESPONSIBLY!!!!!!

True

Women Make Men Lie

2011-01-31T10:31:00.001-05:00

Yesterday I went on a little rant on Twitter. I was inspired by @OneChele 's question as to what it means when a guys says to a woman that he isn't looking for anything serious right now, but wants to basically "kick it" and see what happens. Most people agreed that the dude just wanted to hit it with no commitment.

I shook my head as I read the responses. Not because of the answers, but because people are still discussing things of this nature.

I don't get it.

Why do women expect men to commit before they have had sex with you and after the 1st or 2nd date?

That has to be the most unrealistic bullspit I have ever experienced in my life. Sex drives humans, especially men. They see you looking physically good then they immediately start plotting how they can get some of that good good between your legs. Sure some of them get to know you first for weeks, but their motivation is always getting that vag.

Listen ladies, when you pressure a man for a committment or speak that mumbo jumbo about how chaste you are and how you value whats between your legs more than anything else on the planet, a man will start plotting. He will try everything in his power to come up with the best way to get between your legs.

He may try the friend routine. He may take you out for drinks and get you drunk enough to not care. But worse of all....he will LIE and say he is ready for a committment to hit that.

Yes. He will LIE. And it's YOUR FAULT.

*waits till the ladies calm down a bit*

Okay, you ready for the real truth? Because he knows that the only way he'll get to what you THINK is heaven on earth is to "commit", then he'll verbally commit. Mentally he won't. He'll be lying. It's INSANE to think a man will commit to you before he hits its. Hell, as a woman (with a high sex drive) I won't commit untill I HIT IT. So I 100% sympathize with the dude who has to lie to get some of what you believe is the best thing a woman has to offer.

Getting a man to commit to you before he hits it is like getting a confession out of an innocent person after you water torture them. Commitment takes time, it takes more than 2 dates and it definitely will not happen before he hits it. No matter what he tells you.

So ladies think about it. Think about this really well. You are forcing a man to lie to you. And that is your fault for expecting too much too soon.

If men didn't lie, you'd never get any if you are waiting for him to say you will always be his one and only first. Respect a man who honestly says "Hey I'm not looking for anything serious right now. I'm just trying to see where this goes" because he's being honest, he's not being a douche...YOU ARE!!!

(Oh, men who make commitments to women before they hit it are LYING TO THEMSELVES)

True

Why Men are Only Good For Sex

2011-01-27T11:55:00.000-05:00

A lot of women aren't big on relationships believe it or not. Sometimes I wonder what in the hell we need men for besides to pro-create and have babies. If you are the type of woman that is looking for a husband and family, by all means, get you one. I'm not hating as I have been there. Some of us don't want families though. Some of us just want a steady sex partner, but we feel the need to go through the other BS to get it. Why even do that? Women can do a lot of stuff without men, but many things we cannot. And those things involve sex, even the baby making. So for women like myself, the sole reason for a man is sex. Here are True's versions of the reasons why:

1. I can't eat myself out - I can take my self out to eat just fine, but eating myself out...that I can't do. I need you for that

2. Doing it doggy style - I can walk my dog myself. But I can't do it the way my dog does. No sir. I need your help with that.

3. Dig me out - In snowy weather, I can dig my own car out. It's good for the abs, but I can't dig my cooter out. I need you to do that. Please and thank you.

4. Tuning me up - I can take my car to Jiffy Lube for a tune up. But not if I need tuning up. If you are the type of so called good girl that has gone months without it, go get you a dude to tune up your nipples and other areas. You will run much better.

5. Laying pipe - I can call a plumber to fix my pipes at home, but I cannot satisfy that anatomy pipe successfully on my own. Althought if the plumber fine enought I guess he can fix that pipe too :-). Hey kill two birds with one stone.

6. Telling me I'm beautiful - Hell I can look in the mirror and go to a salon to look beautiful and feel beautiful and my homegirls will compliment me. But no one can make me feel beautiful like a man when he is slow stroking me and playing in my hair. So yeah....can I get some love.

7. Taking care of me - Yeah I have a great career, make great money, so I can pay my own bills. I can even buy some toys to help take care of my lower regions, but not like a man can. There is nothing like a strong willed man to come take care of THIS BODY.

So yeah fellas. I don't really agree with the saying "Men ain't Shit"...there is one big reason we need you. SEX. Thanks for being there

True

Why Divorced Women are Better to Date than Other Women

2011-01-26T09:55:00.002-05:00

My cousin and I had a joyous conversation about relationships. I know, not another relationship topic, but I must say not many of you bloggers and readers can relate to this one. Not many of you have been married. Matter of fact, that is pretty much one of the last things you have on your to do list, find suitable mate, have kids, revolve my life around them, be happy. (blah blah blah)

Divorce isn't pretty, and I don't encourage it. But I think we can take some cues from divorcees. The problem is lots of us jump into marriage for the wrong reasons. Some of us get knocked up early. Some of us marry that which is good on paper. Some marry because they can. Whatever the reason may be, we are still making mistakes in this department because the divorce rate is still going steady. Divorced folks seem to have a better handle at relationships and how they work in my opinion. The experience they gained can help them find a better mate going forward.

I wouldn't reccomend never been married ladies to date a divorced man cause he will take it too slow for you if at all. Divorced women are different however. They still may want to settle but not as eager. Here is why:

1. They aren't pressed - You will probably never get asked by a divorced woman "When are we going to take this relationship to another level" because they have already been there and done that. they aren't pressed to check this off our list. So no nagging from them. They tend to take things as slow as you need.

2. They are experienced - Most of them already know how to be a good wife and how to treat a man. They learned from past mistakes and know where they went wrong.

3. They know who they are - It seems young and new wives revolve their life around their husband. Because that failed divorced women previously, they know that isn't the way to go. So they tend to have separate lives outside of their relationship which makes you want them more.

4. What you see is what you get - they do no fronting early in the relationship just to get you to commit only to change later. They may have tried that before and now just don't give a damn. You will take them as they are because they already tried changing for a man.

5. They know exactly what they want - No guessing with them. If they just want something casual, they will let you know. If they want to try to move towards something, they will let you know. Their experience in the past makes them fully aware of what they want going forward in a relationship.

6. Confidence - It seems they are more confident because they aren't worried about the clock ticking down and not finding a husband. They already had a husband so they are confident it will happen again and if it don't *shrug*. Combined with all of the above makes for a very confident woman.

So don't write off divorced women just yet. I know you want your own, untainted virgin, but give a divorced woman a chance. Don't write them off just yet. You may see yourself less stressed

Do We Really Only Care About Sex and Hip Hop?

2011-01-19T10:14:00.000-05:00

Most of us have some sort of blog, social page, or website. Most of us like to discuss things and debate. We like to be entertained. Most of us are very educated (all of us are to some extent) and most of us don't really care about much.

This post is about those people.

Whenever someone posts a serious topic on blogs, on facebook, on twitter, there is little to no response.

But when someone talks about who has the biggest booty, why they can't get a man or what's wrong with women these days....BOOM. JACKPOT.

Yes I am talking about the lack of responses to yesterday's post. But I am not alone. I frequently read some of the most popular sites and notice what topics get replied to the most, despite the site's effort to post a broad range of topics.

It would make one wonder, is all we care about really SEX and RELATIONSHIPS?

It makes me feel kind of sad that when one wants to talk politics, or talk about the crisis in our communities, and if it doesn't involve the lack of marriages Black folk seem to have, the topic is skipped, ignored or deemed stupid.

Let someone ask "ASS OR TIDDIES" on twitter or facebook and see how many responses you get.

Talk about the missing 16 year old girl...CRICKETS?!?!?!

Is it true what they say about us? That we lack intelligence. That all we care about is our hip hop music and relationships.

OF COURSE NOT!!!! As I said before, there are plenty of us who talk about EVERYTHING under the sun. Who aren't afraid to go out of their comfort zone and form an opinion on something else besides Nicki Minaj's CD.

So my question is why aren't the rest of us talking about other things? Why are the topics the most run down getting the most play. Why, it seems, a lot of Black folk can't get into heated debates about the economy, the housing market, mental health issues and even our history as a culture, but will go to WAR of Nas. vs. JAY Z?

Is it because we want to seem COOL to our friends? Is it lack of education and exposure to such topics? Are we REALLY that behind in the world that we will only discuss the BASIC things like who's butt is the biggest in the latest Kanye Video or why men are dogs and why women are sluts?

Is this ALL the majority of us care about? Sometimes that's the way it looks to me. :-/

Thoughts?

Why Black People Don't Believe in Depression: GIRL JUST SNAP OUT OF IT !!!!

2011-01-18T11:33:00.000-05:00

I get depressed sometimes for various reasons. A lot of us do. We don't call it depressed though. We say we are tired, taking a break, taking some time off. We stop answering phone calls. We cut off all of our friends. We get angry easy. We drink way more than we should. We are alcoholics, drug abusers, nymphos, whores, sluts, tired or lazy. But we, Black people, are never depressed.

I am the one of the few Black people that will openly admit at any given time that I am actually depressed. Does it help me? No. Some Black person always tells me to snap out of it, starts telling me to just shut up and don't speak that into existence. Some even flat out ignore me and/or call me an attention whore and quickly change the subject.

See the thing is, Black people aren't supposed to be depressed. We don't have time to be depressed. We are super men and women who didn't have it hard as our ancestors who had to pick cotton in 100 degree weather with no break. They weren't depressed either. They were survivors. If they can survive that without being depressed, then surely you can't be depressed over some student loan you can't pay or losing your job. You just keep on working.

We don't have time to be depressed cause we have too much to do. Besides, that's for White people who aren't as strong as us. I mean, come on, we did survive the diaspora and slaverly. DEPRESSED?!?!? Huh girl you just want some attention (actually said to me when, as a teen, I was very VERY troubled)

We are still as a whole afraid of our feelings. We are still afraid to feel. We still have to prove to the world that we got this. That we can handle it all. We hide behind our work, drugs, our church and family. We appear to have it all together, but really, we are depressed.

Slaves were depressed. How could they not be. I don't have to give you the details to understand. You already know. They just kept on working. Well, they had no choice anyway. They didn't have feelings and weren't allowed to express how tired they are/were. The problem is that have never really addressed our depression as a culture. We didn't have the opportunity to. That tradition of not expressing our feelings has carried on into today. Instead we choose to hide it, act like it doesn't exist and distract ourselves from it. We are still depressed as a culture. And if we don't directly address this depression, and talk about it and try to move forward instead of sweeping it under the rug, we will continue to have children having babies because they are seeking more love and affection. We will continue to have a high rate of substance abuse. We will continue to have a lot of our young people just give up on trying to become something more and result to violence. We will continue to not care about our bodies and just eat to feel better. We will always be depressed, until we acknowledge that we are depressed, and seek heeling.

Why do you think Black people are so afraid of being depressed and expressing sadness? What other ways have you seen Black people hide their true feelings?

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2011-01-18T11:11:00.001-05:00

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Are Times Changing or Are We Just "Jacked Up"?

2010-11-22T11:02:00.001-05:00

I know several people who are pregnant. Out of those several, I only know 2 that are married. Out of those several, a non-married couple ARE living as a family so I will give them their props (for now).

The others get a :-/

When did getting our women pregnant and not sticking around to raise the family become the "norm".

I got into a discussion with some friends. It didn't get really heated but the sentiment with one was pretty much that there is nothing wrong with having a baby without being married or with the guy/girl. The child will be loved and in the end that's all that matters.

Am I missing something? Have things changed? Do we really feel it's okay to have kids without the mother or father anymore. Have women become that independent of men that we don't even feel we need them to raise children? Or has the man gotten in our brain and successfully separated our family?
Think back.

Our grandmothers and grandfathers were married, raised the kids together in the same household until grown and that was that. Now mind you I know these weren't perfect marriages, but you still saw the wife and husband around the house doing it "The right way". A balance between the paternal and maternal instincts. Seeing a strong male figure and a soft female figure. Having the mother AND father hug, love and protect you and show you love. (Well for the most part, again, I know some households weren't perfect). But, the most important thing here is that the mother and father were both present. That was normal then. Even when I was a little girl, kids were ridiculed for not having both mother and father in the home. I felt like an outsider.

Now if you have your father at home your are a freak of nature. You are different and people actually go "wow"

This is a cycle that is repeating terribly. It's going to continue because we now consider this behavior as acceptable and some of us even encourage it. I hate to hear women say "We don't need his ass, we will get along just fine". That is simply NOT TRUE.

We are breeding men who feel they are not needed in the household. We are breeding women who feel they don't need a man to raise a child. We are teaching our sons that the women can and SHOULD do it all because their mothers did and everything turned out fine. We are exposing our daughters and sons to every male and female we think we may like a little bit showing them that it's okay to be around my mom or dad short term, make it do what it do and roll out. We are teaching our kids that detachment is the norm, not attachment. They are repeating our cycle of getting knocked up and either rolling out or doing spit alone. They will repeat this behavior if we don't instill in them and expose them to what a supportive family should be.

Now this isn't a hetero post. I know there are homosexual couples who raise kids very well. The key there is they are not doing it alone. They are a couple, a unit. Heck for that matter this isn't even an marriage post, because I know couples who don't believe in marriage or don't want to get married but are living together as a couple and raising the kids, so the kids still see a unit. I also know aunts and uncles who raise kids, grandparents and widowed or divorced parents who are great parents. But I feel that as long as 2 people are coming together to raise kids or at least try, hey, you showed the kids that this is how it should be, even though it may not have worked out. No not everyone is going to have the same circumstances. I know I didn't. But I know that I would have been better of had I had both my parents (heck at least one) in my life. My parents didn't even TRY, as most parents nowadays don't. They just have unprotected sex, decide they want to keep the baby and again, the cycle has started again, as ususal.

Further, I believe that war and drugs or both contributed to fathers slacking on the job, but that's another topic I think.

It seems that people use the excuse that other people "did it alone" to keep doing it alone. My question is, why aren't we preventing this or trying to prevent this. Telling our kids not to make the same mistakes isn't working because our 19 year old unwed daughters and sons are still getting pregnant. How can single mothers and fathers show or provide a decent example of what a family unit should be? What other ways besides sex education can we use to prevent single parenthood, when it seems we are already so far removed? Or could it be I'm stuck in the past and that women and men really don't feel the need to be couples to concieve and raise children. If I am behind in the times, someone please bring me up to date.

Shout to all parents, whether single or married, biological or not.

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GUEST POST: Manifesto: A public declaration of principles, policies, or intentions, especially of a political nature.

2010-11-09T15:50:00.001-05:00

Meet Krusher Kronkite (If you haven't already) who is currently banned from some of the most popular blogs for his incendiary commentary. He makes no apologies expressing his discontent with vociferous opinions examining the degradation of the black social paradigm in politics, sports, entertainment, and culture (and I love it).

I love BRUTAL HONESTY, this expresser has me BEAT in that department (so far). This will be a classic post for me as it should be for you. ENJOY, SHARE IT and ENJOY IT SOME MORE. !!! A must read.

Thanks Krusher

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Disclaimer:The views, opinions, positions or strategies expressed by media anarchist and those providing comments are theirs alone, and do not necessarily reflect the views, opinions, positions or strategies of Black people who are passionate about the preservation and well-being of our culture or any person thereof.

Ironically this past election was the year anniversary of Media Anarchist Guerilla Blog. It was conceived out of anger and gave birth to hundreds of posts and thousands of words relating to the savagery within the Black culture that continue to blindly navigate the wilderness of North America. It seems that everyone is living the American dream except for our people. I am however; willing to honor any man who is willing to sacrifice his life and freedom to feed his family. This great nation was built from corruption and an agenda to control, so fuck the conspiracy shit. Many infidels suffer carpal tunnel from reaping enormous wages and salaries off of our ignorance by just a click of a mouse.

And to make matters perverse, we would rather spend our time conjuring the most grotesque images and soundbytes in social media with our key strokes and downloads. Our youth in our current and former hoods are dropping faster than the bullet casings from the guns they are viciously slaughtered by. If gangsters wish to throw their set up, how about each set throw up a community center in their hoods with 10% of their illicit proceeds to sponsor a kid that has an opportunity to be someone other than a statistic? These rappers especially the conscious ones are full of shit too. How come it was so easy for them to hustle dope in our communities and fail at establishing their own distribution companies after 30 years of Hip-Hop and continuing to sell only clothing and liquor? How about a grocery store or homeless shelter? Just ask Ron Burkle who owns a majority of Sean John, while Diddy coons for the camera.

Black Parasitic politicians and clergy shuffle through wards to shake our hands,save our souls, and molest our babies. Corrupt non-profit organizations are reaping millions of dollars in grant money that miserably fails at reaching the children that desperately need viable resources. Hmm,does it sound like I'm pissed off?Actually I'm defecating on the morality within the culture we claim to represent. If we are not willing to work together for a higher purpose;then we are the ones responsible for wallowing in our own excrement. I realize that everyone in life has their own purpose, however at times I wish Dr. King and Malcolm X would have just kept their mouths shut and maybe they might have had a chance at living long enough to see how their country is fucking over our senior citizens and disabled veterans.

Goldman Sachs and AIG just pulled off the biggest bank heist in history, sorta like a real life "Ocean's Eleven" as street thugs are afraid to open an account or jack a bank that holds more currency than the bodegas and victims they prey upon sentenced with the same time. I truly understand the significance of Obama in the White House and he shouldn't be held responsible for being the most famous janitor in history. Shit, George Walker had us in the belly of the beast for eight bullets, but isn't strange to witness a dramatic rise in Black related ignorance since Barack's historic oath?

Our children are too immature to address and fully understand the complexities of homosexuality to know who they are at 10,15, and 18 years old. We live in a society that no longer appreciates the value of family, while Las Vegas lure our kids and our money for parents that squander their college tuition on "Texas hold em"and few days of debauchery. Wouldn't it be wonderful if more of today's generation aspsire to have their own businesses instead of becoming another Big Meech and Larry Hoover? Although I listen to Rick Ross's music, however the streets are drawn to its violent lyrics and not to be drawn into the corporate boardrooms of executives that send their offspring to the best schools inherited from our vivid memoirs of our pain and struggle..

My rage and passion has assembled at the same moment in time to take a stand against this blasphemy of the most divine beings to have ever graced planet Earth and beyond our dimension. We built pyramids and built within cyphers and we now have the audacity to fear the Illuminati? Brother Grant's life was worth no more than a dog and unfortunately he died in vain due to our failure to rise no higher than a candlelight vigil and a barbecue. So tell me how does it feel like second class citizens in a country your bloodline built with their bare hands?

This manifesto is a battle cry to unite with anyone willing to serve God and raise a banner of righteousness to fight this plaque of spiritual darkness. If you are not here to make the world a better place, then what the fuck are you really here for? While political parties are having parties sniffing that white from across Mexico's border that feeds America's salacious appetite for cocaine that kills thousands each year by sadistic cartels. And you mean to tell me that crime doesn't pay? I beg to differ, so please tell me what master do you serve?

And I can't forget the pseudo religious pundits;that is ready to attack the church and the Bible that they do not even take the time to read and examine. I'm sorry for being so blunt, but how much shit have we learned from grade school that we actually apply to our lives today? I strongly feel that if you are in tune with forces outside of yourself, you will find the answers to the complexities of life that is meant to mold your character and not hinder it. Hollywood actually does the opposite by sodomizing our gifted men and women in film and television.

Oprah after 20 plus years, finally decided to take her final year on the air to address men who were sexually abused. Despite their pain wouldn't it be nice if Oprah could donate a lifetime's worth of counseling to help these 200 men cope and throw in trips and prizes like she does with those white broads every damn year? Although I'm not a big fan of Tyler Perry's work, his fortune could employ hungry and talented writers and diversify the subject matter that exists within our culture through our eyes. Imagine if Black men had a forum or show to address our needs instead of a two-part episode?

Why should a Black man have to don a dress, get shot in the ass, wear makeup, and participate in a secret society by penetration initiation to receive prestigious trinkets of depravity(*cough* Denzel)? Could these so-called Hip-Hop beefs, actually have a down-low hidden meaning? After all they fight and scratch like broads over their man, especially if he feels that he doesn't get enough of his attention. Does that mean that Guru doesn't deserve credit for spittin the dopest verses in Hip-Hop music? Does it really matter how he lived life away from the mike? And what about the others that masquerade in the most hyper-masculine images millions of young Black men emulate across the country and secretly share their dicks with men?

How come gangs keep missing their intended target and killing innocent people? Wouldn't you think it is possible for the shot callers to train their soldiers by learning to shoot properly and introduce severe penalties for executing law-abiding citizens? When will "keyboard bangers" learn to stop incriminating themselves(guns,drugs,etc.), portraying like they are official on these "anti"-social blogs that have enough hits to attract big dollars and advertisers? I realize that every culture has its flaws and inconsistencies , but where is the balance and really how wealthy is Jay-Z; if his(Roc-A-fella) legacy has nothing to do with one of the most wealthiest caucasian families in the world?

Over the past year, I have reached out to numerous entities within social media only to discover that their intentions are malignant and I've shown mercy until now. We are in a pivotal time in our lives that we can no longer straddle the fence, you must choose what side you are willing to fight on. Stop spending valuable energy worrying about a government that doesn't have the capacity to conquer the honorable. Wanna rise up Black people? Let's stop contributing to the close to $50,ooo tax dollars it takes to place us in a warehouse for prison logistics and slave labor that can be used to pay an honest salary outside of the electrified and razor sharp fences.

Black people should relinquish their salacious desire to seek singular Black leadership and take an active role in improving our standards one by one. I'm ready for the healing to begin and help prevent us from picking the scab. In 1968, the late godfather of soul(James Brown) recorded one of the greatest empowerment anthems in history(Say it loud,I'm Black and I'm Proud) and we fail to honor his memory and contributions on the same day we unwrap our gifts on Christmas day. Michael loved us enough to sacrifice his pain to make us happy through his music and we have certain artists that couldn't wait to desecrate his masterpiece and exploit their greed. Even Pac tried to reach us and now he's gone.

There are some Black people that will criticize the immigrants for their progress and continue to patronize their nail salons,restaurants, and purchase our hair products from their stores. Many of us cannot see beyond the invisible borders we place upon ourselves in the position of proprietorship and the wonderful opportunity of securing wealth for future generations. As a child my mother worked as a housekeeper and expressed her desire after graduating high school was to learn how to use a typewriter. Unfortunately for today's generation this isn't the case. There are now exposed to a vortex of a global market regarding the highest salaries from students from other countries that come from dirt floor classrooms and make it in America one book at a time while our kids are picking up guns.

Many of our people will never experience the possibilities life has to offer until they stop making excuses. Homeless? Been there. Unemployed? Been there.Incarcerated? Been there. During those days, I eventually found my purpose along the way and realized that the most difficult thing to do is earn an honest living when you know that deep down inside that you are worth more. I also find that crack selling actually easy in comparison; unless you include the presence of snitches,police,unhealthy eating habits,lack of proper sleep,alcoholism,std's,violence,lengthy prison sentences,and well you get the point. Just ask the donkey's on crime reality shows(First 48,Bait Car,Cops, etc.) that continue to get busted trying to out think men who have studied psychology,sociology,and trained in profiling our Black asses.

Maury continues to transmit racial stereotypes of promiscuous and irresponsible behavior from our folks; as their free airline tickets and hotel accomodations lure them in for millions to see how dysfunctional our lives really are. There are scores of Black men that exploit women and there are even more that exploit themselves by allowing their asses to speak for them and not from the circumference of their brain. Brothers patronize and fantasize about their ideal woman from a stripper pole as marriages vows are disregarded beyond the privacy of the v.i.p. room and velvet rope.

If you feel that I am a polemicist, as I expressed in the disclaimer you are entitled to your opinion of me. However, Media Anarchist isn't fueled by Google AdSense or a alphabetized list of ratings celebrities and bloggers find value in. This is bigger than me and bigger than ourselves. I declare war on social media and will confront those that dare to ignore the plight of our people. And that goes for the N.A.A.C.P., Sharpton,Dyson,West,Smiley,Young,KRS-One,Simmons,Jesse, or anyone claiming to have solutions that are making a living by running their mouths and not getting the job done. My armor is on and ready to fight. Are you? If so then stand up or shut the fuck up, because we are at war so please lose the narcissism and chose your weapon to help save of our culture of Blackness. Peace and blessings.

Hebrews 4:2

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

Krusher Kronkite
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If I work Out, Black Men Won’t Love me

2010-11-03T13:20:00.003-04:00

I have high cholesterol. I also have body image issues. My whole life, I have been ragged on for lacking in areas physically that Black women are known to be very well endowed with. I also have too much in an area that no woman is allegedly supposed to have none. I blame my Native American roots for my lack of African booty. I understand that we had to embrace our physical differences from the majority, but is it at the cost of our overall health issues?

To work off the middle region, I know I need to do cardio. Cardio will lower my cholesterol, reduce my risk of heart disease, make the blood pump better in my veins and make me overall healthier, physically anyway.

But My self esteem will suffer. I will be a size 4, with little curves. (I know cause I have done this before. I felt good, looked good IMO, but shun by my own Black community. I gained the weight back and the negative comments left. I was even told how much better I looked even tho I knew that my cholesterol went back up and I felt sluggish)

I will be taunted by women and men about having no meet on my bones. I will get less attention from males and more negative attention from females.

I will be accused of not eating, being anorexic and called downright unattractive.

I will be given stupid advice like “You don’t have to do cardio, just do sit ups” and “Just do some squats, that will give you a butt”

I will be told crap like “Black women are supposed to be THICK”…No…we are shapely I agree, but we are not supposed to be “THICK”

Yet another subject a lot of our folk are CLUELESS ABOUT. Health and Fitness.

Black women have been long using their body shape as an excuse not to work out (along with their hair). They care more about being physically appealing than being healthy (I know, I wrote about it before). Most of us feel that we are unattractive if we are “too skinny” or “Don’t have an azz.” Even more so if we don't have our hair FRIED and Acrylic overlay for some. We continuously put unhealthy things in and ON our bodies in an effort to fix what’s on the inside – SELF ESTEEM and self love (among other things).

Don’t get me wrong, a lot of us are BORN with the “Right parts”. Kudos to you. I wasn’t. Does that mean I need to take on unhealthy practices to get like Big Butt Bertha so I can have the affections of Black men and Women?

Because of our lack of self worth and self esteem, we try to appear to be all poised and together on the outside with our hair and nails. But on the inside we are tearing ourselves apart. We are gorging on unhealthy food. We are placing chemicals on our scalp and on our fingers in an effort to be beautiful. Glue on our eyes to attach longer lashes. Silicone in our rears to have instant curves. We spend more on those things than we do on our annual deductible for the dentist. We focus too much on the outside, and not enough on the inside, this is includes health and self esteem.

We are killing ourselves in more ways than one.

I really want to commit to improving my overall health, but my lack of physical self esteem is getting in the way. I want to work out and be healthy, but I am fearful of the comments and negative energy I will receive for doing so. I want to be attractive but I know that many will not find me attractive….if I work out. So do I get healthier, or try and remain “attractive” by Black men’s standards :-/

How can we resolve health issues in our community? Should we work harder at showing our young Black men that Black women come in more than one shape and size? Would more acceptance of the skinny women in the BLACK community help with our issues of eating healthier? If we adopt a healthier lifestyle overall will it impact the rest of the issues we have with our physical beauty?

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Black Men, I Don't Hate you, I Just Want You to Do Better

2010-10-20T22:07:00.003-04:00

I had to write this to explain myself. My twitter twin shouted me out on follow friday to follow me because I man bash more than anyone tweeter she knows, of course she said she was playing, but I began to wonder if I do come off as a man hater.

I do write a lot of posts exposing men's secrets, their games and trying to help women get one up on these men. I'm basically tired of seeing women crying about men and their ways. I'm tired of women feeling like the NEED men to survive no matter how bad the relationship is. So yes, sometimes my posts on twitter and my blog are rantish (new True term). But I assure you. I MEAN NO ONE ANY HARM.

Now on to you men. I do have issues with some of you. Particularly our BLACK MEN. I'm going to give it to you straight. YOU ARE EFFING IT ALL UP!!! Yes I said it and I mean it.

Raise your hand if you have one or more kids out of wedlock.

Raise your hand if you left those kids behind. Whether for another chick, because she is used up or because you got LOCKED UP.

Raise your hand if you have cheated on more than one woman multiple times.

Raise your hand if you were ever COMPLETELY DISHONEST with a woman you KNEW was giving you her all.

Raise your hand if you ever even ATTEMPTED at doing the honorable thing and being a true family man. Raise it if you have ever attempted to marry or make an honorable woman out of the woman you raw dogged and knocked up.

*waits*

I hear (in my head cause blogs don't talk) plenty of excuses and reasons why she "accidentally" got pregnant. How she was "pressed" for you. How you thought yall had an understanding about your relationship. How you was just "hustling" to keep food on the table. EFF YOUR EXCUSES.

The truth of the matter is. YOU ARE HURTING BLACK WOMEN. You hurt us and now we are lashing out by hurting you back. We do it by not letting you see your children. We hurt you back by giving you the ATTITUDE YOU DESERVE. We hurt you back by hurting your pockets, cause you care more about the money in your pocket than your own damn children. We do it by not giving a damn anymore, buy not giving you sex. By not cooking for you no more cause we know you don't appreciate it. By getting drunk and cussing you out in public. By screwing your best friend and brother, caues you screwed our best friend and sister. And they screwed you because someone screwed them.

You are hurting us by giving us a false hope for something you KNOW you will never or never intended to give us, You lead us on. You make us believe that you want us, need us and love us. You make our love for you delusional. By making love to us and TELLING us you love us but showing it half assed you are pulling the wool over our eyes.

Yes we women do the same thing. We cheat, lie and manipulate you guys too. But think LONG AND HARD. Do you DESERVE IT? Think back to a woman from your past. Sure you may not have hurt the current woman, but you hurt someone else so deep she felt at some point she had no reason to live. All because of your selfish lust and the need to feed your ego. And when you couldn't feed your ego enough with her love, sometimes YOU BEAT HER.

NO REAL MAN lies to women, decieves women, has babies with multiple women without making a home and then leaving. NO!! You don't tell a woman you like her, show her interest, use her then throw her to the side like she aint nothing.

A real man STAYS AND TAKES CARE OF THE FAMILY HE MAKES. Nothing says MAN like a strong protector. A man that stands by his woman and children. A man who even tho the relationship didn't work out, he tried. And he knows he tried. He's not trying to place blame on the woman being "crazy" or saying she was just pressed to have his baby, or worse, saying "Hey, I'm a man, that's what men do".

See most of yall don't even TRY. I know this for a fact. I know this from my past experience. I know this from my friends experiences. I know this from the drunken girl talk nights at one of our houses, or at the bar, or at an intervention session because one person is destroying their life and don't know it. I feel it in the pain from not hearing from my friends for days because they are depressed and don't know why. I know why. She is a single mother with little to no support from the man who made her a single mother. From the man who assured her he would be there either through his words or his manipulation. She is a woman who has fallen in love but can't get reciprocity.

MAN UP. YOU USED HER KNOWING THAT SHE WAS INTO YOU. KNOWING THAT SHE WANTED TO BE WITH YOU. YOU USED HER KNOWING ALL YOU WANTED TO DO WAS DUMP YOUR SEED IN HER AND ROLL OUT. YOU TOLD HER THAT SHE MEANT SOMETHING TO YOU EVEN THO SHE DIDN'T. YOU KNEW THAT SHE WAS JUST TRYING TO PLEASE YOU.

And you shitted on her anyway.

I don't hate you Men. I hate your WAYS. And no, not all Black men behave this way, I can't stress that enough. But from my experience, those great men are few and far between.

Stop it now, because someone may do that to your daughter one day. Stop it now, because we have to rebuild our families. We have to bring the love back in the Black community that THEY destroyed. Erase the mentality that you are supposed to just spread your seed with no responsibilty. We have to learn to love ourselves and that will start when we stop hurting others.

I love you Black men. NOW GET YOUR SPIT TOGETHER!!!!!!!

Sushi and WEAVE at Jordan's 8

2010-10-14T22:03:00.001-04:00

Who doesn't love sushi? If you don't, you don't know what you are missing. I happen to pride myself in recommending some of the best sushi spots in the city. So imagine my excitement when I found out about one of my favorite hot spots, Jordan's 8, winning the Crystal Top Spot Award for best sushi spot. This resturant deserves it. It's a quaint super modern and super sexy spot located on 8th street SE. It has an outdoor patio and is located in one of the most popular areas for dining, socializing and drinks. The food is to die for. If you haven't checked it out, please run there. This past Wednesday, the award for DC's Top Spot was presented to the resturant by way of a Sushi Social at the top spot. Congrats to Jordan's 8 for winning the award. Check out the menu at http://www.jordans8.com/

Doesn't this look DELICIOUS!!!!

Now onto the WEAVE. No not that kind of WEAVE. October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. WEAVE is a non-profit organization geared towards assisting survivors of domestic abuse. Domestic abuse doesn't just happen to women. It doesn't discriminate against gender or against sexual orientation. WEAVE provides social services, counseling and educational services as well as a host of other services to assist survivors of domestic abuse. WHW WEB has teamed up with WEAVE to bring awareness and funds to victims of domestic abuse. WEAVE staff happily enjoyed the sushi social and were very grateful to all those that attended because 50% the drink specials went to funding for WEAVE. For more information about WEAVE and its services, visit http://www.weaveincorp.org/

Don't forget to check out What's Hot in Washington at http://www.whwweb.com/. Thanks to April Watts for pulling together a great event and always staying on top of what's hot in DC.

Later GATERS

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Dude, I’m not coming over your house!!!!!!!!!

2010-10-08T14:05:00.000-04:00

If you follow me on twitter you know I rant about men sometimes. I rant about dumb men mostly. Mostly what gets my goat and my gears grinding are men who you just met trying to be all up in your crib. WTH. We met 3 days ago, WHY ARE YOU INVITING YOURSELF OVER MY HOUSE? Or vice versa. Trying to convince you to come to theirs. What in the SAM HELL?!?!?!?!

I have also noticed that dudes are getting more and more creative with ways to get over your house and do the do. It never ceases to amaze me. Even if you tell a dude skraight up “You ain’t coming over my joint” they still try. Trust me. I have heard some slick butt ways from guys who’s main goal in life was to get over my house and do the nassy.

I remember this one guy who claimed to have a condo tried all different types of ways to get me to come over. His last attempt was “What if you just come outside of my house and talk” I said “Okay” then he said “If you trust me outside my house why can’t you trust me INSIDE my house” DUDE REALLY THO. I SAID I WASN’T COMING OVER YOUR HOUSE!!!! We can meet somewhere, course he aint have time for that but always had time to be at my house or me at his. TERRIBLE. I stopped giving him the time of day CLEARLY.

Recently a fellow blog buddy of mine had a guy tell her he wanted to cook for her at HIS HOUSE. Really tho. STOP. First off, I aint never taste your food. It may be some crap. Second. I just met you, I’m not bout to be all up in your house. You probably gon order take out anyway and faked like you cooked it.

The worse is the whole “Let’s order a movie and watch it”. How bout your cheap butt TAKE ME TO THE MOVIES. *sigh*. You know gooden well 15 minutes into the movie you gon be trying to reach out for a tiddie. STOP.

And stop inviting yourself over my spit. I texted a dude early Saturday to see if he wanted to hang out. Told him I was in the house for now. This fool texted me back “Want some company” DUDE. WHY ARE YOU INVITING YOURSELF TO MY HOUSE. If I wanted you over here, I would invite you my DARN SELF.

That reminds me of the whole “I wanna see you” crap. Soon as you say “Okay.” They asking for your address or giving you theirs. NO NO!!! No! “Where do you want to meet me?” is usually my immediate response. I have learned that “I want to see you” means “I want to screw you” (Hell I use it myself sometimes now)

The worse is when you tell a guy straight up “I ain’t into dudes coming over my house when I just met them” and his response is “So you want to come over my house?” NO RETARD! I don’t.

When you go over a guys house or they come over yours, most likely it’s because sex is going to happen. No doubt about that. So ladies, don’t even go over to a dudes house or invite them over unless you are prepared to do the do. Sadly, most (if not all) guys think once house chilling is allowed, cooter chilling is as well. *sigh* NO MATTER HOW NICE THE GUY IS. WHEN YOU ALL UP IN HIS CRIB OR YOU IN HIS, HE EXPECTS SEX. PERIOD.

Thirsty for poon ass mofos. UGH. Get on my NERVES

The Biggest Man whore Professions

2010-10-08T13:49:00.001-04:00

I love that our brothers are getting their lives together and working hard. Whether corporate or blue collar, honest living is an honest living. I would never hate on that. I do seem to notice that with some professions, there is a prevalence of man-whoring going on. With these professions, there seems to be some unwritten code that you will be a ho. It’s like it’s part of some other secret job training. Or perhaps it’s why these men go into these fields in the first place. Their motivation for wanting to be in that career field is probably the perks that desperate women will flock to their sexy jobs wanting a professional man to take care of her.

You know where this is leading. YES, I’m about to expose those man whoring professions. Wouldn’t be True if I didn’t *wink*

Coaches: Desperate, single moms who just want a little attention from a man and coaches have access to an abundance of these single moms. Each one different, each one wanting a little bit of support. “Sure I’ll let Johnny ride with me to the game. You know you look nice today”. True story, I “dated” a coach (not my child’s coach by the way, he was just a coach I met). He was screwing just about every single mom on the kids team (well not every but a whole lot of them). It was down right embarrassing. We were desperate not to be single…so we dated our child’s coach. Ladies, BEWARE. These men tend to be WHORES.

Metro Employees: I love the hard work metro employees put in. They deal with a lot of stress. Some of them even look cute in their uniform. So cute that they are WHORES. Most of them have access to all kinds of women. From Lawyers to admin. assistants to welfare recipients. All day long they see all these different types of women. They uniform helps make them attractive cause women know they have a job. They are like kids in candy stores. MOST LIKELY they already have a woman at home (because they can, it’s so easy). So if you don’t hear from your metro man that much, it’s probably NOT because he doing so much overtime driving the bus that he can’t call you. It’s most likely cause he is trying to juggle all his women.

Police: Police to me are born bullies. Most become police because they want to control something. They use their “powers” to get your number when you are trying to get out of a ticket (Yup, happened to me MORE THAN ONCE). They too have access to a lot of women. Plus, they attract women because we know they have a job (just like the metro man). They get off on power and control and having a lot of women fits right into their need to run spit and boost their low self esteem.

Firemen: Same as policemen. They have a uniform which is a plus to women who are looking for a man who earns an honest living. Like the policemen, they don’t have to put in much effort to attract women. Women FLOCK to them. Firemen are sexier than metromen and Policemen. It seems their jobs can be the most hazardous. It doesn’t help that they sit around MOSTLY men all day. That may push them towards their very flirty ways. Women, take note, you are not SPECIAL to most firemen. They have women at their disposal.

Bartenders: AHHHH. The bartender. This is sort of a no brainer. Like the firemen, women FLOCK to the usually sexy bartender. Women will do anything to get free drinks and attention. Women THROW themselves at bartenders. It gets pretty hard to turn everyone down. (trust me, I know from experience). Don’t ever EVER get into a SERIOUS relationship with a bartender. YOU WILL HAVE TO REALLY SECURE TO DO SO. You may have to even be prepared to spend a lot of time alone (again I know from personal experience). It’s easy for them to cheat too cause everyone is a “customer” or “coworker”. You can’t prove otherwise because of their profession. Most bartenders become bartenders anyway to get attention (and females). Ladies, they are to be used ONLY FOR SEX. (Hell ANY club worker/promoter can be a whore)

Again, I am in no way saying ALL men of these professions are whores, but the majority of them do have whorish tendencies. Ladies, just guard your heart with these fellas. Try not to take them too seriously unless they show you they DESERVE IT. Don’t be pressed to say you have a man.

Ladies (and men) can you think of any more man whore professions?

NOT SO OBVIOUS SIGNS HE'S NOT INTO WOMEN

2010-09-13T12:41:00.002-04:00

I was having a conversation with my homegirl last week. Somehow we got on the subject of downlow or secretly homo men (Okay, I know how we got on the subject, but I can't tell YALL that. Long story short, I think someone is Gay or Bi based on their behavior).
So..after our discussion and after I explained it to my homegirl, she kinda agreed then said "THAT WOULD BE A GREAT POST"

Really?!?!? I don't want to offend anyone. I don't want the secretly homo men to get mad cause I called them out. I don't want the men in denial to be even more annoyed, but most of all, I don't want to UPSET the straight men who have homo tendacies.

But I'm going to do it anyway.

NOT SO OBVIOUS SIGNS HE IS A HOMO

1. He takes camera phone pics of himself...A LOT - Who else does this besides women. It's barely acceptable for women, but why are you as a GROWN STRAIGHT MAN taking mad camera phone pics of yourself? If you are straight ..STOP cause you look like a girl.

2. In a social setting he doesn't talk to women - He is encircled in a group of dudes in a social setting, a pretty girl comes up and no one stop talking to engage her. The dudes just keep talking to eachother about NOTHING. The girl tosses her hair and even makes eye contact but still NO CONVO for her. Worse yet if the dudes get MAD if she interrupts the conversation (true story). Um DUDE...you look like you don't like girls. Talk to some women for goodness sake. WTH

3. He's still a virgin - NUFF SAID

4. He has a low sex drive or doesn't want to have sex at all - Yes I stated this may be a sign that he has another girl, but DUH it could also mean he is HOMOSEXUAL and dosen't like poon at all or THAT MUCH. No he's not just "Being a good guy" he's being a HOMO.

5. His lip gloss is Shinier than yours - Why are his lips shinier than yours? Why is he putting on SO MUCH blistex that his lips shine? Further, why does it do it like that on PURPOSE. Naw his lips shouldn't be ashy, but they also shouldn't be POPPIN.

6. He gets his toes done, nails manicured and eyebrows waxed EVERY 2 WEEKS -He up in the nail salon more than you with his own nail kit AND puts on clear polish when the mani/pedi is done. STOP IT. This is VERY VERY HOMO. Nothing wrong with a man grooming himself but if yall have a standing bi-weekly appointment together, he may not be trying to stay groomed for YOU....he may be getting groomed for "poker night"

7. He did a significant bid in prison - again, NUFF SAID

8. "MAN I THOUGHT THAT WAS A WOMAN" - Do I really need to explain this one? He always "accidentally" hits on transexuals? Or "She looked like a woman in the picture" or "I was drunk and her butt pads looked good" REALLY THO? STOP...he's probably prefers someone that has both parts.

9. He always spending the night at his man's house - Ummm..yeah..that don't sound right.

Okay so maybe none of this means he is a gay, but it does make you wonder. I guess this is more of a public service announcement to dudes to STOP DOING fruity stuff that makes you more feminine than when Ru-paul works the runway. Then again, I know some gay guys that don't do ANY of the aforementioned, so this could just mean you are just way past metrosexual...maybe you are just a GIRL. SMH

10 of the Most Confusing Things a Man Does Dating Wise and Simple Answers

2010-09-10T11:19:00.002-04:00

In the dating world you have a lot of hopeful women. Women who are so desperate to find “The one” they make excuses for some of the lamest behavior from men I ever did see. This behavior is often seen as confusing. Confusing behavior is easy to make an excuse for because it could be a billion reasons why he’s telling you he’s acting this way or reasons you came up with yourself. Will luck for your, true is going to stop bullspitting you.

10 of the most confusing things a man does dating wise with simple answers

1. Tell you he loves you when he doesn't - He’s doing it to get the draws and to keep you being his lil puppy. Makes it easier to manipulate you.

2. Acts like he doesn’t like you – He’s trying to impress his boys by being a “player”.

3. Asks for your number but doesn’t call – He just wanted to either get rid of you, not hurt your feelings or he changed his mind about calling because of something you did.

4. Lies about his age – He likes tenderonis and doesn’t want to creep you out being as old as your dad.

5. Lies about his marital/relationship status – DUH, he’s a ho. No there is nothing special about you, he just a greedy ho

6. Acts really jealous or insecure – because he’s cheating on you and feels guilty/paranoid you are doing the same.

7. Has sex with you but never calls again – That’s because that’s all he wanted or it wasn’t that good.

8. Introduce you to his family and friends when he is not serious about you – you must be a dime piece or so fine he wanted to show off one of his “hoes”. Believe me, you aren’t the only woman he is bringing around family.

9. He watches pron and loves pictures of other naked women - He’s not DEAD. He still admires other women. He even fantasizes about them. Don’t act like you don’t think of Idris when you get down.

10. Doesn’t call you for days sometimes weeks at a time – he kicking it with another female, but doesn’t want you to stray too far. So he keeps you on a long leash just in case he wants to tap that again.

Ladies...if you witness any of this behavior...just keep on trucking. These types of dudes are into mind games. They aint feeling you that deep and if you keep letting get away with this aloof behavior you making an azz out of yourself.

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Not So Obvious Signs She may be Cheating on You

2010-09-09T12:42:00.002-04:00

By special request I am writing this blog. Of course this was requested by a male. He read my post regarding subtle signs he may be cheating on you and agreed with most of the points. Then he, of course, wanted to turn the tables and asked me what is it that WOMEN do that isn’t so obvious when we cheat.

First I batted my lashes and said “We don’t cheat”. He didn’t buy it..I have never been good at lying.
So sorry ladies, I can only be fair, cause I hate when someone isn’t fair to me.

1. She wants to go out, but not with you – “Oh honey this is ladies night. See you when I get back” but it’s always LADIES NIGHT. That may be the night she is meeting up with her boo. She can’t answer her phone cause she clubbing. She calls you faithfully when the club lets out. TRUE STORY, happened to someone I know. She bailed on plans with dude telling him it was “ladies night” , then he ran into her coming out the movies with ANOTHER DUDE. OH SNAP

2. She has an standing appointment with the MALL – She know gooden well you aint gon want to go with her to no mall. YOU HATE THE MALL. She goes faithfully every Saturday morning and or Wednesday night. Shoot, you’d never be the wiser cause all women like to shop right *wink*

3. She all of a sudden wants to hang with her BFF – When yall first got together, she pretty much SMOTHERED you. Would always JUMP at the chance to be with you and even started dissing her friends to be around you. Now, a year or so later, she wants to spend more time with her homegirl. Yeah okay…it’s an EASY cover to hide the fact that she is seeing boyfriend number 2.

4. She learned a new move in the bedroom – Yall been together for 2 years and pretty much have the same bedroom routine. One day she comes out the blue and does something AMAZING. Yup. You guessed it, her new boy toy told her what he liked and she figured she’d try it on you. No she didn’t get it out of Cosmo, especially if she is an immediate expert at it.

Fellas, I hate to say it, but you don’t ALWAYS have that cooter on lock. Stop getting to sure of yourself and handle your business ALL THE TIME. Don’t let the date nights stop, don’t let the “I love yous” stop, don’t stop throwing down the D game, cause I can assure you, your woman WILL look for boyfriend number 2 to go and BREAK HER OFF.

HOLLA.

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Fantasia - Traumatic Event or Publicity Stunt????

2010-08-24T23:48:00.001-04:00

I normally don't write things about celebrities' personal lives. I normally mind my business and usually say "Hey, whatever happened to them is their business, who are we to judge." Today, I didn't mind my business.

I ranted already about something I can't stand. Another thingI can't stand is playing on people's emotions to get something you want. In this case, it seems that Fantasia played on our emotions to get us to pay attention to her. I did say APPEARS, because the non-judgemental side of me is saying "We don't know what's in her head, we don't really know waht happened" but we can speculate.......if we want...

In case you need some background info, our beloved Idol winner Fantasia "attempted suicide" by taking a bunch of aspirin O_O. This followed her dirty laundry getting aired. Now, the degree of her so called embarassment in my opinion was akin to farting super loud in the cafeteria in high school or wetting yourself in the second grade. It was found out that she was seeing a married man and the wife suing her for it. Tasia claimed she believed he was separated and grew tired of people not treating her fairly and decided she had enough.

I personally know cries for help. I have my bouts with depression. I have "snapped" myself. I lost all hope before. Usually though, I took time off and got counseling. I stayed to myself to recoup and usually remained depressed for weeks. Or I drank myself silly (shrugs)

Fantasia on the other hand is going on numerous interviews. She is even making an appearance on 106th and Park on BET.What's next, a Sesame Street special on suicide :-/. This isn't months later or even weeks later. She has jumped back to her normal self DAYS after her suicide attempt. I'm concerned cause I'm wondering when she is getting help if she is spending so much time interviewing :-/.

* Oh yeah, you know her album drops really soon.*

I feel like people with real depression will get a bad rep for this. Since she bounced back so soon, why can't everyone else? Why can't everyone recover in 2 weeks from almost taking their life?

What bothers me more is the fact that whoever her PR team is or management is using this awful event to get her more publicity, exposure and probably more record sales. People will buy her album because they feel sorry for her. (not that she isn't talented as an artist, but still.....). People who never even heard of her will buy her album and look her up on the internet.

Not only that, this suicide attempt will change everyone's outlook on her. No more will me make fun of her for being "slow" because she has been through a lot of trauma. This "suicide attempt" wil probably make her more famous than Kim's sex tape made her. Matter of fact, her suicide attempt may start a chain of other suicide attempts so that people can be more famous. Forget making a sex tape, SUICIDE ATTEMPTS is the way to become an overnight star. Reality show and papparazzi, HERE I COME.

*Sigh* I HATE THAT DOING SOMETHING NEGATIVE GET YOU MORE FAMOUS THAN DOING SOMETHING POSITIVE!!!

AUTHOR's NOTE: People I am not making fun of people who attempt suicide. If you know someone who is severly depressed and mentions suicide, please be there for them and get them some help ASAP. Suicide and suicide attempt is nothing to be taken lightly.

Passive Aggressiveness = I'm a Big Fat Coward

2010-08-24T14:31:00.000-04:00

I think most people that know me know that I am a very VERY honest person. Brutally at times and without holding anything back. I'm quick to tell you exactly how something makes me feel as soon as I am bothered by it. Then I am over it. So you shouldn't be surprised that I hate sneakiness. I hate lying and I especially hate PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR. I HATE IT!!

Scenario: Your good friend gets smart with you about something or embarasses you. Instead of you telling her you didn't like that, instead you decide to "forget" to tell her about a outing or party you planned. She just is baffled and hurt by this cause yall are such good friends. She says something about it but you feign ignorance which makes her more mad. Your pretending you weren't being vindictive is more passive aggressive behavior.

Most passive aggressive behavior is intentional. A small percentage is subconscious. In any case, if you are performoing passive aggressive behavior you are a sneaky, lying PUNK.

When a person is passive aggressive, they are attempting to redirect blame and negative behavior. They want to make the person mad without being to blame for making the person mad. They don't want to be the bad guy, so they fake like everything is cool then BAM! They get you back when you least expect it and make it YOUR FAULT for being mad at something so small, when in reality the passive aggressor is the one that is mad over something that is small.

Being tit for tat is also passive aggressive behavior. Tit for tat people cannot WAIT for the same situation you dissed them in to happen so they can throw it back in your face when you won't even know what hit you. Tit for tat people are punks too.

My thing is, why are you so afraid to be yourself, to express your true feelings. You care that much what people think? You got to keep your same lousy friends and people get to think you are so "cool". EFF THAT!!

Tell me how you really feel, tell me when it happens and tell me the TRUTH. Chances are, I may not even KNOW I wronged you or that it bothered you. We can hash it out and move on. PERIOD.

Don't be a scaredy puss.

DOWN SYNDROME IN THE CLUB

2010-08-20T12:51:00.003-04:00

Last night I went out again (as usual) to some fine 35 year old’s birthday party I didn’t know. The crowd started to come in nice and smooth. I went right after work for happy hour. Some young ladies and men decided to go home and change (whatever). The crowd seemed really nice. Everyone started to drink their drinks and chillaxing profiling WHATEVER.

Me with my happy butt (and after 2 drinks) was READY TO DANCE. YES …The DJ got there about 7:30, wasn’t supposed to play till 8:00. I looked up at 7:45 and wished he would start playing early. HE HEARD ME and started playing. He started off really nice and slow with sexy R&B old school jams (shout out to Hip Hop Dan). I stood up immediately. I noticed I was the only one but didn’t worry. I tend to have more energy than most people and am used to getting the party started.

9:00pm rolls around and I noticed the crowd was thicker, but still no dancing. :-/. That didn’t stop me. I continued to enjoy this good music (which was mostly old school by the way) and getting my groove on. Some dude that decided to crash our area asked me “Why do you have so much energy”

STOP!!!

Really tho. “Let’s see” I said. “I’m at a lounge/club with beautiful people. I’m off work. It’s happy hour. There is a DJ. He’s actually playing GOOD MUSIC. I’m DANCING. Hmm….looks like to me I’m being NORMAL. Where is your energy?” I asked and proceeded to get my groove on. I left at 12:00 am and was still pretty much the only person there that was really enjoying myself.

Mind you, I wasn’t sliding down a pole or dancing like a Luke dancer or dancing so hard my side would hurt. I was one step above doing a two step. The rest of the crowd however, looked like they had DOWN SYNDROME. They all looked like they need to try that Activia challenge cause they all looked CONSTIPATED. Then some had the nerve to point at ME and laugh…REALLY THO..you laughing at ME cause I’m having a GOOD TIME.

The crowd looked so DEPRESSED. You would think there is some rare I DON’T DANCE disease going around in the DC area. Everyone was just standing around being cute, and most of them weren’t even that cute. I’m with Dr. J when he says women go to the club to get numbers, cause these girls were not at the club to dance. WTH. Why go to a club/lounge to stand around? Why am I “hype” cause I’m actually dancing a spot meant for dancing? Why am I ridiculed for having a good time?

You know what, let me take the title back to this article, cause I don’t want to insult people with Down Syndrome. They would probably dance at a club that has a DJ, and GOOD MUSIC. They would probably actually enjoy themselves while out instead of having a who can be the fanciest contest.

*sidenote – the wack crowd did buck a couple steps when DOUGIE came the hell on – wtf @ that*

Not So Obvious Signs He Has a Woman

2010-08-17T14:25:00.001-04:00

Hey Boys and Girls!!! I'm BACK!!!! I couldn't WAIT to write this post either. Oh, and it's a coincidence that it came to me during this whole Fanny fiasco....lol.

I said I was going to take a break from doing relationship blogs. But technically, this isn't about relationships. It's really about the lack of a relationship and WHY we can't really get that from a guy we are seeing.

I would say my beauty and charm has afforded me the opportunity to encounter different types of men and different types of situations, but it has not prevented me from encountering CRAP.

Most men in the DC area have women, but the outnumbering of ~~desperate~~ women to men in this area makes it possible for them to have multiple relationships. Most of us never being the wiser.

I have recently had a revelation about some of the crap men dish out, some of the silly things they say and some of the BS they spit at us. OF COURSE I'M HERE TO TELL YOU WHAT IT IS.

NON-OBVIOUS SIGNS HE HAS A WOMAN/GIRL/SEEING OTHER PEOPLE

1. He Only Texts You/Calls at Certain Times - This may be a no brainer, but does he only call you at work during the day, saying he is busy at night or tired. Or does he only contact you after late night hours. 10, 11, touting his reason being "He had a long day" or "He was sleeping" or some other crap. From my PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, he has a WOMAN. He can only call you after she sleep or during the day from work (or home in some instances) when she is not around.

2. He Always Ask You to Meet Him on "dates" in a Public Place - Does he only invite you to happy hour or some other place that doesn't have an intimate setting? Chances are he doesn't want to get caught with you in an intimate setting. You can easily explain chatting up a woman at a happy hour or lounge, you can't explain why the 2 of you are on a "date" at Red Lobster.

3. He Doesn't "Do That" - Ladies, if a man says he doesn't go down, chances are, (as my cousin told me today), he doesn't go down on YOU. Meaning, he has a woman already that he is going down on and he is not trife enough to go down on both of you. So he tells you he doesn't do that at all so you won't ask for it and he can still get the poon. And that way, he can save something for his girl :-).

4. He Always asks to Come to Your House - He halfheartedly invites you to his house, but somehow you never end up there. You may even make it outside to pick him up, but never inside. When you say something about it, he gets defensive and says "You can come over, I have nothing to hide", but yet and still, you never make it over there. Hmmmm..I WONDER WHY. And don't believe that "I used to have stalkers" BS or "I have male roommates that are gross" BS. It's NOT TRUE.

5. He Doesn't Want to Have Sex - Come'on son....what GROWN MAN doesn't want to hit. He doesn't want to really cheat on his girl. But he does like you. So he feeds you some crap about waiting....yeah right.

6. He Has to Get Up Early Tomorrow - LMFAO this is my favorite. After he done "chilled" with you, he has to run. Because he has an "early day". Yeah right, he has a curfew. Long as he makes it home before the sun comes up, he won't get in trouble.

7. If He ONLY Texts You - Another easy one, he doesn't want his girl to overhear you talking or he doesn't want her to see your number on the bill (true story). Don't believ e the hype about "I hate talking on the phone" cuz the mofo can't.

Anyone got any others? Experiences?

Why ARE Black Women So Big?

2010-06-07T13:54:00.000-04:00

Yes this is another "Black women and their bodies" post. This is not however a Slim vs. Thick post. It's more focused on our health, denial of obesity problems and acceptance of our "overweightness".

I was at a wedding a couple months ago (actually I crashed the weddding while at a pool party for the kiddies). There was all ethnicities there from Indian, to Hispanic to Black to White. Something stood out at me while I was there watching all the tipsy women shake their groove thing. The Black women were all overweight...all except maybe one. The other ethnicities were mostly slim and trim.

Why are Black women so big anyway?

A lot of you contribute it to just being "thick in the hips". But there should be no reason why your hips and gut are the same size. Another portion of you just claim you are "curvy"...umm..that's not a curve, that is a roll. Just because it is round doesn't mean that you are a curvy woman. Having 20 "S" curves on your body probably means you are fat.

Okay so now that I have taken shots at the overweight women, let's discuss why we are the biggest, it seems, of all ethnicities and what we are going to do about it.

I have been saying for years it bothers me how much time Black women spend in salons and nail spas and at the threading stand in the mall but will not take a 20 minute walk on their lunch break.200 dollars on a weave but not on a personal trainer or nutritionist. It always amazes me that Black women care about their appearance, but the caring stops just above the shoulders. Why do you care what's put on your hair but not what's put in your body.

Of course as slaves, we ate the scraps given to us. We ate the crap the Master aint want. So we had to make do and those unhealthy recipies for down home southern cooking was passed down throughout the generations.

But now we have new info..THAT SHYT AINT GOOD FOR US. So instead of trying to get our bodies right and eat better and cut back on the back fat..we decide to try and force society into embracing our less than healthy bodies and proclaiming "Thick sexiness" and sitting our lazy butts back on the couch while chowing down on our 4th peice of popeyes chicken.

Again, this is not a hate post to women who are naturually "big boned" or "curvier" than the rest. And of course I know with age comes a slower metabolism and more weight gain. But...there is no reason we should be excusing ourselves to consistently eat a whole days worth of calories per meal and then run and say "Black men like women with a little meat on their bones" and "I'm just thick" and "Girl I was born with these hips", because I highly doubt you were born with Fried Chicken grease in your DNA, cause we all know that's what really gave you those big hips and thick thighs.

To you unhealthy size 16 women who write all these "We aren't all a size two posts". Please sit down and just accept that you are overweight and stop glorifying it. If you are heavier than your man (unless you just like your men boney) then you should be ashamed of yourself.

The hard truth is Black women love to eat. My girl was saying the other day how they were out of town and all the other girls wanted to do was "GO OUT TO EAT". They didn't dance at the club and they were anxious to leave to go eat out yet again. Are we using food for comfort or is it just habit for us to just eat till we burst?

If you are eating right on a regular basis and/or working out and you are still not a size 2-8, this post isn't directed at you. Ttrust, I know some of us are more inclined to gain weight than other women with faster a metobolism. So some of us are "skinny fat" and "healthy fat". My goal here is to get you to accept that most of you don't really have a handle on your health and that you were NOT born to look like a hippo. You have a problem with food and you need to practice healthier eating habits and take better care of your health.

Stop trying to justify your fatness. You are doing yourself, your mothers and your daughters a disservice by teaching them to accept their unhealthy frames.

What do you think is contributing to the obesity in the Black Female community? Please men what are your thoughts on how big Black women are compared to other cultures. What can we do as a community to improve our overall health and lifestyle?

Check Your Ego !!!

2010-06-02T23:24:00.000-04:00

Tonight..I got inspired by no one in particular *whistles*. It seems that in life, whether on twitter or offline, bammas swear they are SOMETHING! I mean, everyone is something to himself, in the eyes of God, whatever you prefer. But really, some of you think you are God's gift to humanity. Some of you think that because you accomplished a lil something something, you have free reign to brag and boast and brag some more and down talk people and demand stuff of people when you really aint that far from sitting on a corner begging for change like that bum you past by daily and chuckle at. Hell, the recession showed that to a lot of people who's sole purpose for living was to show how much money and power they got. They lost their jobs and couldn't handle living anymore.

Well lucky for you, I'm here to help check some of you bammas, cause seriously, some of you need to be CHECKED...big TIME.

Remember...it's okay to be confident in yourself and your skills and love yourself, but it's a bit ridiculous some of the reasons some of you think you are better than someone else...please PLEASE CHECK YOUR EGO IF

1. You have a degree or 2 - So the eff what. Anyone..and I mean ANYONE can get a degree. You got 14 year olds graduating college. You got your great grandmother going back to school. All it takes is passing a class and a couple of tests. The way some of you act with these degrees you would think you sat next to God on the thrown and designed the world. Of course you should be proud of your accomplishments. That's good. Thinking you are better than someone else cause you have a degree is akin to thinking you are better because you learned to use the potty..CHECK YOUR EGO

2. If you have a phat booty - Ladies, nothing wrong with being happy with being blessed physically. But don't get it twisted, small booty girls get as much play, love, marriage proposals, video cameos as you do. Do not think that cause you carry your fat cells in your posterior that for some reason you are cuter, sexier, better or more attractive than the next chick. Especially if you have on a raggedy lace front and aint even that cute. CHECK YOUR EGO

3. If you are popular on twitter - This may be by far the STUPIDEST reason to think you are all that. I was out at a bar and this dude was bragging that he had 400 followers :-|. Really tho..REALLY. Just because a celeb may have retweeted you one time randomly and you got your followers boosted dosen't mean you are going down in the tweet hall of fame. Sit your ass down and CHECK YOUR EGO

4. If you are a local artist and have a small following - Boasting about your skills and putting other local artists and hell some well known, record selling artists down talkin bout how much skilled you are than them is that bullshit. If you were that skilled, your 30 year old ass would have the record deal, NOT THEM. So stfu. Stop thinking you are all that, stop thinking you are above bullshit CHECK YOUR EGO..YOU DONT EVEN HAVE A RECORD DEAL and your skills are AVERAGE.

5. If you own a home - Umm...El Stupo, you are IN DEBT, like the rest of the world. I swear bammas kill me talking about "I got a job and I own my own home". Shit, lenders were giving away home loans to anyone a couple years ago. I once saw a cockroach get approved for a home loan and his credit score was better than yours. You are not special cause you got yourself a loan. You are just in more debt..CHECK YOUR EGO.

6. Cause you had sex with someone Famous or Semi famous - SIT YOUR HO ASS DOWN AND CHECK YOUR EGO. You had SEX!!! Big EFFING DEAL!! People have sex EVERYDAY !!! If he aint give you a record deal and make you a millionaire..you are still a NOBODY. CHECK YOUR EGO

7. Because you are MALE - ummm..who says you get to make all the rules. You probably have a small peen. I know, too many wack women worshipped you and made you believe because you were MALE you were more important than females ...CHECK YOUR EGO...you can't do nothing a woman can't do for herself..THINK ABOUT IT. If you are a male and respect and honor women..kudos.if not..CHECK YO SHYT

I know I missed plenty of people that need to check their raggely ass egos...please add more and help me out as you see fit. I swear..these super egotistical bammas that are seeking self importance and self worth are kiling me.

Remember, what goes up...MUST COME DOWN. Humble yourself, appreciate your life and what you have and stop thinking you are better than someone. You aint got spit that someone else can't get..or lose..PERIOD.

Why I Don't Date Young Guys!!!!.

2010-05-24T21:20:00.000-04:00

*let me preface this by saying by "young" I mean immature..and most immature guys are young sooooooooo*

Yes I wrote this after I just ranted on twitter. After a young, handsome guy I exchanged numbers with aggrivated the HELL out of me.

I'm a pretty social girl. I am also attractive so I get hit on a lot. I get hit on by dudes of all ages...but ..I have decided I cannot, CANNOT get with young, immature dudes.

Young guys tend to be 27 and under. They are very immature in dress, speech, talk and lingo. They swear they have swagger, but I know it's a front. You young girls (and sometimes dumb older women) got these young boys ego so swoll that they try and step to a mature woman, and by mature woman I mean ME.....and it's usually a FAIL.

Trust me young guys..I DO TRY. I love how charming you can be, your boyish good looks, but you always say some stupid shyt or do some stupider shyt that makes you turn all kinds of ugly....like:

1. You text instead of call me up -WTF Why do you young guys insist on texting me long butt conversations. I don't want to discuss in text how my day was, or what I'm doing. Text messages are meant for short term conversations, not long, drawn out questionaires nor a basis for getting to know someone. You want to get to know me, CALL ME, then SET UP A DATE. I REFUSE to let you learn me thru text message..I AM NOT A TEENAGER. Worse, you text me all day long while I'm at work like I can answer you....wtf.

2. You never formally ask me out - "When you gon come see me?" , "When am I going to be able to see you?" ..That is NOT asking me out. You can SEE ME by looking at my profile pic on twitter or facebook. You cannot just SEE ME anyway. We haven't been dating. You may ASK ME OUT however.

3. You act like you are doing me a favor by seeing me - uummm..just cause you are younger than I am and good looking and you managed to book me, doesn't mean I'm a desperate old lady who is dying for male affection like these young girls out here. How you gon get mad when I don't call you back and call me "fake" when I have never established something with you. I am sending you a CLEAR message that I am BUSY when I don't respond to you right away. You young guys just can't fathom the fact that a female "aint pressed" for you. Texting me "why you ignoring my calls/texts" is a clear indication that one too many broads fed your young butt ego. My old ass has been there and done that. If I don't respond to you it's cause I'M BUSY...I'll hit you when I'm not.

4. You don't know how to talk to me - Even tho we may plan on just humping...coming right out and saying it is crass, rude and disrespectful. You can be honest without being stupid and immature with your words. There are ways to say "I don't want a commitment" without saying "So when we gon fuck".

5. You want/expect me to pay for dinner - only a young guy would say that he expects a woman to pay for dinner or even go dutch. A real grown man wouldn't let a woman pay for dinner. If he don't have it, he don't take her out. I don't care how many men on here get mad at it. You are El Cheapo or El Broko if you expect a woman YOU ask out to pay for her food.....PERIOD. I have yet to meet a "mature" man who wants me to pay for my own damn dinner.

So young dudes, if you wish to nab an older woman, please don't do any of the above. Unless they are just as immature as you.

And hell, if you don't want to date an older woman, that's cool too cause most of us DON'T WANT TO DATE YOU.

The DISTRICT Wednesdays!!! MY NEW FAVORITE JOINT

2010-05-19T13:58:00.000-04:00

I haven't really been going out on the late night tip anymore during the week cause my ass is getting old. For some reason 2 Wednesdays ago, me and my girls felt the urge. We were like "Let's just hit up the District, since my buddy @SamCoachEnt recommended it ..it's gotta be the businesss.

Located near the McDonald's in Adams Morgan, the lil door to the spot is really really hidden. I mean I think me and my girls were standing in front of the door like 7 minutes before we realized which door it is. lol

We got inside MAN, did we not know that place is a lot BIGGER than the front darn entrance leads one to believe. 2 Floors, multiple bars, a balcony like area so you can look down on general population. lol

The hottest DJ's in the DC area spinning. I was there kinda early cause I love to get a feel of places without the crowd (and before I am drunk) so I can get a clearer picture of what the inside is like.

The crowd slowly grew larger and larger..and I started to really REALLY feel the place. I mean nothing has jumped off this hot on a Wednesday since the 1223 days!!! (yall ole DC folk know what I am talking about)

So..if you aren't doing anything tonite, and don't want to be an old fuddy duddy, go to the District tonight. I assure you you wan't be disappointed. Don't be surprised to see me in there hollering over the railing and having a good time myself.

Check http://tazevents.com/ for more details

HOLLA

Bar 7...7th Street NW

2010-05-19T13:49:00.000-04:00

Forgive me but the timeline isn't accurate. I was supposed to had posted this WEEKS ago lol

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I attempted to go to Lux on last Saturday night for the fight party..but umm....nah..I had a good reason to change my mind. At a loss and being too lazy to drive somewhere else, my homegirl walked towards the corner and saw a spot (the old Juste Lounge to be exact) with a bunch of folks hanging on the outside. From the first appearance, it looked to be just another loungy place with a small group of intimate cliquey people in it...but it wasn't.

It was BAR 7. I don't know if it's a regular weekly event or not. It may have been a special event for thefight party. Idk..but I like the place. Just around the corner from Lux lounge and kinda obscure, you'll miss this place if you blink. Thanks to this spot being relatively new, there wasn't a line (not that I would have to wait anyway *wink* ..nah I'm lying sometimes I do lol )

I was amazed when I got inside. Brick walls, leather seating, nice size bar. Stage (VIP???) all the way to the back. A narrow spot...but I guess it wasn't meant to be a club...although it was club music and club atmosphere. I found me a nice spot near the stage area/dance floor and danced till I had to use the ladies room located downstairs. When I got down there I was like "Woah..look at all this extra space". This spot can accomadate much more than leads the eye. I proceeded to enjoy the rest of my time downstairs in front of the mirror like I'm in the "Save the Last Dance" movie (cause I was the only broad down there lol ) Hey, I put on a nice show.

All in all it's a nice little spot to be seen at. Check the website for their events and happenings.

http://www.bar7dc.com/

PS. I just got word there there is a Wednesday event there starting at 8 pm and going until 1 am...So check it out for yourself...

Bloggers + Liquor = Something New to Blog About

2010-05-09T23:31:00.003-04:00

All this writing has taken a toll on us bloggers. Sometimes you need to relieve the stress of the faux blog deadlines and the pressure from readers to deliver funny and entertaining blogs. So...what do we do to relieve this hard,. stressful life of blogging? DRINK!!

So let's all get together and drink on Tuesday at Sutra Lounge for happy hour and network, drink, talk, drink, drink so we will have something to blog about and oh yeah...network and drink. Shit come even if you don't have a blog...come because you like to drink. Presented to you by The Usual Suspectz and Elevated Entertainment.

See you guys Tuesday , yes THIS TUESDAY

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The HEADPHONES PROJECT!!!! Please DONATE

2010-04-28T13:45:00.000-04:00

There are many bad things happening in this world and there are many people are less fortunate than others. Well I am here to bring awareness to a new kind of person in need. It's the headphoneless person.

Just like others that are in dire need of resources, the headphoneless person suffers pretty bad, and their suffering and lack of headphones cause others to suffer as well.

It pains me to ride the train to work and hear Soulja Boy or the latest from Nicki Minaj blasting out loud from someone near me. It nearly breaks my heart. What it means is there is someone on that train FORCED to play their music outloud from their cell phone because they are in dire need of some head phones or ear buds.

See, when someone goes without headphones and has to listen to their music out loud, it causes a wave of sadness and despair among all the other people in the presence of the person that doesn't have headphones. We all whine and moan and become easily aggitated because of this seemingly limited resource among our peers.

So I am requesting your help for the HEADPHONES PROJECT!! I am collecting used headphones, cheap headphones, hell any kind of headphones so that whenever I see someone headphone hungry, I may be able to save someone's ears and sanity. Again, I can't tell you how many tempers and ears were lost because someone didn't have some headphones.

You can purchase headphones from your local dollar store, from Marshall's, AJ Wright and TJ Maxx. I am going to purchase and collect a bunch of headphones, so when I see someone on the train or metro station or hell walking down the street having to blast music out loud directly from their phone, I can assist them in their time of need.

Please everyone, I know this can't be a problem limited to the DC area. If you see someone in dire need of headphones, please..PLEASE do the HUMANE THING and hand them some, save some ears and sanity today... :-)

Your Local Humanitarian...True

Stupid Workout/Fitness Myths I HATE!!!!

2010-04-26T21:04:00.001-04:00

I just finished exhausting myself out working out to one of my dollar store DVD's. I grimaced and whined afterwards and while I was trying to cool down, I started to remember why I started working out in the first place, my health. That still doesn't change the fact that I HATE IT!!! It's tiring and soo much work. *sigh*

It also reminded me of some of the crappy tips I receive from people and some of the lousy, ridiculous myths and beliefs people have about fitness, body shape, and fat and muscle.

As a female who doesn't have the "ideal" shape (I gain most of my weight in my belly, not my ass and hips as is most desired), I have that catch 22 body. I gain weight and people compliment the breasts and ass, but then they ask are your pregnant...if I am a "healthy size" they say "Girl do you eat" or "Where is your ass". I can't win for losing. FYI, those girls that have those juicy bootys and flat stomachs are like that cause they STORE THEIR FAT IN THEIR ASS, NOT THEIR STOMACH (like the rest of us). Then there are those of us who store it elsewhere. Thighs, stomach, back, stomach. Some NO WHERE (fast metabolism bishes). We can control where we store fat no more than a big booty girl can ever be flat assed...

No us rounder belly women aren't doing anything wrong per se to get us that way, we are a "victim" of genetics ....

*Sigh* People are SO CRUEL!!! I HATE THEM!!! I am going to try to just do what is right for me at this point..eff the naysayers.

Worse is when I tell people that I am working out to cut down the belly fat, they ask "why"...and there here comes the stupid advice they give.

1. Just do some sit ups - ummm..no...sit ups won't get rid of the extra pounds I gained around the middle. I will work on the muscle behind, but truthfully, just doing some sit ups will not get rid of my belly fat you flat stomached non-heffa.

2. Drink some lemon juice daily, it cuts down on the fat stored in your belly - Oh really?!?! So all these years all us fat bellied women had to do was drink lemon juice and it will magically make the fat cells in our belly disappear...I'm glad you told me *eye roll*

3. Girl you just need a colonic - *blankstare* again hunny, colonics do contribute to weight lost, but I hear it's most water weight. Further, a colonic won't remove the fat cells from your gut nor reduce the fat in them. The colonic reduces your COLON

4. Do some cardio and some squats, squats help you get a big butt - no it doesn't...genetics and/or being overweight help you get a big butt. Sure doing squats will sculpt my rear end while I lose my belly with cardio, but the end result won't have me resembling Melyssa Ford.

5. If you work out, you will be too skinny - NO I WON'T. I even believe this sometimes. I won't be too skinny. I'll be HEALTHY (thought I'll have to convince myself of this still). Remember my post on how being overweight is "normal" and being your right, fit size is "not normal or too skinny"..yeah..this is kind of in the category.

So I'll keep pushing towards a healthier lifestyle because of my cholesterol and because having excess belly fat has contributed to a number of diseases.

I'll lose those pounds but gain some added healthy years of my life. Flat Back True is coming back...lol

Now If I can work on my confidence and ignoring stupid people :-P

The Sunday Post!!!

2010-04-25T08:13:00.000-04:00

I was supposed to write this post this Sunday but ran out of time. It's inappropiate to have a "Sunday Post" on a Monday don't you think. Laying in this bed feeling super comfortable and lazy made me think about my Sundays and how I love them. Since we only really get one free day a week (some of you half) it makes me appreciate my Sundays at home all the more.

I don't go to church regularly if at all. I am either hungover from last night, or kicking it with my sons to get that extra mommy time in. And no, I am not ashamed to stay home either. We work 5 days a week, run all our errands on Saturday (if you have kids, they will have a game to attend, if not you are probably getting your oil changed or doing laundry or whatever), then Sunday we get up and go to church (well not me) and then cook dinner and prepare for the next day of work tomorrow (like I said, some of you get half a day off a week if that).

This blog is dedicated to those who feel guilty taking a lazy Sunday off and choose to do NOTHING!! That's right...NOTHING. I am here to offer some relief and good reasons (and excuses) for staying home on Sunday. Reasons that will not make you think you will burn in the pitts of hell for all of eternity for taking a "personal day" from the Lord.

1. You can watch church from home on the net or cable - If you didn't go to church and you truly feel guilty about not going, just catch a sermon online, or on cable. Nothing wrong with getting the good word from the comforts of home. Just double up on the tithes next week when you return.

2. You can catch up on your favorite reality shows - If you have a family or things to do after work and on Saturday and you don't have time to watch you guilty pleasures, then Sunday is the perfect time to take off and catch up on all the celeb BS that you love.

3. Be on Twitter and not have it be work or promotion related. - Just sit up on your favorite social app and be nosey and catch up ...

3. What other day can you do absolutely NOTHING - if you don't do it today, you probably won't get to do it any other day.

So all ENJOY this Sunday post. Never EVER feel less than for not being busy . It truly is okay to do nothing every once in a while

True2me

Lost: My Fast Metabolism...Anyone Seen Her?

2010-04-21T13:40:00.001-04:00

As I'm sitting here eating this budget meal that has only 250 calories, I'm getting more and more frustrated. I'm pissed off cause I have to eat this crap because I have some excess weight I have to lose. I'm getting tired of getting told that viscereal fat is bad for my organs. I'm getting tired of being asked am I knocked up. I'm getting tired of not being able to fit most of my clothes. I'm just tired. So I decided to take some action.

I am eating better....working out (for the most part) and trying to just live a healthier lifestyle. Not because I necessarily suscribe to a wholesome way of life, but mostly because I am vain, like most people, and want to continue to look good.

I remember the days when I could eat whatever, lay down afterwards and still keep my pre-teenish figure (I didn't have an ass yall...nor hips). I also remember when I realized that I could no longer eat what I wanted and stay slim. I was 25 and started to notice my pants geting tighter and tighter. I was still a shopper then so I didn't really realize how much weight I gained until I had a doc's appointment. 25 pounds!!! WTF.

I had to stop drinking sodas everyday. I could no longer eat a snicker after eating a fried fatty food lunch. No, I had to eat salad and grilled meat and fresh fruit.

My Fast Metabolism had abandoned me and left me to fend for myself. I'm thinking she left me for someone younger, prettier and more desirable. Now that heffa gets to reap all the benefits of our relationship. Me and my fast metabolism were BEST FRIENDS. We did everything together. We had 25 wonderful years. I just don't understand and have never really gotten over her.

*Sigh*

I hope to one day just run into my Fast Metabolism and say hi. Maybe we can catch up to old times over some green tea

If you have contact information for my Fast Metabolism, please let me know.

Anyone else been in a relationship with Fast Metabolism and got dumped like me? How can I get her back?

FUEGO'S THE STRIP CLUB, I FINALLY WENT!!!

2010-04-20T20:58:00.000-04:00

You know me, I am just waiting for an excuse to go out. Sunday, one my favorite people to follow on twitter @_true2me_ wanted to celebrate her bday (actually it was per my suggestion).

We started our night hanging out with @DominiqueMoxey at spot lounge. @DJAnonymousDC had us dancing all night, like literally. Some DJ's will hit or miss all night, not this DJ. I'm not playing either, he didn't pay me to say that either lol.

After we shut down Spot Lounge, and too inebriated to go home, we head to FUEGOS!!! The after hours spot.

Now I had always been trying to go there. You know I love strip clubs, hell I even reviewed them here on my site. But this one I had yet to review...NOW I CAN!!!

It sits back on a side street outside of Bladensburg, MD. There is a cover, quite high up, but for some it's affordable and worth it. I think it's free before a certain time.

ITS HUGE!!! Like it's a club in the inside. Plenty of space to kick it and chill. And it doesn't smell like old cigarettes and piss like some other spots lol. It almost doesn't look like a strip club, cept for the naked women walking around and the poles in the middle.

The variety of women is so vast it's not even funny. White, Black, Hispanice etc....thick, hips, ass, no ass, breasts, no breasts.

They seem friendly enough (the girls) and they guys are also friendly and generous. This strip club is more like "social atmosphere with naked women" than seedy strip club.

I'll most definitely have to go back on a night I don't have to go to work tomorrow. I had to cut my night short. But remember, Fuegos stays open til 6 am so it makes the ideal after hours spot.

Okay..I'm done with the "free" promotion.. Any one of my readers wants to take me to Fuegos...I'M SOO DOWN!

Holla

Think Like a Man, Act Like a Man?

2010-04-17T21:11:00.002-04:00

As I sit here sipping on my 808 and wondering who I can tipsy call, I realize that the reason I have to wait till I am tipsy to call these dudes is because, well, my pride.

I don't call them sober cause I'm all "Shoo, he aint call me so he must not be that into me, he must not really be feeling me, forget him".

Off the drink, I get balls and don't give a damn whether he is into me or not, I want to have conversation and so be it. I'm doing what I truly feel and that makes me more confident (well the booze helps too)

The thought of doing this trickled my thoughts down to the dating game in DC and my experience with being forward with men and the results.

Usually, I don't really have to step to a guy to get his attention. If he likes what he sees, he'll get himself some liquid courage (because I am usually in a bar, lounge or club, hell ANY drinking spot when I get hit on) and steps to me (cause I'm usually loud and intimidating lol). Now usually, I notice ole boy prior to him making his way to me and give him one of my many symbols that I am feeling him physically as well (damn I hate spring, I had to pause to clean off a gnat off my screen). I always tell myself that if I give the right symbol, dude will step to me IF he is interested. I have been right for the most part.

A couple of weeks ago tho, along with my drunken ballsy alter ego, I went to a GORGEOUS guy and hit on him. We exchanged numbers and I felt quite proud of myself. And I am pretty ballsy, but still no one wants to be rejected, so I rarely use it to hit on guys.

So as I sit here sipping on my new favorite drink, the 808, flavor Apple Amp, I wonder if I was wrong about guys. What is the real reason we as women don't step to guys as much? Could it be ego as well? Could it be fear or rejection? Or could it be just plain old old school thought that women should be chased by men and if a man really wants you that he will come for you.

Today things are confusing. Women are more aggressive with life, more expressive, more able to take care of themselves. They are go getters. They are told to get theirs on their own without the assistance of a man. Yet, in the the dating world, we are still told to just sit back and wait for prince charming to fall in our laps. Also, we are told that aggressive women are still seen as easy sluts and that no real man wants a woman that steps to them. What is a girl to do in a world where men have women falling in their lap, especially in the DC area where the ratio for men to women is in favor of men sewing their oats until they nearly colapse from ball failure.

Sure some men love to be hit on, but do they really admire the woman or are we just feeding their ego when we do so? Do they only think we are hitting on them cause we wanna smash and do they treat us as such?

And yes, we women are tired of waiting for Average Joe to fall in our lap and take matters into our own hands and ask that guy out, but in the end, has this really become a successful relationship for any woman?

I will continue to wing it as I go in this dating world. I know there is no right or wrong, however, there is a preferred method for each of us and a preferred method in general. The "general method" affects us all and can have a huge impact on our lives when it comes to finding a potential mate.

What is the "general preferred method" of who steps to who when dating? Do we adopt old school ways and let the dog chase the cat or are the is the scale equal now for both men and women? Is it likely that a woman who hits on the man ends up with her prince charming, or with just another notch on her Prada belt? Can a man really still be a MAN if his woman was the one to make the first move?

Has the Club Lost It's Allure, or am I just Getting Old???

2010-04-15T13:44:00.000-04:00

Okay so I am lying a little bit. I enjoy myself at the club, when I am drunk. Honestly tho, I prefer to either be in VIP while there or be at a nice lounge being able to sit or chill or even converse if the music is low enough.

I started partying hard pre-divorce at Dream. I was there at least 2 Fridays a month. So much so that I was a regular and never even had to wait in line. I used to love club dream. Then I started going to all the different happy hour spots in DC, and partied hard on weekends.

I still go out a lot, but now, I'm not as enthused. Several reasons I can think of factor in

1. The crowd seems so immature - Back when I partied at Dream, guys were PRESSED to buy us drinks and supply us with a good time, now they be like "Bish please, I aint buying you spit, but will you still come home with me after I rub my balls all up and down your thigh all night". Young girls be pressed to fight.

2. The clubs don't seem as packed as they used to be - Seems that I am not the only one who isn't that interested in the club no more. Seems like unless there is a major Celeb like JayZ appearing, people don't really go out. I don't know if that's good or bad but it seems like you want to be able to say "Damn the club was POPPING"

3. Corniness RULES - Men walking around drinking out of the same Rose' bottle, women sharing a bottle of Rose' without a VIP, placing their bucket on the floor (true story by the way). Girls fresh to def from the racks of Rainbow, clubs letting any loser or bamma in, it just doesn't have the same appeal as before. Especially when they don't show discretion (Like Dream used to) when letting people in.

4. They cost too much - Back when I really used to party, we would get in for free, drink for free till a certain time, and eat for free and still be in VIP. Now it's only free before a certain time (if they let you in by then - Sidenote, ATLANTA is apparently FAMOUS for doing this, I was an eye witness - shout out to THE MANSION) and never an open bar. Maybe the clubs are seeing the downhill, but again, it could be cause I'm an aging cougar who is just tired of the club scene altogether.

5. Regional problem - Maybe DC is just to conservative - I don't know, maybe the Bougie people in DC with their high paying jobs are just too busy or too "good" to be in the club...

Mind you, because of WHO I AM (forgive my haughtiness haha), I can still get the hook up when I go to the club.

So All, how do you feel, has the club lost it's Luster, or are some of us just outgrowing it. Tell me how you feel.

Why I gotta be "AfroCentric", why is it an AFRO anyway

2010-04-06T19:18:00.000-04:00

Another Black Woman's Hair Post...but I think this one is going to be good.

Black women's hair has always been a topic of discussion.You see, this is understandable because it is the most unique hair of all the cultures and nationalities. We possess something about our hair most women of other nationalities don't possess. We can train our hair to do anything. Be straight, be curly, weave it out...FRO IT OUT.

My coworker, who has a beautiful head of curly natural hair, her "Fro" as she calls it, comes over to my desk to vent about a compliment she recieved about her fro. Now I know you are like "WTF, why is she complaining about a compliment?", but when she broke it down to me, I understood, and I am sure you will too. The compliment was "I love your hair, it's so AFROCENTRIC".

*pause and ponder*

I said the same thing you are saying "What's so wrong with that?" Well hear her/me out.

Why when a Black woman wears her hair in it's natural texture, and it's high coiled/kinky/curly/4A or whatever term you wanna use, whenever it's in a fro, why does it have to be "Afrocentric"? Why can't she just be wearing the hair she was born with. Especially since she may have never been to Africa? Especially since wearing your hair in it's natural texture isn't exactly wearing a "style".

One of my male friends, wait, nah, a couple of my male friends have asked me "Why do you style your hair in that curly way".

:-|

Dude, you do know that this is the hair I was born with, and I am not manipulating my texture into doing this.

Ignorance I tell you.

Why when an chinese girl wears her hair in it's natural texture it's not very "Chinesecentric" of her or someone of European decent or ...well you get the idea.

Is highly textured hair so abnormal/unusual that people assume it's a style of choice? Are we that ignorant about Black texture hair that we have to label it something specific to a Continent? Did you guys know that Africans can have straight hair as their natural texture and Non-blacks can have a "Fro".

Why do we call them AFRO's anyway, I have seen some Jewish folk with "Afros", some Asians too..why aren't they Jewfros and Asianfros #imjustsayin *please note the hidden ignorance here*
Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with being associated with the beautiful continent of Africa!!! But, seriously, are we soooo used to everyone doing things the "European way" that whenever a Black woman wears her hair in its natural state, she is being "Afrocentric"? Chances are, she is simply being HERSELF and wearing her hair the way she was born to wear it!!!

DMV PRESS RELEASE - Inaugural Reception Will Honor 30 Young Professionals in DC Area

2010-03-28T17:04:00.000-04:00

Can't be a DC based blog without shouting out DMV events..this one is not one to be missed.

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**Press Release**

Inaugural Reception Will Honor 30 Young Professionals in DC Area

Reception brings accomplished professionals, networking opportunities, and civic engagement under one roof for attendees

Washington, D.C. — Capital Cause in conjunction with the NMC Consulting Group will hold a reception honoring the Top 30 Under 30 Young Professionals in the Washington DC Metropolitan Area on Wednesday, March 31, 2010.

The event, which will include live jazz music by The Marcus Mitchell Project and Art by J Stacy Utley, will honor 29 young professionals within the Washington, DC Metropolitan area who have excelled in the areas of business, government, politics, education and the arts and were recognized by WKYS as a Top 30 Under 30. Capital Cause and the NMC Consulting Group will also announce the 30th honoree, who will be selected by their peers, from a pool of more than 30 nominations throughout the region.
The reception will include remarks by elected officials, business and community leaders, Jamal Simmons, CNN Correspondent and will include a resolution from the Council of the District of Columbia and a proclamation from the Mayor of the City of Alexandria honoring their awardees.

What: Capital Cause and NMC Consulting Group Present Top 30 Under 30 Reception

Who: Top 30 Under 30 Honorees:

Honorees include: Washington Redskins’s Devin Thomas; Mike Winans, Jr.; Natalie M. Cofield; Harold B. Pettigrew, Jr.; “Coach K” Amleset G. Kidane; Shawn Hay; Shayna Yvonne Rudd; Ryan Richmond; Pharoh Martin; William Lance Blake; Stephen Conti; Fred Howze III; Kimberly Smith; Courtney Maria Savoy; Avery Leake’ Lawrence Elliott Ball; Vallyn Lea Smith; Anthony Dale; Ryan J. Davis; Dontae Cunningham; Kimberly N. Wilson; Anthony Ajayi; Frank A. Bryant; Renaldo A. Chapman; Victoria “Shaqwana” Davis; Mahogany Woodland; Shanel Thomas; Marcus Mitchell.

Jamal Simmons, CNN Correspondent (confirmed)

Elected Officials

Business & Community Leaders

Where: Midtown Lofts, 1219 Connecticut Avenue, NW, WDC, 20009

When: March 31, 2010 – 6:30pm to 9:30pm

To RSVP: To purchase tickets or for more information regarding the event, please visit

http://www.capitalcause.com/, or call/email Corey Ponder at 202-642-4287 or info@capitalcause.com.

A $20 advanced ticket grants attendees access to an enticing buffet, live music, art on display, and a wealth of networking opportunities.

About Capital Cause:

Capital Cause is an organization dedicated to engaging young professionals in the giving process. Capital Cause succeeds in doing this by organizing fundraisers, learning programs and financial literacy courses. Capital Cause will also competitively award grants to young professionals who are small business owners or graduate school students.

About the NMC Consulting Group, Inc.
NMC Consulting Group, Inc. is a boutique consulting firm that specializes in business development, public affairs and program management. The organization aims to effectively support its clients by developing and enhancing economic development, entrepreneurship, and community‐related programming. For more information, please visit www.nataliecofield.com.

For Immediate Release Contact: Corey Ponder 202-642-4287

March 20, 2010 info@capitalcause.com

DEAD, CAN'T BREAVE, CHURCH FAINTS (look inside to see why)

2010-03-22T14:55:00.000-04:00

So I'm going down my "Blogs I Follow" list and see this and passed out, woke up again, and re-passed out

I HATE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW

MARION BARRY REALITY SHOW...

I bet you don't EVEN want to click the link now!!!

Why All Education Should Come at a Cost - A Guest Posters Opinion I think is VERY WORTH READING

2010-03-22T14:04:00.000-04:00

Actually, I stole this long comment from him in an email exchange with my coworker who I love to get into these types of discussions with. We were hyped and discussing why those Chicago school boys were able to all graduate and get accepted into college (see story here) . One person in the Email said "It's all about the teachers", Another said "Interesting but the wrong answer. Its about the PARENTS! Parents who take the effort to enroll their children in charter schools give a damn about education." The commment after the self made page break is the most interesting part of the exchange from my coworker...I think it's not such a bad idea once you really think about it. I'll wait for your comments to further comment myself.

I think it's very interesting to say the least and I would LOVE your input. Enjoy

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"Actually I think it's both. My plan to reform schools remain the same. It's simple but hard to do. Teachers Union and the City Council are obstacles.

First. Charge for education. $20 month for the first child, $10 per month for the second. $5.00 for the 3rd, $1.00 for each add'l child. Reason: This will get the parents interested. No one will allow their money to be wasted. Its a small amount so even the public assistance parents can pay. Raise the welfare check by 1/2 of the tuition if necessary, but make them pay. Attendance will no longer be a problem.

Second. Hire motivated Principals and give them the power to fire non-performing teachers. Institute uniforms at ALL grade levels. Pay teacher according to performance. Performance equals improvement from where the students start.

Third: Apply incentives/punishments to companies so that they do NOT hire drop outs. Advertise this. NO HSD or GED. No job. This needs to apply to service companies as well. One thing that can easily be done is to prohibit companies that hire drop outs from obtaining city contracts. This needs to apply to companies that use sub contractors as well. The subs must not hire drop outs either.

Fourth: Raise the age at which you can obtain a GED. You should not be able to drop out on Monday and take the GED on Tuesday. You should not be able to take it until 2 years after the graduation date when you dropped out. If you dropped out at 20 years old in the 11th grade, your graduation date is when you are 21. You cannot take the GED until you are 23. (Too bad you didn't study when you were younger, you would not have been held back so many times).

Fifth: Publicize all of this everywhere!! Radio, TV, Newspapers (sports and comics sections).

Note that I have removed the mandatory parent must volunteer one day per semester idea. Many people will only get HSD's or GED's and relegate themselves

to low paying jobs where they cannot be off without risking their jobs. Unfortunately you can't get around the fact that some people cannot be motivated to do more than the minimum.

I was surprised that she answered at all."

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What yall think

*forgive the typos, this is very rough*

True

"A Pair and a Spare"

2010-03-18T11:42:00.001-04:00

I don't even think I should be posting this for fear it may incriminate me. But aaaah..whatever.

I was chatting with my coworker the other day. The topic: My "boyfriends". I had overbooked my self one day and had to literally choose who I would hang out with. I was happy with my choice :-)

Oh yeah..I have several male acquaintances I hang out with at any given time. My reasons for doing this are simple.

1. I live in DC where men outnumber the women and they treat us as such. You are seeing a guy but you only see him once a week cause he has too many things to do or too many girls to do..you catch my drift. I'm not about to be waiting on a dude to be finished with the next chick. I accept the next man's offer and have a good time. * I got a phone call from one of my acquaintances other female friend a while ago. Basically I told her I knew ole boy, but its Saturday night, why are you in the house alone hacking his account and calling his female friends. (yes me and ole boy were hanging out at the time) GO OUT! Get a life! Find a spare when he is busy. She was really pathetic :-/. SHE NEEDS A PAIR AND A SPARE. (and bet your bottom dollar I told her that) *

2. I'm single and free to mingle.

3. I'm having a jolly good time and I deserve it.

That's it really. Number one being the main reason.

I have 2 main guy friends I exchange time with and a spare guy when both of those men are "busy" or "acting up" whatever.

This keeps me busy, and keeps my idle time down to a minimum. If I see a quality in a guy I like and other doesn't have it, I keep my options open by hanging with both of them till one of them screws up (which normally happens).

But what really drives this is the fact that each man probably thinks (or thought) my time was exclusively for them. *chuckles*

Unless you declare you want to be exclusive or propose to me, it's wrong to assume such. I'd love to be exclusive, but I know how you DC men roll, so in the meantime, I do like you do. I keep around a pair and a spare.

True2beingfreeuntiltherightonecomesalong

(PS, It has been brought to my knowledge that man people use the term "Pair and a Spare". It was used many different ways. In my case, I am not borrowing the idea from anyone in particular)

Why Lil Wayne is better than Jay Z

2010-03-18T10:57:00.002-04:00

Even though we should all “Just get along”, in the entertainment industry you can’t avoid competition nor comparing. Nothing gets us comparing and going at each others throats like debating rap skills and talent level.

Ahh…I love LOVE rap debates. We used to spend pages and pages on message boards debating, and hours over drinks debating who’s got the most rap talent.

Biggie or Pac
Nas or Jay Z
Foxy or Lil Kim
Jay Z or Lil Wayne

I was out with a great friend of mine the other day and I don’t know why I started talking about Lil wayne and Jay Z but I did. He’ll probably remember why, patron doesn’t really do much for your memory.
Anyhoo, I do remember him saying that some other rapper wasn’t that good and that started my whole “You know, I’m not that impressed with Jay Z “ vent.

Don’t get me wrong. I think he is talented, but his talents are minimal but my friend agreed, Jay Z is who he is mainly cause he is the last one standing if you catch my drift.

People from New York don’t really care for Lil Wayne but hang off the balls of Jay Z. Personally, I think (as the title states) Lil Wayne is a better entertainer, artist and rapper then Jay Z. He is more interesting to say the least. I think Lil Wayne is more talented and here is why:

1. Lil Wayne Sings his own hooks – and be having some BANGERS. Lollipop, fireman (I’m too lazy to name more…hell Google them yourself, I’m not a reporter anyway or researcher lol ) . Hell, he even sings hooks in songs that AREN’T HIS and they are hits. Jay Z I’m sure has some songs where he does his own hooks, but his most popular songs are where Pharrell, Timbaland, Swizz Beats and others have made the song hot. Personally I think most of Jay Z success comes from the banging beats and hooks made by other people. (reminds me of Ashanti, her talent is minimal, but the songs she puts out are hot)

2. Real Street Cred – I know this is an ignorant one, but you know I was going to throw one ignorant one in there. Lil Wayne has literally be shot, arrested and all that. SHOOT, THE MOFO LOCKED UP NOW!! Yeah Jay Z did a lil something something, but if you had to compare, Lil Wayne wins HANDS DOWN. Especially with the recent events. This means that he can more accurately rap about “gangsta stuff” lol

3. Lil Wayne didn’t leave his original “music family” behind. – Nope, the birdman and him are still really close. He is still affiliated with Cash Money. Jay Z thought he was grown and started smelling himself. (thanks Friend for pointing this one out)

4. He’s not from New York and is STILL HOT – Automatically New York rappers have a leg up. Lil Wayne managed to come from New Orleans, the deep down and DURTY SOUF and be one of the hottest rappers alive.

5. Youngsters want to BE HIM – I know it’s a probably a silly reason to you, however, the people buying the music most are the youngins. To the record execs, that’s ALL THAT MATTERS…SELLS!! Teens (the ones buying the albums) aren’t walking around trying to dress in mandals like Jay Z, no they are getting tatted up, growing their locs really long and wearing skinny azz jeans just like Lil Wayne. This means he is more marketable and more popular. Why you think my girl crush Nicki Minaj is so gimmicky? Because the young girls love it and they are the ones who support and purchase her music. Not us old fuddy duddy keeping up with appearance granny panny wearing, 17 letter having behind our names Fossils lol
I know yall may not agree with me, but ya’ll know that I’m going to speak my piece whether you agree or not. But for real, tell me why you do or don’t agree

True2didshereallyjustpostthat???

Relive your childhood with Alice in Wonderland the Movie, IN 3D

2010-03-10T21:37:00.000-05:00

I have kids, so I had the perfect excuse for seeing a childhood favorite story of mine brought to life on the big screen.

If you havn't read "Alice in Wonderland" and "Through the Looking Glass" you don't know what you are missing (written by English author Charles Lutwidge Dodgson under the pseudonym Lewis Carroll). The story is a magical journey through a young rebellious girl's mind and the creatures she encounters after falling through a rabbit hole.

The description of "Wonderland" is far more whimsical and beautiful than you could imagine. Reading the book had me wanting to travel there. I nearly peed my pants when I found out that Disney was creating a movie based on the popular children's book.

I was even more delighted that my male offspring wanted to enjoy the movie with me.

The movie was everything I thought it would be. Johnny Depp is very good at playing unique characters such as the Mad Hatter. I fell in love with his roles like this back when he did Edward Scissorhands. All the major characters from the book were there and I was not disappointed at all in any of them.

The story was heroic, action packed, enchanting and fun. Also, I sensed some romantic tension between Alice and the Mad Hatter.

I LOVED THIS MOVIE. It's not much of a story if you haven't read the book and aren't a general fan of "Alice in Wonderland" and "Through the looking glass". If you don't like the story, it's definitely worth it for the graphics and its great for the kids. Tim Burton manages to bring fantasy alive again in this movie!

I give it on True's rating system, wait till the second weekend of release

ROCK THE RED PUMP!!! TODAY IS NATIONAL WOMENS & GIRLS HIV/AIDS AWARENESS DAY!!!!

2010-03-10T04:05:00.002-05:00

Good VERY EARLY MORNING All!!!

If you have been following my site you SHOULD have noticed I have a "Rock the Red Pump" banner on my page.

Now you guys know I'm not a super activist or anything, but HIV/AIDS awareness really hits close to home.

When I was a teenager, my uncle, my father figure, my closest family member, was diagnosed with HIV. I watch him go from perfectly healthy, to being very ill, to dying within 24 hours of choosing not to go on with his medication and leaving this earth peacefully.

It was a very hard experience for me, but he taught me a lot, made me appreciate and value my life more and also made me understand that HIV/AIDS can happen to ANYONE.

I know the RED PUMP PROJECT is geared towards women and girls, but I know that HIV/AIDS affects EVERYONE, man woman or child. How can I not support ANY ORGANIZATION or MOVEMENT that wants to help bring awareness of HIV/AIDS to everyone.

So ladies, if you got some red shoes in your closet...ROCK THEM TODAY!! If not, wear something red anywhere...I don't care if it's your drawers. HIV/AIDS is real. Protect yourself, your partner and show some love and compassion to those already living with the disease because you aren't immune to it.

For more information about the RED PUMP PROJECT visit http://www.theredpumpproject.com/ and be sure to follow them on twitter @RedPumpProj

* Straight from my kitchen floor, the RED PUMP I'm rocking today*

Why Fat Chicks are more Accepted than Skinny Chicks

2010-03-08T21:58:00.001-05:00

I know, I know

Another same old tired ass argument. But first, let True explain the way True does.

First a back story.

True has always been considered "skinny" I lack curves, I didn't have much fat on my body. I developed normally instead of at a fast pace. I was not chosen to be someone's girlfriend all throughout grade school because I didn't have "body". I was often ridiculed by bigger females because of my size. Guys tormented me because I was small.

It was ROUGH to say the least!!

Fast forward to adult hood. Not much as has changed. While being my normal size, I encounter some "skinny chasers". They love my size. Other men say "You'll be fine as hell when you gain 20 pounds". It's still not easy to deal with.

Oh yeah..there is a point to this...let me get to it.

Fat women are more accepted than skinny women. Skinny women aren't real. They live in magazines, in the celeb world...but we all know their world is much differerent from ours. It's not the real world. The size celebs are in magazines and on TV isn't the size women are for real walking and living un-famous lives.

We are mostly overweight or really curvy.

That's it.

When someone with a "model" or "actress" body walks down the street, they aren't praised. They are RIDUCULED for NOT FITTING IN!

No, I'm serious.

Maybe it's just a Black thing, but from my experience you are "somalian" if you aren't over 150lbs when you are 5ft 4

You are "Crack head skinny" if you wear a size 2 in the real world, you need to be at least a 12 to be normal

HUH?

You see, I don't think most of you know that the real deal is that "skinny" isn't accepted in the real world. Not many people are skinny. Most of us are overweight.

Sure we go IN on a celeb if they are over 120 lbs..but in the real world, we go hard on you if you look like a celeb.

It's because YOU DON'T FIT IN TO FAT AMERICA.

Plain and simple.

I am officially borderline overweight..yet, I have people, both men and women telling me my size is normal

:-/

I hardly consider gaining 20 lbs in 6 months "normal". I did this by pigging out on fast food, eating everything in sight, downing 2 sodas a day. VERY UNHEALTHY..yet I'm "normal" now. (Really read in to that sentence yall..there is a serious message there!!)

Go figure.

Because of this I have concluded that FAT is more accepted because it is of course normal for Americans to be fat (unless you are a celeb....but remember camera adds pounds)

Therefore, I am ridiculed more for being skinny...I am the "outsider" here

Looks like I need to hurry up and be famous, least there I will be accepted for my size

True

Hood Chics are People Too

2010-03-06T01:05:00.001-05:00

Ghetto girl, Chicken Head, Hood Rat, Hoochie Mamma

These are all terms that are used to describe a girl who may not be as educated as bougie girl. These terms are used to describe a female who may not be as reserved as a Spelman Grad. The woman who isn't ashamed that she comes from "the hood" and flaunts it the minute she wakes up in the morning by combing thru her blue weave.

She may have waaay too many syllables in her name for your taste. She may be too loud and obnoxious for another. Her attire may be just way too loud for you.
She makes you hang your head in shame. She makes you whisper and laugh behind her back. She makes you shake your head when she walks by. She makes you try your everything to disassociate yourself with her.
You may even feel sorry for her. "She's got no class" you say. "She is so ignorant" your friends agree.

Dudes won't be seen in public with HER. "Damn man" you text your homeboy "she like's beer man, I can't "wife" her, but damn her ass phat". So you dudes creep over her house and use her up until you meet your Howard grad.

Why are we so hard on the Hood Chic? What about her are we so afraid of that we constantly make sure we point out that we are the opposite of that? We run up out the Ghetto and and act like we never lived there. We run into our old highschool buddies and act like we don't know them cause God forbid we are associated with the likes of HER.

Well you mofo's don't know what you are missing out on.

I always say that the least intelligent and wise are those who refuse to expose themselves to what they don't know. How can you declare yourself a "Smart" person when you refuse to allow yourself to learn more about a particular group, instead going on what you percieve and what has been taught to you.

A lot of you put down the Hood chic cause you don't really know what she's about, who she is or how vaulable to this world she really is.

NO ONE is stronger than a hood chic - She has gone through WAAAAAY more than your bougie behind has. She knows more about life than you and can FOR SURE, even in her young years tell you more about life. Something you WILL NOT find in a text book. She is your go to person from how to make a meal out of macaroni and chicken to how to sew on a button.

She is EXTREMELY LOYAL - Ride or die is what she truly is. Most Bougie folk are flighters, your hood chic is a fighter. No one better mess with her or the ones she loves. PERIOD. She ALWAYS have your back.

She treats her man right - It's crap that a hood girl isn't wife material. Like hell she aint. She does any and everything for her man including sticking around when he loses his job or being with him while he still on the hunt for one. Plus she'll cook you a good meal and sex you afterwards. So what if she isn't interested in politics, she more of a man pleaser. She wants to see you smile, not compete with you. She loves being your subordinate, even tho she don't act like it. Bougie chics mostly want to be "equal" to you but treated like they are better than you.

She don't raise no spoiled ass kids - The hood mom's kids are super self sufficient. They are independent at an early age. Naw I'm not talking about the irresponsible mom. I'm talking about the hood mom whose child can let her sleep after a long work week at the supermarket to make ends meet by making their own cold cereal in the morning. Single moms have it rough. Hell, don't even fault them too much for them being a single mom. Children are a blessing. She probably really thought that her relationship would work out. Remember, she really is a ride or die chic.

She's not judgemental - unlike your bougie behind, she accepts that some people had rough and/or different lives and no one is going to be the same. She embraces differences and may even say "Girl, thats just how it is" and keep it moving. No overanalyzing for her.

She won't leave you - the Hood chic isn't scary. She stands her ground and hold her own. She don't run away at the first sign of trouble. Whether it's walking down the street into a fight or fighting for the man she loves....she stays around until the dust clears.

She tells the TRUTH like it IS! - you bougie folk are a little too concerned with how people percieve you and being offensive. The hood chic doesn't. If she doesn't like something....SHE DOESN'T LIKE IT and will TELL YOU. Then hug you after she hurt your feelings.

There is plenty to love about a woman from the hood or just got a little hood in her. There is nothing wrong with a Hood woman. She shows her strength and she loves a lot harder than someone who is used to having it all. She'll be your best friend and be honest about you having a booger in your nose. She will share her last 5 dollars with you or let you wear her wig to the club the next night.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking bougie broads. I love yall too. One of my faves is @OneChele from http://www.blacknbougie.com/. She is a strong sister herself. I just grow weary of people putting down our beautiful, sexy and smart hood chics. She may have an edge, but she is still a wonderful human being with immense power and a bigger heart than you could ever know!!! She is just DIFFERENT...and there is nothing wrong with that..(don't make me get too deep..just think and read and change your mind)

Get to know a hood chic's history before you go judging her and dismissing her. You may find your future best friend or even wife.

true2beingfromthehoodandbooksmart

LLCoolJ Said it BEST!!

HOOKERS AND WHY THEY ARE IMPORTANT - GUEST POST AND ONE OF MY FAVORITES

2010-03-03T08:13:00.002-05:00

As I have said before, True2me doesn't have a problem with any of the oldest professions, in fact I believe that most of you look down on what you don't understand . Perhaps this newest post will help move you towards being more open minded not only to another sexual freedom, but to be more open minded in general.

Meet Godctyad.yrself, my buddy and someone who shares in my love of history. Here he tells us all about where the word "hooker" originated and how it helped, (yes I said HELPED) society. ENJOY!!!

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WHAT CAN STUDYING THE HISTORY OF THE WORD “HOOKER” TELL YOU ABOUT HOOKERS AND HISTORY GENERALLY?

True2me, my colleague in the written and conversationally written arts, has asked me to contribute an occasional piece on politics or history. With True admiration for her creativity in nurturing this blog, I’ll contribute under the pseudonym Godctyad.yrself. This identifies me as one of True’s many first cousins in her ever-growing blog family or a “blog-brood” (or brood of blogs, if you prefer).
Today’s topic is the interesting things studying the history of hookers can tell you about history and humanity, and, therefore, yourself. First, before you can accurately understand a hooker or any other subject, don’t you need to know yourself thoroughly? Could you, for example, accurately report on the quality of a singer’s voice if you were actually tone-deaf and didn’t have the brains to find this out about yourself?

Similarly, isn’t thoroughly knowing your own history (i.e., true self-knowledge) the critical ingredient to effectively advising yourself? Could you, for example, pick the proper major in college without remembering you flunked high school algebra but were also editor and chief of the yearbook? The same holds for advising others: know your subject. If, for example, you convinced True to devote a section of her blog each day to diet advice tailored only to you and your daily hunger or reflexive munches, wouldn’t True do much better if she knew more rather than less about your eating history? Plainly, True would do much better in spooning and doling out personal dieting doctrine the more she knew about your past affairs with, and past lives in, buffet lines!

This tells us that knowing the histories of yourself and others is critical to self-advising and advice generally. Well, it’s no different when, as a humble citizen, you advise your local or national government. How can you accurately know what and how to advise Mayor Fenty or President Obama by voting in our humble democracy unless you know their personal histories, the history of our city, the history of our country? Studying history is critical to understanding your country (no less than it is to truly knowing yourself and your friends) because history magnifies humanity’s meaning by both magnifying and preserving the meaning across the millennia of individual humans. History makes us wiser because it’s the difference between knowing yourself and knowing your friends for, say, 10 or 20 minutes versus knowing them for a lifetime.

What, for example, can studying the history of the word and concept of being a “hooker” tell us about humanity? Hooker comes from the Civil War career of Union General Joseph P. Hooker. Early on, the poor Union Army had been beaten to a pulp so many times by the slave-defending rebels that the men were demoralized, insecure, and afraid of death and failure, poor soldiers! Gen Hooker immediately spruced up their uniforms, arranged for better food, and allowed women to follow the army and sell sexual services for profit (some call this whoring; English teachers call it prostitution, selling conjugal services or cash conjugating). The men responded warmly, firmly, and quickly to these traditional remedies of better clothes, food, and sex: Gettysburg and other famous Union victories immediately followed. The grateful men referred to the women as “Hooker women” or hookers for short. There’s no known historical record of what the men called Gen. Hooker’s comely uniforms or more enticing food.

The history of “hooker women” or hookers tells us that a hidden and primarily female army’s sexual trafficking contributed materially and physically to the success of the same Army of the Potomac that freed the slaves and saved the Union. Is there any significant difference in the primarily unseen labors of these humble and not-so-humble hookers and the primarily unseen (1) labors of the Chinese laborers who helped link the East and the West by laying track in the trans-continental railroads and (2) labors of the innumerable women across history that chose to marry or stay with a particular man because he provided the most money and security for her and her children?

Studying the history of “hooker” teaches us that, in history’s window, you’re a bright constellation, a mortifying maggot in the ground, or something in between not because of what you are, were, or were said with words or labels to be, but because of: what you do or did and how you did it, and how what you did made your community or country better or worse off, greater or lesser, or less than good and great. If you can learn this much from studying a hooker’s history, think about how much you can learn by the objective study of yourself, your friends, our city, and our country.

Godctyad.yrself

WOMEN CHEAT TOO : In Honor of @MINDSTREAMRADIO's topic tonight, an oldie but Goodie

2010-02-24T12:15:00.000-05:00

Tonight I will be appearing AGAIN on Mindstream Radio.(I love working with them) Tonight's topic will be "Cheating and Sex Addiction" and I plan on going IN!!!

I thought about how cheating is always correlated with men and how I HATE THAT, cause women do it to. So read up yall and be sure to listen in tonight starting at 8pm. Use either http://rocktheflow.com/ or http://mindstream-world.ning.com/

ENJOY THE POST!!!

Ladies stop acting innocent..YALL CHEAT LIKE HELL

That's it. That is the LAST STRAW.

Women. Stop acting so innocent. YOU CHEAT TOO. Yeah you.
Oh no, I'm not talking about you ladies that cheat because your is man cheating on you. Nope, I'm talking about you ladies that cheat for no good gyat damn reason. Because you are greedy, like how we women say men are. Cheat because that man's balls and change were just too enticing, cheat because that man's smile just made you melt, cheat because you needed NEW attention, the old wasn't good enough, Cheated because YOU COULD.

There are always debates about how women are more emo and men are not. After hearing more and more stories about men and women breaking up because the WOMEN were to blame for cheating, I am becoming more aware that men and women aren't really that different. Males and females probably equally have the ability to cheat. Society had decided at one point to make women the weaker sex and we have bought into it. For centuries the idea that women are more emotional than men and because of that are less likely to do things men do has been forced into our brains. We are raised to believe that we are just naturally more nurturing and loyal (shit..tell my mother that), men raised to think its normal and okay for a man to want to wander. Well, I am learning more and more that that simply isn't true.
Men, oh you men, you egotisitical, insecure men. You don't know how you will dominate us if we find out that we aren't the weaker sex. So you make excuses for our behavior. Accusing women of being "lost" or "delusional" or "bitter" and even go as far as to say when we do things like cheat on our man solely for pure lust that its because we were scorned and want to act like a man. But the more I learn from my fellow collegues and buddies, the more I realize that women are human, just as much as men are (duh). We have pretty much the same desires.
The men I know who were cheated on were good providers, handsome, well endowed well preserved, considerate and thoughtful. They did all the right things they should as a man, the women cheated simply because they COULD. Because they wanted to try something new. And yes the men were hurt, of course they were. Some because the "All women are whores type" and some got second (and some got third) chances at love and still wanted to settle down.
So yes, this could be another one of my "men and women aren't that different" arguments. Hell, I guess it is...cause it would appear that well, WE AREN'T THAT DIFFERENT. We have the same basic human desires. Sure with men there may be a lil more of this and that, and with women a little more of this and that, but the point is, stop trying to separate the emotional and good/bad parts of us so much. Stop genderizing so damn much and start looking at the individual person. There is no benifit to categorizing somen/or men, to assume that all women are innocent or should be, and assume that men are aggresive and roamers and should be. There is good and bad in each person individually. Start looking at the person as an individual and not as some part of either one of 3 groups - Male, Female and WHORE.

Are you a LABEL SLAVE: Pickin the cotton of Brands and not making NOTHING FROM IT?

2010-02-22T15:29:00.001-05:00

Gucci, Prada, Hugo Boss, BCBG, Guess, Ralph Lauren...All popular brand names, clothes that cost more than some people's bi-weekly paychecks, seen on everyone from celebs to broke azz hood chicks.
Why do we spend so much money and effort and time into a brand name?

I remember before I had my beautiful sons and while I was still in college working full time and going to school full time, I only rocked name brand. I did it because the clothes fit nice, but more so because I wanted to be known for wearing name brand gear. I didn't want to be a bama and I wanted people to be impressed. But now I can't for the life of me figure out WHY? Like seriously.

I'm sure part of it has to do with me being raised by my grandmother who was waaaaaaaaay behind in the times. I got my used jeans a cool year after they were not hot anymore. I got my guess jeans from the thrift store, I got pro wings instead of etonics and my bobby brown shoes had a pointy toe. *sigh* I got made fun of quite a bit for my "out dated" gear. I allowed what I wore to affect my self esteem, which isn't uncommon among teens, and sadly, some younger children and adults.

Wearing your status on the outside isn't unusual. Royalty does it with expensive fabric and attire. Rappers do it with stupid chains and name brand sneakers. Actresses show it on the red carpet with expensive gowns, black female celebs do it with 10,000 weave, Hustlers show it by buying 1,000 inch UNSIGHTLY rims.....I could go on but you get the idea.

The problem comes in when people who aren't famous, or royalty, or rich choose to spend their money rocking labels, whether bootleg or real. What status are you trying to show? Why are you faking so hard? You KNOW you got that shirt downtown from the stand. If you can only afford target, why don't you just wear target till you can afford that expensive stuff.

This is truly the stupidest form of keeping up with the Joneses. How you rocking blak label but live in your momma basement? How you stunting with Hugo Boss instead of Gap jeans but can't pay your student loan?

I BLAME RAP MUSIC!!! Nah really I do. I love me some rap, don't get me wrong, and its not their fault directly for encouraging Lil Ray Ray to sell crack to be able to afford some damn Prada sneakers, but they do influence youth in a huge form, especially with product endorsements. But Kiddies, please remember, they are getting PAID to endorse them while you spending your pizza hut delivery check on a pair of sneakers instead of an education so you can get a great job later in life and effortlessly afford those labels.

I see people going back and forth on twitter about women who shop at Rain.bow and how much something cost and where they got this and that. Its sooo juvenile. If the person is clean and the clothes are neat and fit and they look good in it, WHO CARES HOW MUCH THEY COST?!!?!?

I started seeing a guy who constantly makes me aware of what he got, that he aint no cheap ninja, that he can afford 100.00 fish, that he paid for this and can buy that. I DONT EFFING CARE!?!?!? You haven't told me ANYTHING MEANINGFUL. NOT ONE AZZ THING!!! Paying 200 dollars for a shirt that cost 2 dollars to make and then bragging about it is just dumb. Not to mention that its going to end up in Marshall's for 24.99 in 6 months :-/. Then everyone will be rocking your "200 dollar shirt". Feel like it's brag worthy then? #dumbass

I remember Oprah had a show wear they compared name brand to off brand. The Target brand polo was a better quality than the Ralph Lauren. TRUE STORY

Now I know this isn't true for all clothes, and some of you stand buy your buying name brand. Especially if you can afford it. I don't have an issue for any of you. It's the dumb butt, bragging on a brand and aint got nothing going on but some damn shyt you buying that someone one else making money off people that annoy me.

New True Term: THE LABEL SLAVES....Brainwashed into thinking that another person's name on their damn azz means they are "better" than other people. Are you a LABEL SLAVE: Pickin the cotton of Brands and not making NOTHING FROM IT? If what you are wearing on your back is your main way of gaining self esteem and showing your worth, you are MAJORLY FAILING!!!

Men, do you agree that you are more pressured into wearing name brands than women? Part of this is because we have to KNOW you can take care of us. If you can't afford "better quality" gear then how can you provide for a family.

Women, why do you think Lil Kim made it a point to constantly rap about what name brands she rocks? Was she putting a price on her cooter? Why do women make it a point to wear name brand?
SMH

VOTE FOR ME FOR WASHINGTON DC CITY PAPER'S "BEST LOCAL BLOG"

2010-02-19T15:09:00.001-05:00

Don't know how many of you actually READ my blog and shoot sometimes I don't even know why, can I even BEGIN to fathom that I could win aWashington City Paper "Best of DC" award !! So let's consider this a little experiment of mine. If you enjoy the funny shyt I post here, the club and restaurant reviews, the local guest bloggers...THEN VOTE DAMMIT!!

VOTE FOR ME HERE

LOVE YOU GUYS!!!! And please continue to read :-)

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HAPPY FAT TUESDAY!!!!!

2010-02-16T11:49:00.000-05:00

Aaah, Fat Tuesday, the precursor to Ash Wednesday and LENT, the period where you "give up something" in honor of one of the supreme deities of Xtian religion. Most blog posts are going to focus on what people are giving up for lent, which lasts 40 days. So, of course I am going to put my spin on it. (of course it's because LENT is something I HATE!!!! )

What are you going to go all out on then give up for the season. Stumped? Here are some suggestions True2me style:
Give up: Tofu - face it, its HORRIBLE anyway

Give up: Being a vegetarian, YOU KNOW YOU WANT A STEAK!!!

Give up: Wearing draws - go commando for a few weeks...its liberating

Give up: Waiting for Mr. Right and just have some dang sex, NO BRAINER

Give up: Watching what you eat - come on, who doesn't love a phat azz

Give up: Studying for that exam, you'll probably pass it anyway, a D is passing

Give up: Trying to be subtle and tell ole girl you want to hit, she may just let you

Give up: Being PC, be blunt for 40 days. You'll feel better as a person and release some tension

What are some you guys giving up for lent? What do you suggest others give up for lent?

STOP BEING A PRUDE - Is our society truly too sexual or are we just coming into ourselves

2010-02-12T14:08:00.001-05:00

Ya'll know what, I can't help it. I have avoided relationship posts, but I can't get past the sex ones, which, kinda relate to the relationship posts lol. Besides, who would WANT to stop posting about sex.

This newest topic of mine came up because I hear and read alot of young Black women say that society is too sexualized. One thing came to mind: WOMAN, WERE YOU BORN IN 1942???

People are writing and ranting and complaining that "hoes" and "jump off situations" and "sexting" and "porn" and everything else that is defined as being sexually free is ruining relationships. Naked woman in music videos, men getting sex from women "too easy" and women giving the cooter up for a dollar menu fry is the reason society is self destructing

O_O

Really?

I think the new sexual freedom has caused society in America to IMPROVE. If we focus less on what people are doing sexually, we can focus more on people as individuals. If sex isn't a "big deal" people can learn a lot about the person and what they have really accomplished being able to only be with x number of folks. (IMO, that shouldn't even BE on the "relationship resume" cc True2me)

People are less likely to cheat on their spouses because they can be open about what they REALLY want and what REALLY turns them on. Men who actually prefer to have sex with men (and women with women) can no longer live a miserable life of heterosexuality or feel the need to sneak off to do what they really want, betraying themselves and their partners. Young adults can have sexual experiences and can enjoy their 20's more because of the condoms and sex education that provides them with the necessary tools to experiment sexually before they do decide to settle down. AND ...those of us who don't want to settle, can just NOT SETTLE and continue to date and live the single life (safely) if we so choose.

All of us will always have a different set of values, and I respect that. While some of us side eye the girls that has on the see through shirt at the club with no bra, she actually exudes a certain confidence (although with a very attention seeking gesture) that some of us wish we had. I brought this up because my question/concern is: WHY ARE WE STILL AFRAID TO BE OURSELVES SEXUALLY?

I know for most of you it is for religious reasons. That will probably pretty much put a nail in the coffin of this argument for you.

But for the rest of us, especially those of you who have been guilty of having premarital sex and being unwed mothers and fathers, why do you still put so much emphasis on an individual's sexual preferences, tastes and desires no matter how bold or reserved?

Sex is a natural human instinct that does of course need some form of control, but if no one has papers on you and you want to try some things out, maybe flaunt that gorgeous bod of yours or use your wonderful man/woman tools below to satisfy more than one person (safely of course), WHY NOT DO IT!!!

I probably have stressed this numerous times in numerous posts, TIMES ARE CHANGING! Women, we don't need our chastity and virginity to get men nowadays. WOMEN, we have more to offer a man than our cooters. We have brains to think, minds to explore and are some of the world's most influential leaders. Men, you have to get over yourselves and understand that women aren't just emotional compiles of flesh that should do any and everything for your approval. We can attain our own status WITHOUT your help.

With that said people, let's not stay stuck in the stone ages regarding sex. Remember, what one person (safely) does shouldn't affect you. Let them video models pop them thangs. Let those two young lovebirds "sext" eachother if they want. Why can't a man and woman of the same age have the same number of sex partners (long as they are safe ) and if I want to walk up in the club in some booty shorts and a bikini top saying “LOOK ME” and you don’t want to look, turn your head. LOL .

If we are more open and educated about sexuality and the good and bad of it all, I think we would function better as a society in general.

But hey, that's just me

*thoughts, wanna cuss me out, wanna call me a heathen, wanna say umma burn in hell? COMMENT!!!*

GUEST BLOGGER AND PROBABLY THE WORST DATE EVER!!!!

2010-02-11T14:20:00.000-05:00

Hey, I'm not a stingy blogger....but I am certainly an incapacitated one *sigh...new laptop coming soon*. But that isn't why I'm posting this post this time, I'm doing it because this HAS TO BE the WORST DATE EVER!!! Yall HAVE TO READ THIS..NOW!!!

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When Patrice asked me to send her my worst dating experience, I jumped at the opportunity to do so because I am 100% positive that no one has gone through what I experienced 5 years ago in Baltimore. I preface this story by letting you know that everything you are about to read really happened. This is not an urban legend, myth, fiction or science fiction story. This is real life! Therefore, if you ever happen to meet this girl, run, don’t look back, and please whatever you do… DO NOT let her enter your car!!!

It all started roughly 5 years ago when one of my homeboys wanted to do something special for his girl. I think it was around Valentine’s Day, or some other holiday when guys do nice things for their girls. Anyways, at the time his girl was living with her cousin. So as manlaw requires, I had to take the “L” for the team and take the cousin away from the house for the afternoon so he could hook up the crib.

I called the cousin, we exchanged pics, and everything seemed like it might not be an L after all. She was about 5’6, brown skin, 140lbs and stacked like Pam Grier. So when I say I thought I was winning, I thought I was really doing something. I got dressed in my button down with the fresh blazer ( you know getting my Usher on), and drove out to Baltimore to go pick her up. I was even extra excited because I had just purchased an ‘05 Pearl Colored Mitsubishi Galant LS (It’s no Benz, but you couldn’t tell me I wasn’t on my shyt). But as we all know, when you think you’re on top of the world, somebody gets a bat and swings the shit out of it until they knock you down!!

Anyways, I get to her crib and ring the doorbell. She yells out the window that she’ll be right out. So I wait outside for about 5 minutes until she actually opened the door. Mind you we are in Baltimore, and I’m dressed fresh as shyt in front of my brand new car… in the hood!

She finally comes down and the first thing I say to myself is “DAMN!” Not because her body was on point, or because she had a cute smile, but because she failed to mention to me in our prior conversations that she only had two fingers, her pinky and a thumb on her left hand!!!! With all of that said, I’m still a gentleman, so I TRIED to pretend that I didn’t even see it.

So I walk her to the car & open the door for her (you know the whole gentleman thing). Wholetime I’m wondering “what happened to your middle three fingers?” As she gets in the car, for some strange reason she decided to test my will! This girl had the nerve to rest her head on her hand in between her pinky and thumb. But I refrained from the “nigga moment” and continued with the conversation. About a good five minutes, she decides to ask me if I mind dropping her buy a building so that she could “pick something up.” In fact, those were her very words “pick SOMETHING up.” So, of course I say no problem, where do you want me to go?

She gives me directions to “turn left here, make a right there, and park right over there.” So I park and she goes inside only to return with her 2 year old son! Like are you serious?? I have nothing against kids. In fact, I’m a school teacher so I do well with them. But she definitely omitted this part of her life, plus, we supposed to be going out, how was I to know it would turn into a family outing? I also could have sworn she said that she needed to go pick up “SOMETHING.” A two you old boy is not a SOMETHING! This is the point where I began to get really annoyed.

The two of them finally entered my car, and she gave her son a cup of milk and placed him into the backseat. Mind you, new car + 2 year old + milk = bad combination. I start to pull off when all of a sudden I hear the most horrifying word ever…“OOPS!!!”... Lil man spilled his entire cup of milk all over my back seat. Now I’m past annoyed!

Here I was thinking I was I going on a date with a Pam Grier lookalike, and end up chilling with a girl with two fingers, whose son just happened to fck up my back seat. Please excuse my language, but this is really a sensitive subject. You don’t mess with a man’s new car!!!

To make matters worse, there was one more stop. I know you guys are probably thinking why continue with this date/outing/nightmare, but I didn’t want to be judgmental, and wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt (What the hell was I thinking?)

So I got new directions…“turn here, make a right turn there and park here.” I look up and what do I see… a fckng laundry mat! This girl had clothes in the dryer! WTF! So now, I am no longer pissed, I merely have a deep rooted hatred for this girl, her son and her missing middle fingers! All it took was one person to tell me that her son looked like me, and I had to call it a night. I told her we had two options, either I could take her home now, or she could find someone else to pick her up. Either way I guaranteed that she would never see me again!

BBest

New Post..but not here.. on FLAGLERHILL.COM....

2010-02-02T14:09:00.000-05:00

Yes I posted a blog on http://www.flaglerhill.com/, Check me out

I LOVE IT

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Dear Slutty Mom

2010-02-01T16:29:00.002-05:00

*inspired by Kelis*

Dear Slutty Mom,

You should be ashamed, you are too old, your life is different now, this shit should be eliminated like mold

No more piercings, no more gold teeth, no more tattoos that say "ni66a eat me"

You have to show your child the appropiate way to be, not have them thinking that the way you are is normalcy

Your child doesn't need to see your twat nor your crotch, if you keep this up by the age of 12 they will be drinking scotch

You don't look sexy, you don't look hot, Lady GaGa Couture for you, as a mom, I THINK NOT.

Stop looking burnt out and high, stop thinking you are the shit, you just look crazy deranged and down right STUPID

Please women take heed, cause I'm here to drop this bomb, you DO NOT look sexy like that..you are just A SLUTTY MOM!!!

Naked Party Anyone?

2010-02-01T15:12:00.002-05:00

GREAT! I can continue on with my lazy vibe because your favorite guest poster @DBinDC (so what I said favorite, I can do that on MY BLOG) has sent me a knew story!!! This one just as funny if not FUNNIER than the last time. Please comment afterwards..this one defintely warrants a comment or 2..SHEESH!!

Hey peeps (tweeps, bleeps, and otherwise)… I’m back again with another installment of what I’m going to call “Random Life Experiences”. So without further ado I present you with a question that man has struggled with for ages… to party naked..or not to party naked. Think about it before you give me your answer…

Before we get too much further into the dissection of one’s naked partying preferences let me take a step back and set the scene. My bf and I were in NYC last weekend having ourselves a good ole time. We hooked up with an associate of his, who from this point forward shall be known as the Swedish Chef (on account of him rocking chef pants on a club excursion that never happened.. another story for another day.. tentative tile “Duuuude, I got you, I know the DJ”… hrmmm ok notsomuch).

The Swedish Chef is an artist by trade, and a really interesting (read: out there) kinda guy to boot, and bf gave me advanced warning. SC and his wife were cool peeps, and we managed, after the failed clubbing hook up attempt, to have dinner before we hopped on the Mega bus back to good old DC. Just as a side bar.. the bathrooms on the Mega bus? No good for the travel sexing.. too small, and lordy after a few hours way too stinky…

So, we’re back in DC enjoying dinner Friday night at Busboys and Poets (shocker!), with a good friend of mine and his lady friend. As we’re sitting there just chilling out, bf gets a text. He leans over and shows me the message which read simply… “Do you guys party naked”.

WTF?

What does that mean sir? Party naked?

There was much discussion around the table as to what exactly “partying naked entailed”, and how best to respond to such a question. We settled on the non committal, non-offensive response.. “nah”. Send

While waiting for the Swedish Chef’s response there was more roundtable discussion…

“You know they’re swingers!! They have to be”

“No, no, no…. “

“A party involves more than two people..”

“no no no no no no no”

“Naked? Where is this coming from?”

“Dude, the wife totally wants to bang you DB”

“What if it’s the Swedish Chef driving this?? What if he wants you???”

“umm.. waitress.. can I have another drink? Please? Now?”

“Perhaps they got a vibe from you.. you know.. making them think you’re down”

“no, no, no, no, no”

(all of the no’s in the above dialogue were me)

Out of all of the combinations of words sent in texts to people you loosely associate with (and I do mean loosely) getting the naked partying inquiry is the last thing either of us had expected.

The text dialogue continues..

SC: “Ha, dude then you aren’t living”

BF: (after table conference) “Then tell me what I’m missing”

Cause you know we’d hate to misunderstand what the hell it is you’re talking about here.. so please.. wax poetic on how we’re missing out on all the naked partying hijinks…

There was more back and forth, but yeah.. they were talking about going to a swingers club.

Color me a little bit freaked out… the only naked partying I do is with the bf, on a strictly one to one basis (I don’t share, and I’d hate to have to cut a bitch in the swingers club.. I think they frown on that type of behavior). Don’t get me wrong, on an academic level, I would totally go to a swingers club… but going with a couple who has invited us… wellllll… I’m not so sure about that. We’d be cool and then the Swedish Chef might offer us Ecstasy laced gum and god know what the hell might pop off.. so I’m good with politely declining their invite at the moment.

Talk about making a move that ensure that all subsequent couple interactions we may have are guaranteed to be awkward.

Its not my fault you having a baby.....

2010-01-28T13:44:00.003-05:00

Aahhhh…baby showers…The cute little clothes. The oohs and aahs. The gushing over the soon to be mother. Asking what the name is going to be.

EFF THAT!!!

I have HAD IT with baby showers, wedding showers, all of that crap.

It’s a recession. You CHOOSE to get married but want ME to spend MY MONEY helping you pay for it! You CHOSE to buy a new home but want me to help furnish it. WTF I HATE IT ALL!!!! You lay your azz down in the bed, spread eagle and expect ME to come out of MY POCKET so your child can have.

Now I’m not completely the devil, I do small gifts here and there for babyshowers and wedding showers and what not. Just to keep it PC with the ones I love

But these office showers and what not are just taking it TOO FAR!

Don’t they have family. YES THEY DO. LET THEM DO THE DARN SHOWER!!!

As I see 2 more pregnant women walking around in my department, I already foresee the sappy baby backdropped email requesting that we not only ATTEND the baby shower, but now I have to spend my pedicure money or eyebrow money for a gift for the cute little accident

UGH. I HATE IT.

What’s worse is now we have people putting requests in the invitation for cash.

*blank effing stare *

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.

Be considerate preggo, fiancé and new home owner. TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN SHYT!!

* done *

and YES I probably blogged this before....SO WHAT lol

Randoms - 1/27/10

2010-01-27T10:16:00.001-05:00

Not that they aren't cute..buuuut...why alla yall walking around looking like woody woody pecker? It never occured to any of you beautiful ladies that you resemble woody the wood pecker?

Future rappers, current rappers..PLEASE step up your vocabulary game. PLEASE. you cannot CANNOT standout as a rapper if your vocabulary is very basic.

Okay...I think thats all I have for today..carry on folks lol

Go Bananas at Banana Café - 8th Street SE (near Eastern Market)

2010-01-26T14:36:00.004-05:00

Saturday after literally laying in bed all day, I finally got a phone call from an acquaintance of mine requesting my presence for drinks and food. Who am I to turn down some quality time at a bar LOL !

I arrived to Banana café on the corner of 8th and E street SOLO at first. The yellow building is a bit off putting at first..but again..what do you expect from a place called BANANA CAFÉ. Lol ITS YELLOW, you know LIKE BANANAS

The inside is very Latin America. Soo inviting I wanted felt like I was in South America somewhere staying in a villa.

I wait a little while for my boy before deciding to find out what the specials were. I was amazed. Happy Hour EVERYDAY from 4 - 7:30 *thud* ..see I fainted again. :)

The drink specials include $3 dollar margaritas and rail. Various reasonable appetizers and entrees and much more. Buuuuut you can only get the happy hour specials upstairs at the Piano Bar. Which is much more Bohemian in it's feel.

The service was good there, quick because it wasn’t' crowded, but then again, it isn't "bar" season yet so I can't imagine how its going to be when I go. We got out food quick, chicken quesadillas. MMM GOOD!

Downside, one bathroom upstairs...Ugh....I had to share it with someone..and uh..they didn't like that too much. ...soo....we were politely asked to end our night at Banana Café. It was probably for the best though, cause one more Cadillac Margarita and I woulda been dancing topless on the piano :-/

Recap - Recess Lounge - Elite DC Mag's BEST OF DMV AWARDS

2010-01-26T14:22:00.002-05:00

Following some of my favorite twitter folk (shout to @CandiceNicolePR for putting me on to this event) , I found out that ELITE DC MAGAZINE was having a special ceremony highlighting and awarding individuals who help make the DC Social and entertainment scene even more appetizing.

The event was held at Recess Lounge, 727 15th Street, NW starting at 7pm. Perfect time to get off your day jobs (if you still require them) head home, change into something more comfortable and sexy and make your way.

I had little trouble finding the spot. I can appreciate the VIP vibe Recess Lounge's entry has. No flashy awnings, no huge sign. Just some steps leading to a very posh, dimly lit, super cozy lounge.

The bar is to your immediate right. All the seating feels like VIP. The DJ booth, located directly across from the bar. Big open space in the middle to party and mingle. Easy going place. Great for something intimate yet accommodating .

The ceremony started after we were warmed up by the DJ. The list of presenters and winners varied from Radio and TV personalities, Dj's, Local Artists and more.

The highlight of the evening was the 2 very good performances of original music by DeAngelo Redman and Phil Ade.

I left the night feeling really good about my experience with Recess as well as very proud, yet again, to be a DC resident !!!!!

* Shout out tomy girl @WHWRocks ..she looked STUNNING *

NOT YOUR TYPICAL BLACK HAIR BLOG POST..NO ITS REALLY NOT !!!

2010-01-25T17:19:00.003-05:00

If you want a popular blog..talk about Black women and their hair and lack of being married

Oh yes, twitter did it again. It inspired me to write another post. Surprised? Nah, not if you “know” me by now.

Today, @singleblackmale got Black women started again by talking about the way we wear out hair, specifically …WEAVES!!

First thing that came to mind was “Was his ratings and readership down? I know he can’t POSSIBLY be talking about weaves AGAIN. I KNOW we aren’t going to feed into it this time”. But I was WRONG WRONG WRONG! , His post WORKED. I’ll admit I was amped to read it at first. I thought maybe it would be a sarcastic piece. Nope. It was just another post about what a single black male requires from a woman in order to tie her down. Yet another roadblock to reaching what is perceived as a Black women’s one and only reason for living – FINDING A MAN TO MARRY HER.
No, I’m not “hating” on @singleblackmale’s blog or any other Black male relationship based blog. In fact I am a fan of them. But, like Tyler Perry movies, they can be redundant at times and you ladies fall hook, line and sinker EVERY SINGLE TIME. Why are you desperately DEFENDING the way you wear your hair because ONE MAN doesn’t like it. I wish I hadn’t even entertained that post. There certainly shouldn’t have been all the responses it got.

Another thing I hate about “hair” posts is it pits Black women against each other. We already have to compete for the little bit of straight, single black men left. We don’t need to add as another means to divide and conquer us as a group. It saddened me to see other sisters feeling holier than thou because they had real hair on their head. I guess they felt they had a leg up because their hair grew from their scalp. And the men just sit back and laugh because here we are again, competing, whether directly or indirectly for a man’s affection. This time we are using OUR HAIR to do it *sigh and frown *

My thing is this, all you beautiful weave wearers, have you EVER had a problem getting a man because of your weave?. *pause * . The answer is NO. DO YOU. Sure Black women wear weaves because that is considered the standard of beauty in our society, but hell, who am I to fault you for that. This standard has been imposed on us for years, and quite frankly, I like it myself along with taking it back to our roots. Its all about preference. All of us are beautiful and different so who cares if ONE or TWO men don’t’ like your hair. Remember there are, for lack of a better term, MORE FISH IN THE SEA. Why get so up in arms about ONE man not liking weaves? YOU LIKE IT That’s all that matters.

What is the correlation between a Black Woman’s hair and Relationships? Black men know that we Black women are competing for their affection, and they use this fact, it seems, to gain more control over us and to keep us fighting each other and doing damn near ANYTHING, including downing other Black women, to get them..

Black Men, here is a clue: Your constant, redundant, don’t know what you talking about, fake azz expert opinion on what makes a Black woman marriage material is not doing us ANY GOOD. Let’s work on solutions and stop nitpicking about things that are irrelevant like HAIR!

* I do realize that I am not better..making a hair post myself...BAH I HATE IT!!!*

A Post to Love – Strip Clubs in the DC Area

2010-01-22T15:52:00.005-05:00

(dedicated and inspired by @DBinDC and @listentoleon)

True2me loves everyone of all occupations. Long as someone is happy with your services, who am I to “hate” on what you do. In fact, I’ll support you in your career. One of my favorite ways to support those passionate about their work is to go to a strip club and make it drip (let’s face it..I aint making it rain unless its some other ballers money) on some of those in the exotic entertainment industry.
Usually it’s my suggestion to go to one when I’m with the fellas (I have a tendency to be one of the guys). I have been to a few area strip clubs. Of course I’m going to list them and review the ones I have been to as well. They are in no particular order.

THE HOUSE – By far my favorite strip joint in the area. Its on Georgia Avenue in a seedy neighborhood. Formerly the Penthouse, it is the place to go to see thick, disproportioned boobies and arse on Black women w NO WAIST. Its HUGE in the inside. Not very clean. They make you buy a drink before you even sit down. They have 2 levels and like 2 stages. One huge one in the middle where the strippers use blankets and mean mug while jiggling their body parts. These strippers do NOT SMILE. But who cares if they have a face ..okay some of you do… There is no lap dances here and no touching LOL @ my best friend’s husband nearly getting us jacked up and thrown out after smacking the booty of one stripper. (They are allowed in New Jersey)

SKYLARK – Located on New York Avenue not too far from the Bladensburg intersection, you would think that a club this close to a touristy area would be nice right? WRONG? It used to be a Roy Rogers. The green building looks more like a shack that crack heads break into to smoke than a club that has nekkid women shaking around. My one experience there was terrible. The woman that came out had a gut bigger than her butt and was not cute. It was pretty dead in there too. I think its mostly black women there…but I hurried out so fast I can’t remember.

GOOD GUYS – This club is located up past Georgetown on Wisconsin Avenue. From my drunken memories, it was nicely kept, the girls were decent as was the service.

CAMELOT – Dupont Circle area. If you like very beautiful boughie smiling strippers…GO TO CAMELOT. Most are not Black women, but who cares..they all look the same in the light lol. Very nice on the outside and on the inside. Girls are just DIVINE. Mostly very pretty, very friendly, nice, I mean REALLY NICE bodies. Service is impeccable. I LOVE CAMELOT. (I wanna go NOW)

ARCHIBALDS – Located on top of Fast Eddies near 15th and K, this club is just about as nice as Camelot. The girls are about the same looking. The service is good. Yup..this is another nice one

MILE HIGH – Located in Clinton, Maryland, the mile high is a big place, pretty nice. The girls are decent. There was this one girl there who had all fake body parts but she was still nice to look at and smelled really good. It’s a decent size bar area and ample space to stretch out.

JP’s – Across from Good Guys on Wisconsin and equally as nice. But if I can recall, we left there to go to Good Guys * shrugs *. Again I was INEBRIATED : )

ROYAL PALACE – I just went there recently and blogged about it. It was nicely set on the corner. Big yellow sign. If you like either Asian women or old white women, do not hesitate to go enjoy yourself at the Royal Palace. Because it was empty, the customer service was great. Again, we didn’t stay long. Read here to find out why.

BASS AND CRUE (sp) – Located in Forestville, Maryland, I believe this one requires a membership. Hell, it’s probably supposed to be a secret. Its basically one big room ..real small in the inside. Ghetto fabulous chicks walking around scantily clad waiting on tips. NO BAR inside there. Basically a bootleg strip club, but it has its uses. I said I would review all the clubs I have ventured inside of (that I can remember) and this is one of them. * sigh*

DANCERS – Dancers is what my cousin told me it was called. Its also located in Clinton around where Hideaway is. Sorry I can’t provide an exact address. You can Google it if you like. From what I recall here, there was a really decent looking girl or two there. They do give lap dances and its fairly nice in the inside. ( I mean, what else you expect from a strip club)

IRVINGS – a really seedy joint off Addison road. I didn’t venture inside, but according to my source, it’s mad “bitches” in there lol. The parking lot is always packed..so I guess its pretty popular.

Okay so, with this post being done, I guess you can say I have ventured to quite a few female oriented strip clubs. Sorry Gay guys, I haven’t YET been to a male strip club. But when I do, you can be sure I’ll “support” those in that occupation too.

I don’t discriminate. * shrugs* and uhh..yall on your own for finding the addresses..I can't do ALL The work..shoot yall don't pay me (yet)

Dudes and Dudettes, please PLEASE provide your experience w the strip club in the DC area and name some I have missed.

*I REFUSE to mention my sighting of our former and most popular Mayor at a strip club that I chose NOT to put on this list*

GUEST BLOGGER!!! - Name that Stripper...

2010-01-21T13:12:00.000-05:00

My lazy tail hollered out on twitter for a guest poster..and I got a response from one of my favorite people to follow @DBinDC ...FOLLOW HER NOW!!!

Hello out there in the blogersphere! It’s DBinDC, filling in for True today, and boy do I have a story for you guys. I should probably preface this by saying I’m a self-proclaimed WHORE for Busboys and Poets. And when I say whore I mean that in the nicest most non-selling ass on the corner way possible. I frequent the 5th and K location (stop by and say hi!) and often times me and the boyfriend will have one too many Bourbon Sidecars, which inevitably leads to a trip to the strip club across the way.. The Rogue.

Now before ya’ll even get started on the strip club thing.. let me tell you. Go with your man from time to time.. TRUST, it’s a good thing *wink*. Seeing a lil ass and titty wigglin is only going to benefit you in the long run, and it’s all in slightly kinky fun (which is also a good thing). But I digress, so we’re headed over to the strip club once again with his best friend in tow (besties wife turned her nose up at the ass shakin experience and went home.. her loss…dry ass).

Immediately upon making the trek up the stairs and getting the requisite pat down by 300+ pounds of security I hear someone calling me by my government name. I pause a moment cause…. really.. who’s going to know me.. here? As I turn to try to figure it out I see a perky set of sparkly nipples bouncing their way to me, which quickly turns into an all out hug.

“Girl!!! OhhMmmGeeee… I haven’t seen you in so long. Wow! Sit down sit down, can I get you guys a drink?!?”

I hug her back and go through the motions because let’s be honest.. to not do so would just be rude! We take our seats but I’m still confused. I cannot for the life of me figure out how I know this woman (stripper). My boyfriend and his best friend are looking at me like I’m a fucking rock star.

“Yo.. really? Your girl knows the strippers?!?!? Really!?! Can we get a private show??”

Problem? I..uhh.. don’t remember who the hell this chick is! She clearly remembers me, and if the heavy handedness of my Jack and Diets was any indication, she and I were pretty damn cool. I’m racking my already booze soaked brain to recall who she is, but seeing her charge at me titties first has me all discombobulated.
They guys, caring (pffft) helpful (notsomuch) fellows that they are, attempt to help me figure it out..

“Sooo…where do you know DBinDC from”

“We used to work together”

Since I’ve had well over 6 jobs in the past 10 years that narrows it down for me…. not at all.

They try again..

“So what’s your name?”

“Ambrosia”

Yeah, yeah guys.. like she’s realllly going to give you’re her real name.. *eye roll* (I swear it’s a good thing he’s cute and the proud owner of a my favorite peen.. or else..)

I review the facts, which are few.. and try to avoid making a lot of eye contact while my apparent long lost friend is bent over on all fours on stage literally pounding the shit out of her ass for dolla dolla billz ya’ll (I gotta give her an A for showmanship).. when it hits me! I’ve finally figured out who she is and how I know her! Guess all it took was a good gander at her asshole (I kid). In my defense, I wasn’t used to seeing her parade around in a g-string and not much else.

Needless to say we tipped her well, continued to get nice and liquored up, and had ourselves a rip roarin’ good time at the club. We all had a hell of a story to tell the next day. And, as per bf’s best buddy, I’m officially the best girlfriend eva cause I got the stripper hook up (holla if ya hear me!!). We’re going back next weekend *double wink*

Damn I love this city.

New Word Burial - HATER

2010-01-20T12:06:00.001-05:00

I'm on twitter a lot twitter.com/true2me1, so I see a lot of different tweets. Some political, most hilarious, some dumb and ignorant, lots of promo..but tweets I hate in particular, tweets I really think that grinds my gears ....are "MY HATERS" tweets
The word "hater" according to Urbandictionary.com means : A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.

Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesnt really want to be the person he or she hates, rather the hater wants to knock somelse down a notch.

Susan: You know, Kevin from accounting is doing very well. He just bought a house in a very nice part of town.

Jane (hater): If he is doing so well why does he drive that '89 Taurus?

Of course this sounds ALL TOO FAMILIAR. Yes there are legitimate “haters” ….but mostly ..the people allegedly hating are right about you..
Throughout twitter (and elsewhere) if someone doesn’t like you, they hating, if someone doesn’t like your outfit, they hating, if someone thinks you aren’t talented in a certain area, they are HATING. UGH..
Most of the time..you really DO SUCK at whatever it is they are “hating” on.
You can’t sing, your rapping is subpar, you don’t look all that cute, you aren’t the best rapper alive, Beyonce’s single ladies video really wasn’t all that
NO ONE IS HATING ON YOU!!!!
I think people that excessively use the word hater desperately NEED haters for validation, cause they truly know they aint really got shyt going on in their life. They know that they only way they can appear successful or about something is if someone is envying them or hating on them.
Some of you do indeed have “haters” ..but why do you have to always point it out or bring it up. Boasting about how many haters you have is a turn off. Why give your “haters” any attention AT ALL. Why even acknowledge you have them. Successful people don’t have to BRAG about having haters, if they truly are successful, everyone already knows that people are going to “hate” on them.

Constantly boasting about how people are either hating on you or envying you means you can’t accept criticism, don’t like people disagreeing with you, and that you don’t have a humble bone in your body..PERIOD. Guess what..YOU ARE NOT ALL THAT…people aren’t hating..they genuinely don’t like your ass and they have a GOOD REASON.
I for one don’t want nor need haters. I want people to be happy for me and proud of me. If they aren’t, well that’s on them. I won’t give them any more energy for bullspit..and neither should any of you. .
Let us bury the word hater permanently in 2009 and let it go. If people don’t like you or what you are doing, guess what..THEY DON’T HAVE TO..and that is NOT HATE

And NO I’m not “hating” on anyone by writing this either *rolls eyes *

Town Tavern in Adams Morgan

2010-01-20T10:55:00.003-05:00

Hello All

So a good friend of mine invited me out to have drinks and share in hilarity with him and his peeps. I got off work and made my trek from Dupont circle to the beloved ADAMS MORGAN.

Town Tavern is in the heart of Adams Morgan. The bar goes right along with the other bars in the area. Old hardwood floors and tables, brick walls yadda yadda yadda. Music is old school/80's pop music..UGH..its fun at first but then gets annoying

The drink specials that day were 3 dollar beers and rails. The menu has your basic bar food fare. My friend’s man ordered some wings and fries..and THAT IS WHEN I FELL IN LOVE. The fries are like edible CRACK. Seasoned with old bay and not fried too hard. ….I nearly ate the first AND second basket all by myself. The wings were okay…average at best…but the FRIES!!!

I had a weak cranberry and vodka at first then second..then after some pouting and complaining they got me a coke long island ice tea…then another. The drinks were just very weak there…sorry. I blame the weak drinks for me losing to 4 rounds of UNO!

The special of the night tho was $1 pitchers of beer. My mans and nem had like 10 lol..(okay maybe not THAT many, then again..maybe they did)

After getting “fired up” as my grandmother likes to say, we left there in search of some skrippas. We ended up first at the Royal Palace. There was no cover there so we walk in and the first thing I notice was that it was empty …an empty skrip club. We soon found out why. The first girl was anorexic, the second LADY was OLD, FLAT SAGGY BUTT, OLE WOMAN TIDDIES…UGH..I have never seen a man turn away from a nekkid woman SO FAST. I DIED LAUGHING. I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS SKRIP CLUB PERIOD!!!

We left IMMEDIATELY. Ended up at good ole faithful CAMELOT. Our night ended there.

Shout out to Mu Mag Entertainment for putting up with me last night ….LOVE YOU GUYS …

HAITI SURVIVAL KIT DRIVE

2010-01-15T16:18:00.005-05:00

*sent to me by Lisa Stewart*

HAITI SURVIVAL KIT DRIVE

There is so much devastation and suffering caused by Tuesday's earthquake in Haiti. Over 3 million people impacted. The death toll is still unknown but estimated to be thousands. All this in the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere.

Help is desperately needed.

***SURVIVAL KIT DRIVE***

NOAH (Nat'l Organization for the Advancement of Haitians) is gearing up to head to Haiti. Below is a list of much needed items to take to Haiti.

A Survival Kit Drive will run THIS Sunday, January 17, 2010 from 11am - 4pm at the Embassy of the Republic of Haiti in WDC located at 2311 Massachusetts Avenue NW WDC 20008.

*In appreciation of your assistance light refreshments will be available.

ITEMS BEING COLLECTED:

Baby formula (dry/powder)

Baby wipes

Baby bottles

Diapers

Baby clothes

Toiletries (shampoo, soap, toothpaste)

Hand sanitizer

Vitamins

First aid kits

Over the counter medicines

Socks

Blankets

Mosquito repellent

Flashlights

Batteries

Candles

Flip flops

T-shirts, pants, lightweight jackets

Non perishable food that is not canned (seal-paks of tuna or sardines, for example)

There are dozens more items; this is just a starter list. Think flat, lightweight, easily packable.

For questions or concerns, please contact Lester C. Facey, Program Analyst with the

U. S. Environmental Protection Agency at (718.755.0119) or facey.lester@epa.gov.

Remember, L'union fait la force!

RIP TEDDY PENDERGRASS

2010-01-14T11:31:00.001-05:00

RIP to musical Icon Teddy P, who will always be known for forcefully telling women to turn off those lights (Turn off the lights) and being the first to tell us how love Knocks you out before Keri Hilson thought about it(Love TKO). Another musical great has left this earth leaving behind the legacy of his music. He will be missed but never forgotten.

True

Tonight I'll be guest appearing on Mindstreat Radio - Topic: Dark Skin Vs. Light Skin?

2010-01-13T17:21:00.000-05:00

Tune in to http://mindstream-world.ning.com/ or http://rocktheflow.com/ from 8pm to 10pm.

Dark Vs. Light. Are we still color struck even in 2010?

Sending Positive Energy to Those in Haiti and Those Who Have Loved Ones in Haiti

2010-01-13T11:23:00.004-05:00

Life is precious. Remember we aren't promised the next day. Live your life to the fullest and enjoy it while you can. Remember to stay strong even in tragedy and strife. Life will and can get better at some point. My heart goes out to all those that are from Haiti and have loved ones in Haiti.

Peace

True

Things I hate about Washington DC

2010-01-12T11:16:00.001-05:00

Now I love DC. I was born and raised here in SE and some part in NW(no not in the DMV..in actual WASHINGTON, DC). and I mostly everything about this city. Its beautiful landscaping. The abundance of jobs here. The great places to live, visit and hang out. There is ALWAYS something to do. Of course I love it even more cause our first Black president (and my favorite) lives here. But of course, there are some things I DESPISE about Washington, DC. UGH

1. RATS – UGH..I mean the rats are bigger than the squirrels and even more intimidating. Picture a nice sunny day at Dupont circle. You decide to take a stroll in the park and feel something furry running across your feet. You shriek and look up and like “Darn squirrels” but no..its no squirrel..ITS A LARGE DIRTY GRAY AZZ RAT ..UGH.

2. Dallas Fans – WHERE IN THEE HELL DID YOU MOFO’s COME FROM. If anyone has any history on the origin of the Native DC Dallas Fan…PLEASE HELP ME LEARN HOW THEY GOT THAT WAY. Were they brainwashed? Are they alien robots here to piss REAL native DC folk off? Do they need extensive therapy? How can you possibly be a fan of the ultimate rival of our Nation’s Capital Team? Damn Bandwagoners

3. How often our teams lose – Speaking of teams..WTF….WHYYYYEEEE can’t we win spit. The only Washington sports team that seems to be doing well is the Washington Capitals (which has a huge following by the way..thanks Capitals fans for making my commute home JACKED UP). Can we get some assistance with basketball and football. Coach after coach, we still LOSE. Even the great Michael Jordan came to assist and it was a FAIL. AAAAAAAAAAAH

4. Metro – now ..I know we have one of the cleanest in the nation..but damn its slow, and doesn’t go very far. Not only that..but its OVERCROWDED and kills people.

5. TRAFFIC - I think we are number 3 in the nation for worst traffic cities. We have terrible traffic. Mostly due to everyone living and working in the same damn places. Its like a mass exodus every morning and evening and I HATE IT. Rubbernecking is also an issue and the fact that people here just plain CAN’T EFFING DRIVE !!! Don’t EVER take Dupont circle or ANY OTHER CIRCLE home driving..I literally sat in those circles for 30 – 45 minutes before…NO LIE.

*just added*

6. Stupid 5 cent bag tax..NUFF SAID..WTF

What do you HATE about DC? Yes..even you out of towners can comment..but NY God Complexers ..please miss me with that lol (I keed..you can complain too...which I know you will)